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[blueta2]

Yes PTSD diagnosed in 2010. I never over thought anything years ago, but now, I do!

I'm actually starting a Mindful Meditation course next week with an awesome teacher who was (is) a psychologist for 30 yrs. I take the course, then get certified to teach it to my clients.
This form of meditation will help me not over think and listen more to my gut. My mind drowns out my instinct some days.

 

[just...v]

I don't really agree with you ladies. Overthinking can keep you closed off and you can miss out on the good things. Not to say you shouldn't proceed with some caution, but too much is nothing but fear.

I talked to Blue Shirt first, then we had some phone convos that went well. We had a great first date filled with some inappropriate behavior. (what can I say...I have never been kissed like that). I made no apologies and didn't worry he was thinking I was easy. I just went with my gut and did what I wanted with no apologies.

It's been 7 months now and I got a guy that makes me breakfast, washes my clothes, takes care of me when I'm sick, he even opens doors for me every time we go somewhere. I'm pretty happy


So to hell with over thinking.

 

[cindylou]

I don't really agree with you ladies. Overthinking can keep you closed off and you can miss out on the good things. Not to say you shouldn't proceed with some caution, but too much is nothing but fear.

I talked to Blue Shirt first, then we had some phone convos that went well. We had a great first date filled with some inappropriate behavior. (what can I say...I have never been kissed like that). I made no apologies and didn't worry he was thinking I was easy. I just went with my gut and did what I wanted with no apologies.

It's been 7 months now and I got a guy that makes me breakfast, washes my clothes, takes care of me when I'm sick, he even opens doors for me every time we go somewhere. I'm pretty happy


So to hell with over thinking.

No, you're right and blue is trying to do the same. I don't really know how to be any different though. It would take a lot of work for me to get out of my head and feel my way through life instead of thinking through it, probably why I fight tooth and nail to justify staying in my head like that. Lol.

 

[just...v]

No, you're right and blue is trying to do the same. I don't really know how to be any different though. It would take a lot of work for me to get out of my head and feel my way through life instead of thinking through it, probably why I fight tooth and nail to justify staying in my head like that. Lol.

It's not easy, I know. It took some nerve for me to walk up to my Tshirt guy. I just went with the flow and didn't have any expectations. That way I wouldn't be disappointed...and I wasn't.

 

[just...v]

And I think Blue made the right decision about the FB guy. I'm not saying not to pay attention to the red flags. They are there for a reason. I had a series of unfortunate first dates before I settled on Mr. Blue Shirt.

 

[redsamurai]

And I think Blue made the right decision about the FB guy. I'm not saying not to pay attention to the red flags. They are there for a reason. I had a series of unfortunate first dates before I settled on Mr. Blue Shirt.

You have him washing your clothes?

 

[caligirl85]

My overthinking generally comes when I'm not listening to my gut and trying to rationalize what usually turns out to be a bad decision. Not always but often.

 

[blueta2]

Bingo Cali....same here!

 

[WoodyO]

I never think. Ever.

 

[zwhit]

Thinking takes too much time away from lifting, tanning, and banging chicks