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The Red Dragon
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Ditto man, I'm in the same position and I'm approaching 20. The way I see it, just work on yourself first...gain confidence through other means whether its bodybuilding, acquisition of money through various means, sports, or just chilling with friends...Build your identity and make something of yourself...then women will want a slice of your action once they see you're capable of doing shit and not needing them at all...From personal observation, its women that want to prove themselves to men, not the other way around...What you have going on now is a positive feedback loop. You start with nothing, feel bad, stagnate in life or take on unhealthy habits (anti-depressants) and basically sabotage your chance with women since you're stuck in a rut and SEEM like you have nothing to offer...Depression shows up in subtle forms...such as rounding your shoulders when walking around, head slumped down, eyes slumped down etc...women can read body language better than men...And the fact that this makes you depressed sabotages your chances with women even more...So...what I'm trying to say is take some other interests to gain confidence and you'll be good to go. I notice when I take up new hobbies that benefit me I notice a lot more attention (and its not because of my looks) but possibly comportment or just that I perceived double-looks as interest or whatever. If you're worried about talking and appearing confident, talk to random people, ugly girls that don't intimidate you perhaps...
pendit
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Markshark, where do you live?? If you're close enough, I wouldn't mind teaching a bro a thing or 2 first hand. I haven't torn up a good college town lately.
A little intro. I don't care if girls find me attractive. It's not my concern. Sure some do and some don't, but I don't worry about it. The best thing I can do is make sure I don't step outside without looking (and smelling) my best. Be clean and dress nice, nothing fancy. Now that I'm ready to leave the house, I follow the below rules not matter what!
If you really are down about something one day, don't go out. Just don't let the little shit keep you down. If you need to vent, vent to your bros, the girls don't want to hear it. They're out to have fun, and you're the fun guy they've been waiting for.
RULE #1: You NEED to be happy and positive! Example; you had a shit day in class. That night you go out. A girl comes up to you and says, "Hey, how ya doing?" The LAST thing you say is what a shitty day you had. You tell her how great you're doing and how happy you are. The entire time you....
RULE #2: Maintain EYE CONTACT! When a girl walks by, you look her in the eye the entire time she looks at you. Don't look away! You like her. You're not afraid to show it. Wait a few seconds for her to smile. If she does, smile back. If she doesn't, YOU SMILE, you don't want her thinking you're some wierdo. If she doesn't smile back, big deal. There's only 10,000 other girls. You don't sweat the little stuff.
RULE #3: You have 3 seconds to APPROACH!! If you see a girl that interests you, MOVE IN! (If you don't move your feet by the count of 3, you'll never move. You'll just sit there and make excuses as to why you can't approach) Or, if you get a smile make an approach. Just say Hi, how are you? How is your night? Talk about her. Start small, you don't need to create a unique first line for every girl in the world. Don't forget RULES 1 and 2 while you're talking.
Practice being positive and maintaining eye contact every day. Wherever you are (class, grocery store, bank) and whoever you talk to, be conscious about looking people in the eye and smiling. I guarantee your world will change! You will become more confident when interacting with people, and believe me, the girls notice
PM me and we can work on some advanced stuff once you get used to the stuff I just wrote
A little intro. I don't care if girls find me attractive. It's not my concern. Sure some do and some don't, but I don't worry about it. The best thing I can do is make sure I don't step outside without looking (and smelling) my best. Be clean and dress nice, nothing fancy. Now that I'm ready to leave the house, I follow the below rules not matter what!
If you really are down about something one day, don't go out. Just don't let the little shit keep you down. If you need to vent, vent to your bros, the girls don't want to hear it. They're out to have fun, and you're the fun guy they've been waiting for.
RULE #1: You NEED to be happy and positive! Example; you had a shit day in class. That night you go out. A girl comes up to you and says, "Hey, how ya doing?" The LAST thing you say is what a shitty day you had. You tell her how great you're doing and how happy you are. The entire time you....
RULE #2: Maintain EYE CONTACT! When a girl walks by, you look her in the eye the entire time she looks at you. Don't look away! You like her. You're not afraid to show it. Wait a few seconds for her to smile. If she does, smile back. If she doesn't, YOU SMILE, you don't want her thinking you're some wierdo. If she doesn't smile back, big deal. There's only 10,000 other girls. You don't sweat the little stuff.
RULE #3: You have 3 seconds to APPROACH!! If you see a girl that interests you, MOVE IN! (If you don't move your feet by the count of 3, you'll never move. You'll just sit there and make excuses as to why you can't approach) Or, if you get a smile make an approach. Just say Hi, how are you? How is your night? Talk about her. Start small, you don't need to create a unique first line for every girl in the world. Don't forget RULES 1 and 2 while you're talking.
Practice being positive and maintaining eye contact every day. Wherever you are (class, grocery store, bank) and whoever you talk to, be conscious about looking people in the eye and smiling. I guarantee your world will change! You will become more confident when interacting with people, and believe me, the girls notice
PM me and we can work on some advanced stuff once you get used to the stuff I just wrote
DeuceRooster
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Pendit has some excellent advice there!
army_fitness
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what you guys need to realize is that there are TONS of women out there...so practice... How many times do you go out anywhere, not just a bar, but anywhere, and see attractive women that you want to talk to, but you never do. SO WHAT if they reject you, who cares, did you lose anything? Practice..practice..practice talking to women, bust on them, tease them about their insecurities, but be funny about it, not an asshole. Women LOVE to laugh, a guy that can make a woman laugh, can have her... Main idea, have confidence, and don't look at it as "trying" Just be yourself, treat them like one of the guys, and carry on normal conversation, like she was a good guy friend, I promise, you'll be amazed how much better women respond.
My first piece if advice is that you need to build your confidence up and realize that its only women and there are alot of them and they are all horny. Id start off with fat or ugly girls at first just to get laid and get your thoughts on the right track. Even if you are not good lookin you can still bang nasty girls. Im not sayin its the only thing to go for but id say its not a bad place to start. Just be calm dont get nervous. Get a few drinks in you first. If your doc has you on xanax take one and drink a little NOT ALOT. It will really loosen you up. You will be able to talk to anyone. And the biggest thing is that dont expect the woman to make the first move. Sexually im speaking. If your takin to a girl and shes into you. Shes not just gonna unbutton your pants. Wait till theres a quiet moment go in and kiss her.
