Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below i currently attend college and wanted to know what some guy's do to start a convo with random girls....and also, ladies make any suggestions if you like. i don't have a hard time time with girls, but my weakest point is starting the conversation. sometimes they start it, which is great, but others don't.
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just go to a party, get a litle drunk, talk to some nice lookin girls and get laid... easy as that... too bad i have no partied in a long time or else i would have been in a better situation right now,lol.
if sober, i always start something that is kinda funny.... like last sunday at my club. a girl wasn;t done with her drink, so i kinda took it, and she goes heeey... so i repeatedly took it when it was half full or more the rest of the night ( it was gay night) , she was hot, got her number, and she is a lot older than me.. easy things like that, but she was prob drunk, oh well...
gooooood luck bro!!!
if sober, i always start something that is kinda funny.... like last sunday at my club. a girl wasn;t done with her drink, so i kinda took it, and she goes heeey... so i repeatedly took it when it was half full or more the rest of the night ( it was gay night) , she was hot, got her number, and she is a lot older than me.. easy things like that, but she was prob drunk, oh well...
gooooood luck bro!!!
jdevlin1985
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Confidence! Nothing more. Nothing less.
javaguru
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Find something unusual or interesting to comment on, it can be a general comment about the surroundings or preferably some witty observation about them. You can practice this in everyday life by striking up conversations with strangers. For example, I was at a bar once and two girls had come from a "hawaiian" themed party. I walked up one and said, "Wow, you got laid twice, I'm jealous!" They laughed hysterically and ended up talking with me all evening. Once the ice is broken you can just ask questions about them, women love to talk about themselves. Be empathetic, mimic her body language, and touch her when you can; It all helps create a "connection." I could go on but you get the idea.
tmk123
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i noticed you walk in the room (sitting there etc )theres a great energy about you(pause for this to register and for the general thank you) so i thought id introduce myself and ......see how much we could really like each other (embeded command) before any approach always induce good feelings in yourself and say it with some(genuine) meaning in your voice... maintain good eye contact..guage her response to the great energy part and if you want to twist it in and keep control finish instead with {see if your the type of person id like to know better}this opener never fails but its only the opening,there are so many,be fluid, flexible .remember timeing is everything and practice any delivery alittle.be a take charge sort of guy and always know what your next move is.your attitude is cool calm relaxed, so smile confidently you know what your doing and if she reciprocates with the right amount of positive energy she may be lucky enough to step into your world,put real value on your self,good luck.
BOWTECH
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You see a nice looking girl and you say "excuse me" wait for reply "I was just wondering do you taste as good as you look?" jk 
No just be yourself. Don't try that phony bullshit that everyone else trys. If you just be yourself and don't start lying from the beginning that is a good start. I have always found if you are your true self from the beginning alot better things will come of it.
No just be yourself. Don't try that phony bullshit that everyone else trys. If you just be yourself and don't start lying from the beginning that is a good start. I have always found if you are your true self from the beginning alot better things will come of it.what if you are already 23 and still a virgin? that fucks with your mind real bad. thats my situation, and its not like im tryin to be one. ive wanted to fuck since i was in 5th grade and never got to. im in college now with pretty girls everywhere and i dont stand a chance. Honestly, ive been to parties, bars, everywhere and have never even gotten the chance to make out with a girl. what the fuck do i do now?! thanks to this ive been on antidepresseants and sleepingh pills for over a year because of depression from never doing anything with a female. it sounds stupid, but when youve gone 23 years wthout one single female ever being interested in you you start to believe there is seriously something really wrong with you.
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Megalomaniac
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markshark said:
you have to be kidding me. they are just women, talk to them. It is no big deal they want it as bad as you do so just talk and develop the relationship. In your case quickly!
mrdeeznuts
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swaptrex said:
if she looks bored hey this class is boring you want to get out of here and grab a bit to eat.
if she´s into the class, hey i´m not doing so well in this class you seem to really know whats going on could you help me out?
mrdeeznuts
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tmk123 said:
whats the double of zero?
mrdeeznuts
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markshark said:
dude, i used to use the virigin card to get laid. i used to tell a girl i was talking to at the bar that i was still a virigin and couldn´t wait to get some ass and it didn´t have to be anything special just 2 people attracted to each other wanting to have some fun. girls like having that power of giving a guy his first sex experience and makes them feel like they just aren´t a number. plus they really fuck ur brains out thinking ur a virigin.
