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I do agree with that. I had to wrestle with a lot of this stuff before.
Also, no one in my family had ever been divorced and a cheating husband was something a woman is sometimes told to tolerate, or wait around for etc etc.
I did hear from my psych that it was normal.
First time I visited my psych she asked about any weird behavior from family members. Any mental illnesses, any black sheep of teh family etc. I told her, "Well, my sister cheated" because I was a noob and as far as I knew cheating was something people did when they were really fucked up! She laughed and told me (I didn't have enough life experience at the time): "cheating is normal. It happens to a lot of people who don't have the skills to stay married a lifetime. It's not something a relationship can't handle if you have the skills to deal with it."
I do believe that's true. Its just that without help, a lot of us either need help trusting, forgiving, dealing with meeting our own needs, or expressing our needs etc. A million reasons someone could turn outside of a relationship and not be a bad person. It's a very adult way to view the world, but as we grow older we realize that the world isn't as black and white as we think when we are kids.
He's no longer there but she said in one of our sessions she would have quit on the spot after this came out. You are right no way I would have been cool with that.
LOL Wtf?
Your shrink told you that quote, that cheating is normal? I would have sought a new one. Cheating isn't normal, not if you truly love someone and not when you commit to one another in marriage. That's a shitty shrink.
