Would messing around with ur BF..

[cutiegirl]

*ding-ding* thought so -- like it or not, you're relationship has already changed; now, you're trying to backtrack out of fear that it will progress to a negative state.

If you really want to get honest with yourself, you two have been flirting for awhile, even kissed -- and in the midst of your fears, you still wonder if it would be ok for her to (finger) bang you... The relationship is not what it was when you would just call her to go out for coffee and gossip about clothes or whatever...

I think you want to, but are afraid of the end result. But, if you'll admit the relationship has already changed, I think you'll see this line of thinking through to the end in that going further with your friend won't really change the outcome -- perhaps the degree of reaction, but not the outcome.

If you break this "thing" with her off, I think it'll end up being weird for you, and that weirdness will ultimately lead to distance. If you go the other way, who knows? But either way, it's no longer the friendship that you once had, it's something different...

Am I getting close here?

I think you are getting close. We don't live near each other now, but we do talk weekly on the phone, and things don't seem to have changed there. I really just don't want to lose my best friend over pleasure. We have been friends so long and she's the ONLY ones who knows everything about me.

 

[cutiegirl]

just do it and be sure to tell me all about it

Yeah I'll be sure and let ya know what happens

 

[THeMaCHinE]

I think you are getting close. We don't live near each other now, but we do talk weekly on the phone, and things don't seem to have changed there. I really just don't want to lose my best friend over pleasure. We have been friends so long and she's the ONLY ones who knows everything about me.

Ultimately, you should follow your gut -- not your head, not your heart.

Listen to the little voice that tells you what is right and wrong -- forget the emotions of the heart, forget the rationalizations that your mind will come up with. You already know what you should do, you already know what your gut is telling you, now listen to it.

Sometimes listening to your gut isn't the easiest thing to do, but if you do it, you will never look down on yourself.

I think, FWIW, at this point that you should just tell your friend that you really don't want to lose her over an experiment and that you should just keep your friendship on a friendship level. This means that you must commit to never, never leading on, teasing/kissing her again...

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

I know this is not what you meant by your question, but for me I mess around with my best friend every day. I am fortunate because my best friend is my wife.

I would not mess around with any female friends (if I weren't married).

 

[cutiegirl]

Ultimately, you should follow your gut -- not your head, not your heart.

Listen to the little voice that tells you what is right and wrong -- forget the emotions of the heart, forget the rationalizations that your mind will come up with. You already know what you should do, you already know what your gut is telling you, now listen to it.

Sometimes listening to your gut isn't the easiest thing to do, but if you do it, you will never look down on yourself.

I think, FWIW, at this point that you should just tell your friend that you really don't want to lose her over an experiment and that you should just keep your friendship on a friendship level. This means that you must commit to never, never leading on, teasing/kissing her again...

I know you are right!

 

[cutiegirl]

I know this is not what you meant by your question, but for me I mess around with my best friend every day. I am fortunate because my best friend is my wife.

I would not mess around with any female friends (if I weren't married).

Ah that's sweet, sounds like a lucky lady!

 

[hoosier]

Yeah I will just get drunk, that sounds like a good idea!

P.S. please don't forget to videotape, or please pm me with the details.......Thanks so much

 

[cutiegirl]

P.S. please don't forget to videotape, or please pm me with the details.......Thanks so much

YEah ill be in touch

 

[hoosier]

YEah ill be in touch

Promises, promises

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

having sex with friends will change the dynamics for sure