markshark id like to help you because that fact must be playing on your mind.start thinking positive right now because college is a place of opportunity.look man ,scoring with women is no big deal so dont build your whole self worth around it lay off the sleeping pills, its them you want to be sleeping with not the pills.believe me when you make that first chance you will look back on this and wonder why you thought it was so difficult when it turned out to be so easy.with out knowing you its difficult to say where your going so ill pm you a good site for some good interesting reading
The Red Dragon
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Ditto man, I'm in the same position and I'm approaching 20. The way I see it, just work on yourself first...gain confidence through other means whether its bodybuilding, acquisition of money through various means, sports, or just chilling with friends...Build your identity and make something of yourself...then women will want a slice of your action once they see you're capable of doing shit and not needing them at all...From personal observation, its women that want to prove themselves to men, not the other way around...What you have going on now is a positive feedback loop. You start with nothing, feel bad, stagnate in life or take on unhealthy habits (anti-depressants) and basically sabotage your chance with women since you're stuck in a rut and SEEM like you have nothing to offer...Depression shows up in subtle forms...such as rounding your shoulders when walking around, head slumped down, eyes slumped down etc...women can read body language better than men...And the fact that this makes you depressed sabotages your chances with women even more...So...what I'm trying to say is take some other interests to gain confidence and you'll be good to go. I notice when I take up new hobbies that benefit me I notice a lot more attention (and its not because of my looks) but possibly comportment or just that I perceived double-looks as interest or whatever. If you're worried about talking and appearing confident, talk to random people, ugly girls that don't intimidate you perhaps...
pendit
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Markshark, where do you live?? If you're close enough, I wouldn't mind teaching a bro a thing or 2 first hand. I haven't torn up a good college town lately.
A little intro. I don't care if girls find me attractive. It's not my concern. Sure some do and some don't, but I don't worry about it. The best thing I can do is make sure I don't step outside without looking (and smelling) my best. Be clean and dress nice, nothing fancy. Now that I'm ready to leave the house, I follow the below rules not matter what!
If you really are down about something one day, don't go out. Just don't let the little shit keep you down. If you need to vent, vent to your bros, the girls don't want to hear it. They're out to have fun, and you're the fun guy they've been waiting for.
RULE #1: You NEED to be happy and positive! Example; you had a shit day in class. That night you go out. A girl comes up to you and says, "Hey, how ya doing?" The LAST thing you say is what a shitty day you had. You tell her how great you're doing and how happy you are. The entire time you....
RULE #2: Maintain EYE CONTACT! When a girl walks by, you look her in the eye the entire time she looks at you. Don't look away! You like her. You're not afraid to show it. Wait a few seconds for her to smile. If she does, smile back. If she doesn't, YOU SMILE, you don't want her thinking you're some wierdo. If she doesn't smile back, big deal. There's only 10,000 other girls. You don't sweat the little stuff.
RULE #3: You have 3 seconds to APPROACH!! If you see a girl that interests you, MOVE IN! (If you don't move your feet by the count of 3, you'll never move. You'll just sit there and make excuses as to why you can't approach) Or, if you get a smile make an approach. Just say Hi, how are you? How is your night? Talk about her. Start small, you don't need to create a unique first line for every girl in the world. Don't forget RULES 1 and 2 while you're talking.
Practice being positive and maintaining eye contact every day. Wherever you are (class, grocery store, bank) and whoever you talk to, be conscious about looking people in the eye and smiling. I guarantee your world will change! You will become more confident when interacting with people, and believe me, the girls notice
PM me and we can work on some advanced stuff once you get used to the stuff I just wrote
A little intro. I don't care if girls find me attractive. It's not my concern. Sure some do and some don't, but I don't worry about it. The best thing I can do is make sure I don't step outside without looking (and smelling) my best. Be clean and dress nice, nothing fancy. Now that I'm ready to leave the house, I follow the below rules not matter what!
If you really are down about something one day, don't go out. Just don't let the little shit keep you down. If you need to vent, vent to your bros, the girls don't want to hear it. They're out to have fun, and you're the fun guy they've been waiting for.
RULE #1: You NEED to be happy and positive! Example; you had a shit day in class. That night you go out. A girl comes up to you and says, "Hey, how ya doing?" The LAST thing you say is what a shitty day you had. You tell her how great you're doing and how happy you are. The entire time you....
RULE #2: Maintain EYE CONTACT! When a girl walks by, you look her in the eye the entire time she looks at you. Don't look away! You like her. You're not afraid to show it. Wait a few seconds for her to smile. If she does, smile back. If she doesn't, YOU SMILE, you don't want her thinking you're some wierdo. If she doesn't smile back, big deal. There's only 10,000 other girls. You don't sweat the little stuff.
RULE #3: You have 3 seconds to APPROACH!! If you see a girl that interests you, MOVE IN! (If you don't move your feet by the count of 3, you'll never move. You'll just sit there and make excuses as to why you can't approach) Or, if you get a smile make an approach. Just say Hi, how are you? How is your night? Talk about her. Start small, you don't need to create a unique first line for every girl in the world. Don't forget RULES 1 and 2 while you're talking.
