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Fuck man, I feel your pain....I've been there...the only difference is, mine cheated and it was just a night and she didn't want to go to counselling. I did. I can see where you're coming from, but an affair for 4 years is crazy! There are so many things that have happened in that time frame..so many things you are going to be like.."oh Ya, so that's where she was that night when she couldn't go for dinner with me."
I swear to god right now if I found out my girl cheated on me or had an affair, she would be out the door. No questions asked. Good luck man, I'm always here if you want to talk. Scary shit man, mine could be having an affair and I wouldn't even know.