Young Guns... I feel much the same way you do.
the inner grip upright rows will totally destroy my shoulders... I can do the wide grip ones with less pain, but still... not much weight, as it will still pull on the joints.
The Modified Hang Cleans I've talked about have been the best on my joints for shoulders... and have provided me with the best pump I've experienced on Shoulders since my injury.
Combine that with the new style of bench I'm doing, I can tell ya my shoulders will feel ALOT better.
EF TRaining board came through for me big time.
C-ditty