Do I fall for a girl too easily?

[brianharper94]

I don't normally look at this board, much less post on it, I guess you could say that I'm just here for the Anabolics board and that's about it. So to everyone on this board, "Hi, my name is 'Brian.'"My head is a little messed up right now, but I 've been doing some thinking. You see, my girlfriend just dumped me, just like everyone of them before her did. It's like I can go out with a girl a few times and just get totally attached to her, even before sleeping with her. It's like I want to spend the rest of my life with whatever girl I'm seeing, and don't really care to bother with any other women. All I read on these boards is guys talking about how many girls they're nailing, have nailed, or want to nail. When I was with my now ex-girlfriend, I went out drinking with a couple of friends and this really hot girl came up and was all over me, and I was just like, "I'm sorry, I'm really involved with a great girl right now." I guess I'm just some kind of loser or something. It really bothers me. This weekend I'm going out with this girl that I've known for six or seven months. I totally dig her already, but I'm afraid to show it because I'm afraid it might scare her off. How about some advice or something. I just needed to get all off this out of my head.

bh

 

[HamHock]

Women do not want men that do not present a challenge. If you act whipped, the challenge is over and she's going to start looking elsewhere.

You're probably a really nice guy and more deserving of their affection, but most chicks wind up sleeping with dickheads like me until their self-esteem and confidence is shot, and then they eventually settle down with some poor schmuck who has to listen to all the fucked up stories and things meatheads like me put them through while they were single. Do not attempt to use logic to explain the behavior of women.

 

[Honeynut]

You sound like a really great guy. PLEASE, it's going to be hard until you find the right one, but be yourself and to hell with them. yOU WILL find someone who appreciates you. Don't screw up future relationships by closing yourself off, holding people at arms length to present a challenge. Just so long as you know yo're worth your weight in gold, you won't take getting walked on. That's challenge enough for a good girl.

 

[Mandinka]

I'll agree with the great enemy of the foreskin above (Hamhock) and say that you are just bein far too easy. You'll continually get fucked over until you demand women's respect. I don't normally recommend either sex to be bastards and think fidelity is great , but you need to get a little bit closer to the "dark side". Flirt a little with other women , they use jealousy all the time - you should too.

 

[tripleV]

Women do not want men that do not present a challenge. If you act whipped, the challenge is over and she's going to start looking elsewhere.

You're probably a really nice guy and more deserving of their affection, but most chicks wind up sleeping with dickheads like me until their self-esteem and confidence is shot, and then they eventually settle down with some poor schmuck who has to listen to all the fucked up stories and things meatheads like me put them through while they were single. Do not attempt to use logic to explain the behavior of women.

you got something there smarty pants!!!

 

[karde]

I am a nice guy, yet firm. I don't put up with girls bullshit, but I do compromise when I think it's fair. I have had some pretty good luck being this way, and it is natural for me. The trick is to find a balance, be nice, but not a push over. Nobody will respect you if you are a pushover.

 

[HamHock]

Mandinka brought up a good point, if you are uncircumsized, you will find it difficult to keep a women for any length of time unless you live in the Domincan Republic, Uganda, Indonesia, or similar country.

 

[brianharper94]

So I should treat women like shit? Or I should just be myself? Honestly, I can't be mean to someone that I care about. Whether it messes things up or not, I just can't do it. My problem is that the girl I'm going out with this weekend is my FRIEND. I really care about her. Hell, I've already fallen for her and we haven't even gone out yet. She's always been really good to me, it really brightens up my day whenever I see her. Is it such a bad thing to like somebody, maybe even have a crush on them. The bad thing is that since I'll be going out with my friend that I run and talk to when I'm having relationship troubles, who am I going to talk to if we get into a relationship? She's an amazing girl, I would say that she's perfect, there's no way that she's not going to know that I'm totally into her.

bh

 

[Mandinka]

Brian

Deep breaths man! ,
take it easy , you are becoming too dependent on one woman , try and cultivate multiple female friends. I'll make a suggestion - buy a copy of "Magnolia" and forward it to Tom Cruise's speech about "Men are shit" everytime you feel like falling for someone. It took me a long time to realise that no matter what women do to men , they will always get sympathy from their women friends and then at the same time they will say that men are such dogs. I've never cheated on a woman , but I did not hide the fact that other women were interested in me and hey presto - respect.
Hamhock has got an obsession with his cock and his mother - I recommend you stay away from both.

 

[Honeynut]

Brian, I'm taking you seriously here. As a girl, I can tell you that if she's been helping you through your relationship troubles it's possible she even has a crush on you. Stranger things have happened. All I can advise you is take it slow, because she won't want to feel like a rebound.