Practice being positive and maintaining eye contact every day. Wherever you are (class, grocery store, bank) and whoever you talk to, be conscious about looking people in the eye and smiling. I guarantee your world will change! You will become more confident when interacting with people, and believe me, the girls notice
PM me and we can work on some advanced stuff once you get used to the stuff I just wrote
DeuceRooster
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Pendit has some excellent advice there!
army_fitness
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what you guys need to realize is that there are TONS of women out there...so practice... How many times do you go out anywhere, not just a bar, but anywhere, and see attractive women that you want to talk to, but you never do. SO WHAT if they reject you, who cares, did you lose anything? Practice..practice..practice talking to women, bust on them, tease them about their insecurities, but be funny about it, not an asshole. Women LOVE to laugh, a guy that can make a woman laugh, can have her... Main idea, have confidence, and don't look at it as "trying" Just be yourself, treat them like one of the guys, and carry on normal conversation, like she was a good guy friend, I promise, you'll be amazed how much better women respond.
My first piece if advice is that you need to build your confidence up and realize that its only women and there are alot of them and they are all horny. Id start off with fat or ugly girls at first just to get laid and get your thoughts on the right track. Even if you are not good lookin you can still bang nasty girls. Im not sayin its the only thing to go for but id say its not a bad place to start. Just be calm dont get nervous. Get a few drinks in you first. If your doc has you on xanax take one and drink a little NOT ALOT. It will really loosen you up. You will be able to talk to anyone. And the biggest thing is that dont expect the woman to make the first move. Sexually im speaking. If your takin to a girl and shes into you. Shes not just gonna unbutton your pants. Wait till theres a quiet moment go in and kiss her.
you can still go out.. stay sober and just make cocky and funny jokes about staying sober.
talk to girls like you have known them forever dont be mr nice guy be cocky and funny that is what builds attraction in females. once a female knows she can manipulate you and play you she wont be attracted to you.
talk to girls like you have known them forever dont be mr nice guy be cocky and funny that is what builds attraction in females. once a female knows she can manipulate you and play you she wont be attracted to you.
Judo Tom said:
yeah true. i been tryin this lately and bein sober and tryin to talk to them really builds up confidence. then the next day i dont have to worry about all those shitty toxins in my body and feelin hungover or something. its like personal triumph. and just makin bullshit jokes with them like they were my friends or something and not tryin to hit on them all night and lookin desperate actually works better. that way ur makin them laugh and have a good time and not just hittin on them like a lot of other guys do.
Jdevlin1985 said:
I found the guys with the gals have the confidence, in themselves and in their rap. You have to be a good talker and continue the conversation to hold their attention. Finding the right subjects doesn't hurt either. Can't be talking about yourself, Mom or sports she doesn't give a shit about. ASK QUESTIONS !
Of course, I have been a complete failure at this through most of my life, but have gotten by.
lol.. save all these talking and be a desciple of the great David DeAngelo.. and it's gonna be the BEST investment u've ever made besides getting StartingStrength..
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it's that easy.. now go get laid..
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it's that easy.. now go get laid..
latinsteel
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I wonder if markshark ever got laid??
Mark if you are out there. Let us know what happened to you !!
Mark if you are out there. Let us know what happened to you !!
DJ_UFO
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Mickey36 said:
Yeah that's it. However, is hard for a guy to break that barrier with unknown girls when your personality is just not like that. I was like that until a few years back. And you know what it helped me? Going to strip clubs. For some reason, since girls approach you first, you feel confident to compliment them for something. At least in my case, I'm very respectful with those girls because I love what they do. But after some time interacting with them and seeing them as normal girls, I tried the same type of compliments outside and really works; girls love to hear that from men. And if a lady looks beautiful why not! there is no crime in saying something beautiful and respectfully.
jon1320
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An easy opener is to neg the target. negs are usually little statements that bring down a girls 'confidence' and put you on top. So if u wanna be on top of her, say something negative in a playful manner.
Be like... you: Hey, nice sunglasses, you're like the 30th girl iv'e seen today with em'
her: thanks.... (unsure) and insecure
then after u break the ice, show her u have value...
and then a penis, and a condom... and put 2 and 2 together and u'll have a nice lay
peace
Be like... you: Hey, nice sunglasses, you're like the 30th girl iv'e seen today with em'
her: thanks.... (unsure) and insecure
then after u break the ice, show her u have value...
and then a penis, and a condom... and put 2 and 2 together and u'll have a nice lay
peace
SpawnsWorld
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The thing upsets me is when i see a hott girl at a store renting movies, or a shopping mall. How does one break the ice and know what to talk about?
layinback
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walk up to her and say, " i am a shy guy and this is very difficult for me- but if i go home without meeting you and introducing myself, i will be depressed. ( eye contact ,smile and give a nervous little laugh )SpawnsWorld said:
if you are not handsome you better have some charisma if you have both...... you will get laid a lot and wind up with an std if you aint careful.
if you have neither this will not work.
the beauty of this manner of approach is that it is true and that truth will be conveyed in your presentation.
