Actually I once had a very insightful convo with shirl about this and yes I think he might think this, hence why I got my permit and am trying to be a bit more independant, the job apart will probably help too.
because I am unhappy on the sexual front, very unhappy, but that doesnt constitute the whole relationship, he does other things that make me very happy, like taking me to the bok tower garden 300 miles away so we could hear freaking bells

why? becuase he knew it would make me happy.