Young male erection issue

[w0lfiegrr]

I'm 25 years old, 205 lbs, 6'3..

I've been having a really hard time with sex. I havent had that many partners, but lately ive been getting out there.

My first real-girlfriend i've had the problem where I would orgasm very quickly if I had sex with her (shortly after entering). We normally had oral sex over sex. I would orgasm quickly if I went down on her first, but if she went down on me first it took a little longer.

With other women, I seem to get hard, but then go soft after im inside.. and its becoming a real problem. usually drinks are involved, but this happens with or without. I am seeing a very gorgeous girl right now, very sexual.. she gets me hard all the time.. but then once it comes time to have sex.. i just go limp shortly after entering.. and when I go for a condom, it really difficult because i go limp very quickly too...

I was thinking it may be a testosterone issue? My cum is kinda lumpy and yellowish, and always has been. I was on anabolics before about 1 year ago.. and while on, my cum was more `normal`...

I was just able to have a really good orgasm where she was ontop of me, and just slowly went ontop of me.. and i was able to reach an orgasm...

But, shes wanting some animalistic sex.. which I just almost dont have in me at this very moment until i can solve this problem.. She's a gorgeous girl and I really dont want to scare her away with this. Any advice would help.

 

[Joester]

Hey Brother: buy Priligy
Sounds like you may have some anxiety issues here...aka "performance anxiety". Many men have issues with premature/early ejaculation, there isn't a "cure all" remedy. You have to take some control over your nerves, as this is a domino effect that can really escalade into problems if you let it. Thinking about "animalistic" levels of sex while you are having trouble performing is going to set you up to fail, don't go there.
Relaxing isn't an easy thing either, and while a drink or 2 can take the edge off, too many can leave you with no edge at all[if you get my drift here] - the old term "whiskey dick" from my college days comes to mind. The fact that you have perform more to your ideal when she's on top tells me that you don't have a Test issue, or another organic problem, otherwise you'd be having problems anyway you do it.
You may try some techniques to relax yourself, try intercourse alternating between going in and then after a brief bit, pulling out, then repeating - slwoly work towards staying in longer. This should help you get accustomed to her and being with her, and as you relax, you may lose your anxiety. She may also take this as foreplay, which can help fire up the mood, and your steam.
I'm not a psychiatrist or sex therapist either, so I can't elaborate more on this, but you may look for some guides to help reduce your anxiety with sex, either books or videos, or you can go for it and see a specialist.
Many people are afraid to see someone about these issues, and embarrassment can be a problem, but like any other problem, the only foolish question is the one not asked.
Hope I helped.

 

[SUPERDIMI]

Well I have neurological impotence from multiple sclerosis which is very hard to treat. I am familiar with being young and not being that hot in between the sheets.

Try Kegels. They will make you have rock hard erections and better control over your orgasms. When you go to pee stop the flow of your urine. The muscle that you use to do this is called the pc muscle. That will be the muscle you exercise.

While your laying in bed. Remember how you contracted the muscle when you stopped your flow of urine. Squeeze and contract the pc muscle over and over again. The first time you do it, you will be able to only do about 10 contractions. You do them every night and you work your way up to 100. At the end of doing them squeeze and hold your pc muscle for a count of 10. When you are squeezing it try squeezing as hard as you can.

You should really get some benefit out of doing these. Your erections will be firmer, your orgasms will be stronger, and to last longer in bed just squeeze that pc muscle as hard as you can at the point you start feeling like your about to orgasm.

Good Luck

 

[bigstve12]

Kegels would be great, i also agree with joester...seems to be psychological. I know this gets a bit personal, but when you masturbate, train yourself to go longer. Take your time, back off when needed...try to last 20minutes. Make instant gratification less of a priority

 

[stingray]

I agree with joester also. Relax and try not to think about it.

 

[w0lfiegrr]

Just an update, I'm still having some issues.. it's been about 2 months now I have been with this girl.

