Can cheating once make your marriage better?

[Golddoor]

I know im going to probrably get flamed for this but I have been married for 10 years and have never cheated or came close. But I recently ran into a girl that is begging for it and she is really hot. she knows im married and agreed it could just be a one time thing. I thought about it and thought could just one time hurt? She would never know? I had a friend that swore it made him closer to his wife after he did it just once. Im not sure if i will regret it after I did it or be glad that I did it. And Im already stressed out enough about just thinking about it! I need some advice here? And in a hurry!

Golddoor

 

[Gymgurl]

Well if she finds out...your marriage will be over....is it worth that?

 

[Deleted member 33117]

You have already decided what you are going to do. I really can't answer this one because I can't relate...my wife and I are swingers and have a non-jelous relationship.

 

[aandd]

If by "better" you mean finding your shit on the front lawn and the locks changed as soon as I found out, as well as not seeing your children daily since you would no longer be living with them, yeah, I guess it can.

Cheating, or planning to, is most likely just a symptom of deeper issues. Why not invest that time into counseling?

10 years is a long time to throw away for a piece of ass.

 

[corythosaurus]

No........It can't

 

[Cutiebaby]

this is a question that you need to ask yourself.....after 10 yrs of marriage are you willing to ruin every thing that you have?
i dont see how cheating would better your marriage...i would think it would ruin it in a terrible way....your wife would no longer trust you and you obviously do not respect her as your wife if you are thinking of cheating...you need some thing to better your marraige? go to councilling or some thing.....i think if after 10 years you cheat for one night of ass you are a fool...giving up 10 years of history with some one for one night of ass??????

 

[Freak Nasty]

it made mine stronger in the long run, but I went through hell and back afterwards. My opinion is that it was/ is not worth it.

 

[rudeboyja]

I'll listen to the argument, but how do you suppose it will make it better? You'll treat your wife better out of guilt? Do what you want to do, but don't be foolish enough to think it will improve your marrage. And don't try to justify it thinking it will help your marrage. If you want to go tag some on the side, go for it. Just be a little more realistic about why you're doing it.

 

[Golddoor]

If you want to go tag some on the side, go for it. Just be a little more realistic about why you're doing it.

OK im board! My wife does the same 2 or 3 moves when we have sex. wont try anything new. Its like eating Mcdonalds cheeseburgers everyday for the rest of your life. It just gets old. You have to try something different every once in a while!

 

[Deleted member 33117]

OK im board! My wife does the same 2 or 3 moves when we have sex. wont try anything new. Its like eating Mcdonalds cheeseburgers everyday for the rest of your life. It just gets old. You have to try something different every once in a while!

You need to be more open with her about your sex life. It could also be that you are not doing so great of a job either, which could be making her less enthusiasic about the act.