DJ_UFO
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It depends also on the circumstances and what part of the country.....Last time in Mardi Gras, I was wearing some big ass balls around my neck...I was drunk, saw a hot girl, she was drunk too, and told her "I'm shy...but I've got a big dick" and she told me "please what I have to do to get those balls".....I was going to continue with the game but first decided to look around and my wife was looking at me...
well, it won't be the last time in Mardi Gras....lol
well, it won't be the last time in Mardi Gras....lolEh, idk about that one. I mean, it COULD work, but that entirely depends on the girl and how you present yourself. Remember: most women are generally insecure as is, so knocking on 'em probably won't help your case.jon1320 said:
A very good place to start is to just make friends with different types of girls. Granted you chances of screwing any of them will shrink to about zero, you'll gain something more valuable in that you'll learn how they think and operate. Pretty soon you'll be able to go to a bar, party, etc. and just talk to a girl for 30 secs. and be able to tell if she's worth your time or not.
I have to agree with a lot of the guys on here in that how you present yourself is key. First impressions are everything because you only get one. Phony pickup lines and scripts only make you out to be an asshole. It's best to appear calm and like you're there to have a good time, as if today were just a normal, happy day. When striking initial conversation, never talk about your personal problems because it makes you appear weak or like you have issues. Always try and make her the center of attention, but be subtle about it. If she asks a question about you, always answer, but be concise and polite. 90% of the girls I've talked to think manners are sexy and only 10% are lookin for a "bad boy." With some experience you'll be able to tell the difference. It gets easier with time, but it's that initial jump that's the toughest. It's like jumping into an ice cold pool...you're nervous and you probably couldn't fit a rasin between your ass cheeks, but it's kind of fun too.
You're going to make mistakes, but DO NOT let that discourage you!!!!!
Lastly, IMO it might be worth it to wait and get into a committed relationship before taking the plunge. Afterall, do you really want your first time to be with...uhh...what's-her-face?
maxspeed96ct
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I just get drunk and talk to as many girls as i can, i get shut down often but theres alwasy some cools chicks that wont shut you down,
you also gotta have facebook or myspace (dont laught bro, if your in college like me u need these things, easiest way to pimp hoes since vodka and beer)
you also gotta have facebook or myspace (dont laught bro, if your in college like me u need these things, easiest way to pimp hoes since vodka and beer)
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javaguru said:
^^ what he said.
GoldenDelicious
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you all suck shit, thee of the 2 year old thread
deathdroprob
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markshark said:
bad
latinsteel
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no real players here!!
slamminshaun
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Honestly guys, there's no "secret phrase" or "magic words" that will work across the board on all women. It's like saying, "what can I do to get big in the gym?". There's so many variables, it's different for everyone. Find what works for you, and concentrate on that. Remember, getting laid is a numbers game....nobody can get them all, but like good genetics in the gym, some can come across it much easier.
I think if you can understand female psychology very well, you have the advantage....how do you get to learn this? Sounds gay, but you should have been paying attention to what women talk about since you were 12. They've given you everything you need to know about them, including what turns them on, what makes them tick!
The most common turn-on I've found is confidence short of arrogance compounded with a wide vocabulary....and nice shoes. Just by virtue of approaching women, you've done something that 95% of guys won't do, so you're off to a good start...get over your fear, take your lumps, and like telemarketing...eventually you'll get a sale.
I think if you can understand female psychology very well, you have the advantage....how do you get to learn this? Sounds gay, but you should have been paying attention to what women talk about since you were 12. They've given you everything you need to know about them, including what turns them on, what makes them tick!
The most common turn-on I've found is confidence short of arrogance compounded with a wide vocabulary....and nice shoes. Just by virtue of approaching women, you've done something that 95% of guys won't do, so you're off to a good start...get over your fear, take your lumps, and like telemarketing...eventually you'll get a sale.
NEO1
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Aaah, the ability to read people. There is a lot of really good advice here. However in my humble opinion it all depends on the woman on how you approach. Hot as hell, be the nice guy (they dont get that a lot). A straight forward, "Hi my name is...., how are you?". If she's a lil more "humble" you can usually play the game, be a lil flirty. One big thing I agree with, don't be the first to break eye contact!
No issues here! LOL...
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