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GoldenDelicious said:felt weird = unsure of what she was doing = negative feeling
try the following, if yorue so inclined: announce to her that for the next 10 minutes, she has to see you as a purely platonic friend and tell you everything thats on her mind and why shes feeling like she is, but then in 10 minutes, youre going to have sex and thats that. - get her started by saying something "you feel really weird because youve been used to having sex with one person and have seen yourself in a certain way for a really long time, and now that its changing and youre finding yourself in these situations that yorue not used to, it makes you unsure about stuff and leaves you feeling bad, which is a totally normal human thing to do - am i right?" then she'll confide in you and bridge a lot of those issues, but you ahve to be really confident/strong in demanding that she assume the position in 10 minutes and actually have sex, otherwise youre going to become her emotional sponge.
its a lot of erffort and you have to be switched on emotionally to do it, but if you dont, you risk her associating all those feelings with you and not wanting to have sex again.
cant stress enough though taht you need to have a really strong frame. "i am your lover and your confidante, but this relationship is staying sexual. you have 10 minutes to let it out, but then...its SEX TIME"
works well. makes good friends too. ciao
if you pull that off then I would say you are in like flinn, hard to do though.