Advice needed re: miscarriage

[vinylgroover]

I thought i'd post this here as well as c&c in the hope of more responses. I'm Sorry it's not training related, but any advice would be appreciated.

My brother's wife had her second miscarriage this weekend in the space of 10 months.

They are both quite distraught. The first one was 10 weeks in, the second was only 1 week in. She feels as though there is something wrong with her, which i know is not the case.

I'd really love to help them both and any advice on any way's of improving the chances of a successful birth would be appreciated. Is there anything my sister-in-law can do whether it's a change in diet, activity levels, medication etc that will help......or is it just a random occurrance that can't be improved.

She is quite active, a high school teacher by occupation. She also dances and teaches dancing outside of school. She is quite fit, eats clean......although she could eat more meat, non-smoker, non-drinker. She is about to turn 30.

Any advice through personal experience or even references to respected websites, clinics, etc would be very much appreciated.

If you'd prefer to keep your personal experience off the boards, i'd be happy to hear via PM. Thank you.

 

[spatts]

VG, sorry to hear about that.

What, if anything, have docs told them so far? Any testing at all, for either of them?

 

[vinylgroover]

VG, sorry to hear about that.

What, if anything, have docs told them so far? Any testing at all, for either of them?

No. She changed her doc after the first one and apparently the doc she had this time wasn't much help. Unfortunately, they tend to be blahsay about it, y'know 'it happens all the time.......', which is cold comfort, but i understand it does happen alot.

They say that if it happens 3 times consecutively, that's when they do testing. The problem is, the next time she gets pregnant, it will be hard for her not to be in a negative frame of mind, which won't help during the pregnancy.

 

[spatts]

Exactly....ugh. That's tough. Perhaps Babydoc will poke his head in on this one. Again, I'm sorry to hear about it.

 

[vixenbabe]

I'm sorry, A!

Are they seeing a doctor who specializes in HIGH risk pregnancies? Fertility expert?

 

[newgirl-chargeback]

I am so sorry to hear, VG. I wish I had some words of comfort or advice to offer.

I had 2 miscarriages myself. I was told that sometimes, when something is terribly wrong with the baby, mother nature takes over...... that was indeed no comfort for me.

Third time was a charm......and with the exception of chicken pox at age 33 and almost 7 months pregnant, it was a breeze.

I would support the advice of vixen though and see a high risk ob.

 

[Puddles]

I don't think there's any way to comfort a woman when she's gone through this. One of my best friends went through several miscarriages, saw all kinds of specialists, and was much like your sister-in-law...fit, eats clean, etc., but nothing could be figured out. She finally gave up trying to carry a child when she turned 40. It's so strange how life gives us certain issues to live with, isn't it? Warmest wishes to them, VG.

 

[Scarlett33]

Hi, that's just so sad to lose a baby. A good friend of mine had 3mc before she carried a baby to term. Turned out she had immune and hormone issues, so baby aspirin and progesterone supplement's were the answer for her. The DR would not even do test's until the 3rd mc because they feel that mc is common and a problem is not indicated until 3 or more. So it's hard to know if your SIL has a real problem until she get's some hormone level's and other test's done. There is a very supportive and informative website called INCIID, I'm sorry I don't know the exact address but if you seach under those letter's it will come up. There is a support forum for women who have expirience pregnancy loss. My friend found comfort and info there.


Best of luck to ya'll
and again sorry for the losses,

Scarlett

 

[Cowgrrl]

I applaud you for trying to help, as when I went through mine, so many people "didn't know what to say" so they didn't say anything!

And doctors are the worst - I think it's because they just don't know how to react or how to comfort. Thank goodness for midwives!

You just being that supportive is enough, believe me.

 

[vinylgroover]

Thank you all for your thoughtful responses, it's much appreciated.

Being the second time around, my brother and his wife are too confused at the moment to do the research, so i though i would do it for them....find out as much as i can.

Again, thanks all......i'm sure i'll be an uncle one day soon