Couples Counseling

[miplank]

Yeah, common is the word I'm looking for. That is what I meant. She basically told me that it's common and that it happens in over half of marriages and a lot of marriages survive it and come out the other end stronger. Asked me what kind of person I was going to be, someone that let something common destroy me or something that I could handle. People let each other down. That is unfortunately, common.

It's not that common. She should pick up a book.

Taken together, in any given year, it looks like the actual likelihood of your relationship suffering from cheating is low — probably less than a 6 percent chance.

But over the course of your entire relationship, the chances of infidelity may rise to as much as 25 percent. Twenty-five percent — over the course of an entire relationship — is a far cry from the 50 percent number we hear from many so-called professionals and services trying to sell you something.

How Common is Cheating & Infidelity Really? | World of Psychology

 

[nangiggles]

The only reason you haven't left him is because you haven't found anyone else yet.



That's what women do.

I dont need another man to leave my husband, that is the most foolish mistake women make, jump from one relationship to another.

Ya no kidding, especially people that don't have kids. Fucking leave. Why waste your life. Jesus Christ, you live once.

Kids are not the only thing that bond you to a person, we've built a life together, he came to the US with me, he helped me through college, we have a house, merged financial assets, etc. Above all I wish I could be happy with the way things are between us, I really do, but I'm not, and I cant justify to myself leaving. Not yet, but I am feeling a bit more empowered and I'm begining to think it's time, I had never legitimately made plans to leave him or had a real desire to leave him, but I do now. I'm not saying I'll do it this week but I'm begining to realize that this isn't the way life is supposed to be.

 

[PICK3]

I dont need another man to leave my husband, that is the most foolish mistake women make, jump from one relationship to another.



Kids are not the only thing that bond you to a person, we've built a life together, he came to the US with me, he helped me through college, we have a house, merged financial assets, etc. Above all I wish I could be happy with the way things are between us, I really do, but I'm not, and I cant justify to myself leaving. Not yet, but I am feeling a bit more empowered and I'm begining to think it's time, I had never legitimately made plans to leave him or had a real desire to leave him, but I do now. I'm not saying I'll do it this week but I'm begining to realize that this isn't the way life is supposed to be.

you're knot leaving dick

 

[miplank]

Well you still don't cheat on the fuckin guy. I don't care if he is a faggot douche.

 

[cindylou]

She never cared if FT found out or even left.


Now her fling is gone so she's hanging on to the only thing she's got left right now.

Why are you doing this?

The question he asked himself after he found out is "Do I want her to love me and do I want to stay married to her"

The answer to those is yes. If you think that a lifelong commitment to someone means a lifelong commitment to people that aren't weak, don't have flaws and don't make mistakes then good luck. Because you have never learned how to forgive and your posts just ooze with bitterness and resentment. You don't have to be that way. She wants to work on the marriage and they have kids. SO does he. It doesn't matter her reasons. It can be done and they can be better, but you're too bitter to see that it can happen and if it does look at how the kids will benefit if their parents figure out how to cope with something so COMMON and not just survive it but thrive despite it. He wants to see his kids every day. He wants to work on this. The kids will benefit if they do both try and not be shuffled around. She can grow from this. So can he. She doesn't have to cheat again.

Affairs happen more often than divorces. Think about that. That means that not just sociopaths have affairs. They can grow from this and have a great marriage. It's completely possible.

 

[rainbococksleev]

Nan you've been Skype fuckin dudes huh is that what you mean by you haven't actually cheated or whatever the fuck u said

 

[miplank]

Why are you doing this?

The question he asked himself after he found out is "Do I want her to love me and do I want to stay married to her"

The answer to those is yes. If you think that a lifelong commitment to someone means a lifelong commitment to people that aren't weak, don't have flaws and don't make mistakes then good luck. Because you have never learned how to forgive and your posts just ooze with bitterness and resentment. You don't have to be that way. She wants to work on the marriage and they have kids. SO does he. It doesn't matter her reasons. It can be done and they can be better, but you're too bitter to see that it can happen and if it does look at how the kids will benefit if their parents figure out how to cope with something so COMMON and not just survive it but thrive despite it. He wants to see his kids every day. He wants to work on this. The kids will benefit if they do both try and not be shuffled around. She can grow from this. So can he. She doesn't have to cheat again.

Affairs happen more often than divorces. Think about that. That means that not just sociopaths have affairs. They can grow from this and have a great marriage. It's completely possible.

fuck off

 

[rainbococksleev]

Wow lolI think the time is popcorn 30 in this bitch

 

[cindylou]

It's not that common. She should pick up a book.





How Common is Cheating & Infidelity Really? | World of Psychology

Who should pick up a book? Nope. Maybe in the 80s, but today infidelity is the main cited cause for divorce, how is that when no fault divorces are so prevalent, and not only that not everyone who as an affair ends up discovered or even divorced from it?

 

[Captain FT]

I didn't start this thread to create a riff with Cindy and Plank, everyone calm the fuck down. You can clearly see how men and women are different. I'm definitely on Cindy's side with the opinion.

Mitch, regardless of what the "real" story might be its the story I know and there is nothing good about it either. What I'm trying to do is pick up the pieces and move on with the person I still love and have children with.

I can't sit and analyze every "what if" and "why that", the shit happened...I'm trying my best to move forward.

And yes I was really pissed about the whole Prius thing too.