If I ask the girl out I pay, PERIOD, end of story, but if a girl asks me out and it's been several dates then I expect HER to pay, or offer to pay, or maybe pay the tip.
I notice many women here are looking at the man paying as some sort of "sign" of what kind of man he is.
Well I look at the issue the same way, if a woman ask me out and pays or at least offers then I have MORE respect for her.
I am sure a lot of men here have been used for their money.
I make a lot of money and I have had women attempt to use me. I had one girl once tell me after the second date that her favorite stone was emerald and that her ex bought it for her all the time. She dropped so many hints about "emeralds" being the perfect surprise gift that I felt like buying her one just to get her to stop talking about it.
There was another girl who I dated for about a month or two. All very casual more like a friendship than a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, no sex what-so-ever and about the 5th date she calls me up to take me out to dinner for my "birthday".
She had made reservations at a nice restaurant "Capital Grill" in DC.
I thought it was very sweet but at the end of the dinner when the check came she just sat on her hands until I picked it up and paid the tab.
It wasn't the "money" but I felt disrespected and used. I could have made so many other plans for my birthday.
I never saw her again.
Again I make a high 6 figure income, but if a girl calls to ask me out, especially after several dates, I expect her to pay some portion of that tab. it shows me she isn't taking advantage of me, that she's showing how IMPORTANT I am to her by paying and so on.
Many of you women who are so concerned about how YOU feel should reverse the roll and see how maybe YOU can make the man feel appreciated and so on.
And ladies it's not the "other" things you do because as a man I also do many "other" things.
Plus those other things like "cooking" and so on. I actually love to cook for dates and I am a very good cook and I honestly can't remember the last time a date cooked for me. It's been years.
In any event paying the tab can also show a MAN the kind of woman you are. One of my favorite girl friends was a CIA employee and she usually paid every 3rd or 4th date. She said "I am taking you out this is my treat".
We dated for about a year until she was transferred over seas.
She was one CLASSY lady. I've never respected a woman more than I did her and I LOVED taking her out and buying things because I FELT cared for and appreciated by her gestures of taking me out and so on.
It's a TWO way street, any relationship is a two way street for all the issues.
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