My girl is great, extremely sexual.. I cant keep my hands off her.. she wants to have it 5 times a day.. but my problem has been my sex drive lately has been really low. I think that might be the origin of my earlier problem I originally posted. So i try to have sex atleast once or twice a day when we are together, but sometimes its unsuccessful because I go soft halfway.. my drive just kinda dies.

My sex drive I think lowered for some reason within the last 3 months. I have been able to have some great sex with her.. where my drive was totally there.. and I have been very aggressively wild with her.. When its like that its great!

Can anyone suggest anything to increase my drive? I havent done anything recently I can think of, or eaten much differently for it to have lowered like this.. any thoughts would be much appreciated.

 

[Morb]

youre just used to the girl, if you found a new hot girl it would be like it was for awhile then youd hit the wall again

 

[bigstve12]

Try glutamine...man i was taking like 10g before bed to help with GH, you couldnt pay me to not be turned on. Only lasted about a week though...like with everything else, the body adapts.

 

[sigmund]

My cum is kinda lumpy and yellowish, and always has been. I was on anabolics before about 1 year ago.. and while on, my cum was more `normal`...

Hi Bro,

The yellowish cum could be as a result of an infection, you say it has always been that colour, so it is most probably nothing however do your balls (or one of them) sometimes ache after ejaculation? Has there been any other discharge? If so that could be due to infection - it's worth getting this checked out by a doc as if this is the case it could also be interfering with your sex drive. You could also ask for a blood test to get your testosterone levels checked, most doc's are understanding and will agree to this if you explain your situation, i.e. erection problems. Explain that it would "put your mind at ease" - no need to mention AAS use.

Additionally when you were on AAS a year ago, did you follow full post cycle therapy to help restore natural test levels? What AAS were you on and how long did you stay on? Did your erection problems start after that cycle?

 

[Subzeero]

Hey Brother:
Sounds like you may have some anxiety issues here...aka "performance anxiety". Many men have issues with premature/early ejaculation, there isn't a "cure all" remedy. You have to take some control over your nerves, as this is a domino effect that can really escalade into problems if you let it. Thinking about "animalistic" levels of sex while you are having trouble performing is going to set you up to fail, don't go there.
Relaxing isn't an easy thing either, and while a drink or 2 can take the edge off, too many can leave you with no edge at all[if you get my drift here] - the old term "whiskey dick" from my college days comes to mind. The fact that you have perform more to your ideal when she's on top tells me that you don't have a Test issue, or another organic problem, otherwise you'd be having problems anyway you do it.
You may try some techniques to relax yourself, try intercourse alternating between going in and then after a brief bit, pulling out, then repeating - slwoly work towards staying in longer. This should help you get accustomed to her and being with her, and as you relax, you may lose your anxiety. She may also take this as foreplay, which can help fire up the mood, and your steam.
I'm not a psychiatrist or sex therapist either, so I can't elaborate more on this, but you may look for some guides to help reduce your anxiety with sex, either books or videos, or you can go for it and see a specialist.
Many people are afraid to see someone about these issues, and embarrassment can be a problem, but like any other problem, the only foolish question is the one not asked.
Hope I helped.

All that up there is bullshit. Train yourself with masturbation, make yourself come more often and also try not to come too fast. This way your sack will adapt to your daily sperm needs and more will be produced. This will take care of your yellow semen as well. Eat proper, find sperm quality enhancing food products. My guess is that u are not having enough of it.(sex) Also once you are inside her for 20-30 seconds, pull out, don't just keep on going because it indeed does get boring at a slow gradual pace and rub it against her hole. Then put the tip of your penis in and don't go in deeply. After 2-3 secs like this, thrust into her with everything you got. Women love this. Play with your penis. Animalistic sex is good too. Try anal sex. You will love it. Use toys, and rubberbands. There are all kinds of shit out there. And if u are really desperate use viagra. Hope this helps.

Cheers.