I'm not trying to be hurtful to you either nan, but a lot of the things you just posted sounds like things a parent would do for a kid. I'm just throwing out a thing here or there to maybe give a perspective.
CEO, her eye condition is serious. She needs a caregiver, and someone that does not mind being needed in that way because it will worsen as she ages. She doesn't need someone selfish, or that will resent that she needs to be taken care of a little more than someone else because she can't help that.
Glad you guys talked about it nan.