girls POV...closing the deal

[GoldenDelicious]

ok fuckit, ill be honest here. i have huge trouble closing the deal on hookups.

i dress well, come across as confident, can approach women in high pressure situations (well, as high as it gets with this sort of thing..you know, hot chick sitting alone at a bar with 20 guys on the verge of going over (and she knows it and has her defenses on defcon 3), or even worse, a nice looking girl in a group

BUT after striking up convo with women who are CLEARLY interested, i have a little trouble in finishing the deal...getting them out of the club and getting it on

dont get me wrong, im not useless, but most of the time its the girl who does the suggesting (i love that ) but id really, really like to hear from the girls on what sort of line/move made by a guy actually worked to close the deal...just last night i lost out on a tall leggy blonde...but she had a horde of admirers anyway and it was always going to be tough..

guys can jump in too, but im hoping to hear from the women a little more on this one

 

[Paulo]

I don't mean to make this a sausagefest (however inevitable), being you want opinions from women, but I have quite the similar problem. If I am in a relationship, I don't have trouble intitiating. But, 'closing the deal' with a girl I just met is hard. Let me rephrase that: I don't actually remember a time where I have.

Seriously, I just don't have what it takes (whatever that may be) to initiate. Although, it does has positive sides, being that there is little confusion as to her feelings on the subject, when they intiate lol.

But, I can honestly say I aint playing no games or anything, I am just a pussy when it comes to that. Although, they sometimes think I am trying to be distant and evasive, I am just very shy.

This is something I will need to overcome, not just to help my dating or pick-up skills, because I know it will help me acheive more success in life as well.

 

[casualbb]

I'm not too great at cold approaches (props to you golden), but I'm good at closing with girls I'm already on speaking terms with.

If you feel like it's going well, suggest a minor venue change, such as, "Hey, let's go sit down." Boom, she's isolated. Then I suggest using sexual state projection. It's hard to explain, but just act like you're horny. Use the bedroom voice, intense eye contact, get close to her, innocent touching. Eventually you can just sort of start making out with her. You'll know when she's ready; just sort of stop talking and start looking at her lips and she'll get it. An alternative (credit: player's guide) is to just stop and ask, "Would you like to kiss me?" If the answer is anything other than "no," say "let's find out!" and go for it.

Don't makeout forever though, you don't want to be that "club makeout guy" that her girlfriends will embarass her about later. After you've made out for a few minutes, stop and suggest further isolation. Hopefully she'll be in a sexual state and will want more.

 

[Gymgurl]

You guys really go through all this??? If you an get her isolated....ask her if she would like to go somwhere else so you two can talk and get to know each other...or tell her you would like to take her out the next day and go from there. I find that guys that are themselves are so much easier to say yes to...

 

[velvett]

I don't know if this help you - but giving off the "I'd like to get in your panties now" vibe is a turn off. Giving off the "I want to know all about you - because you just do it for me" vibe is a great turn on.

There's always the very causal "wanna do lunch/dinner tomorrow/friday line" that leaves it open for a response.

 

[JMazz12]

ive felt that confidence always helps a lot, dont overlook it...

 

[Paulo]

You guys really go through all this??? If you an get her isolated....ask her if she would like to go somwhere else so you two can talk and get to know each other...or tell her you would like to take her out the next day and go from there. I find that guys that are themselves are so much easier to say yes to...

No, I don't go through all that. Too much thinking. I would rather spend my energy making her smile and laugh.

and yes, I am myself. No front, no act. just me.

If she likes me for me, then that is the best.

 

[casualbb]

This is the main reason why I don't like discussing the game with girls around. They always say, "You really do this stuff? That's not genuine!"

Well no shit.

It's also not genuine when I spray on cologne, put on nice clothes, and goop some gel in my hair. I'd rather be browsing elite in my boxers. But then I wouldn't get laid.

We already do ridiculous things to make ourselves more attractive to the opposite sex. We even go so far as to alter our behavior. Ladies, the man you meet in the club is not the same man when he's home, even if he doens't know any seduction theory. If that's the case, then why not GO FOR BROKE and learn exactly what works and why?

 

[GoldenDelicious]

lol thank goodness we got some girls in here, i was just about to order a six pack of hotdog buns and some mustard

ok, let me restate the question at hand, ladies: think back to the dawn of time when you were hot, young and fresh () and recall a hookup with a guy...what did he actually DO? what did he actually SAY? what was his bodylanguage saying? where did he take you? was it quiet/noisy? describe the situation, and let us dummies try to tailor our game around it.. this isnt about being assholes and scoring endless women..its about how to make things actually FLOW properly

i dont walk around with my dick leading the way and i make people comfortable, im confident, chatty, witty (i hope lol) etc. my drama is that i *know* they are interested, sometimes just for straight sex, but right at the finish line, something trips it up and we both go home frustrated. im not about to start snogging in a bar (i have, but im not a fan of doing so....maybe i should...dunno, help me out here)

i mean, i sometimes get numbers, go out on a date, its interesting, theyre into it, but bang! same thing happens! finish line stumble! it gives me the shits.

 

[biggest_man_in_the_world]

This is the main reason why I don't like discussing the game with girls around. They always say, "You really do this stuff? That's not genuine!"

Well no shit.

It's also not genuine when I spray on cologne, put on nice clothes, and goop some gel in my hair. I'd rather be browsing elite in my boxers. But then I wouldn't get laid.

We already do ridiculous things to make ourselves more attractive to the opposite sex. We even go so far as to alter our behavior. Ladies, the man you meet in the club is not the same man when he's home, even if he doens't know any seduction theory. If that's the case, then why not GO FOR BROKE and learn exactly what works and why?

*Handclap*