And yet another update thread on the ex

[Lestat]

So many of you will remember the post I had about whether or not to go to my company event at the races... that was a couple weeks ago.

I just got this from the ex this morning:

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Hey Brian,

I noticed you left the races shortly after I arrived; I would like to hope that we can eventually be civil to each other, especially at work functions. With that in mind, I thought I’d let you know that I’m playing in the company softball tournament. I hope all is well.

Sincerely,
Sarah

 

[Dial_tone]

She paid attention to you leaving........odd.

 

[Lestat]

not even sure how to repond to this one.. I gotta say I am impressed that she is giving me the heads up on something that we would both likely be at... at least giving me the chance to mentally prepare for it.. or not go if I wanted to avoid that situation all together.

What I really feel, which is not sure what I should tell her, is that seeing her is painful, it brings back memories that I want to forget. I'd be happy if I never had to see or speak to her again. When I see her, I don't see the same person that I knew, but it reminds me of the person I used to know, and that hurts.

 

[velvett]

She has nerve contacting you.

I wouldn't answer her email and I would bag the softball game (if I had planned to go) just out of spite.

Of course all of this lacks maturity and appropriate behavior but someone times you just have to say F**k it and be a bastard.

 

[Robert Jan]

i dont think she is direct enough. but maybe im naive there

anyway just forget about her entirely. be civil but that does not force you to go anywhere or do anything

 

[Lestat]

She has nerve contacting you.

I wouldn't answer her email and I would bag the softball game (if I had planned to go) just out of spite.

Of course all of this lacks maturity and appropriate behavior but someone times you just have to say F**k it and be a bastard.

the fucked up thing is.. I've worked here 6 years.. she's been here 1. I've managed a team every year, she played on mine last year (her first).

To not go would mean a BIG change in behavior on my part. But at the same time, the thought of being there that day (its an ALL DAY event) and playing against her team (which we would for sure)... it just sickens me.

 

[Carmen]

she noticed you leaving because she knows she holds some power over you. she does have nerve for bringing it up.
if you reply at all, make sure she knows that you left because you had someplace to go (like a date), and that it had nothing to do with her.

 

[velvett]

the fucked up thing is.. I've worked here 6 years.. she's been here 1. I've managed a team every year, she played on mine last year (her first).

To not go would mean a BIG change in behavior on my part. But at the same time, the thought of being there that day (its an ALL DAY event) and playing against her team (which we would for sure)... it just sickens me.

If you go you have to show that she holds nothing over you, that you feel nothing for her and show no discomfort as if she never existed in your life the way she did.

You actual choices are very clear, it's just what direction you choose to go that is most unclear.

 

[Robert Jan]

is this why they say you shouldn't date colleagues then

 

[UA_Iron]

manage your softball team. pop a vicodin and you wont care about anything and the rest Velvett summed up nicely