Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second date?

[javaguru]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

possible

or a healthy dose of me

Dude, you know HR can't reach her vag to clean it...I wouldn't go down there if I were you.

 

[patsfan1379]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

Let me elaborate a bit more on my likes and dislikes and I'm not saying people who enjoy these thing are pretentious but there seem to be a disproportionate number among their ranks . There were those pretentious people that showed up at church every Sunday when I was growing up.

I'm not materialistic, I'm actually quite a minimalist, and everything I own has a function in my life...nothing decorative at all.I don't enjoy wine tastings, cigar bars, the symphony, or the other "finer things in life" pretentious people like to brag about doing. I prefer a mountain hike to a black tie event. As a matter of fact, I would do just about anything to get out of attending a black tie affair. I've been to restaurants where the cheapest a la carte entree was $50.00 and tasted worse than the $8.00 entree at Jed's. I can't even remember the name of the restaurant but I was told it was a big deal to dine there...

You're one of those nonconformists aren't you. Like the goth kids, they're all different and stuff....

Except they look like all the other Goth kids....

 

[javaguru]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

You're one of those nonconformists aren't you. Like the goth kids, they're all different and stuff....

Except they look like all the other Goth kids....

Nope, I've always had my own thing..... Defensive co-captain of the football team and president of the computer club in high school.

 

[heatherrae]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

Dude, you know HR can't reach her vag to clean it...I wouldn't go down there if I were you.

It's clean! I can't see it, but I can reach it!

 

[patsfan1379]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

Nope, I've always had my own thing..... Defensive co-captain of the football team and president of the computer club in high school.

I'm just Joshin ya.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Then why keep going on about money and masculinity at the same time? You're the only one mentioning it. Sorry BM but you aren't very convincing. I remember you and your husband telling me how you believed that being successful WAS being wealthy. Now unless you've drastically changed your views...

I was only answering the question posted as honestly as I could. Money is not an accurate measure of a man's worth, as life has a funny way of making it all go *bye-bye* with very little warning. I married my husband when he was at the lowest point in his life - BROKE DICK DOG. He had *ONLY* his smarts, character and kindess to offer me. There was no guarantee that he would ever be able to recover from the unbelievable financial troubles that had befallen him, but he promised me he could and I believed him. We have busted our asses TOGETHER since and we are now on the brink of making an obscene amount of money in a few business ventures. Not only for us but for our families as well.

Would I have married him if I did not believe that he could do it?


HELL NO.

I can and did bust my ass to take care of me, my kids and all the lawyers by myself. Why then, would I need a man? (Therein lies the crux of the issue at hand when speaking of dating. I dont NEED marriage or commitment for sex. I can get sex whenever/wherever I want.)

On the flip side, he knew upfront about my crazy ex, my severe depression brought on because of my children being stolen from me and my severe health issues (read: I wont be very pretty or even all that functional for very much longer).

So then, why did he marry me?

I am still trying to figure that one out. He had any woman he wanted and were it not for MY serious financial issues brought on by my litigious ex and the life he promised for me and my children in addition to his own, he would have recovered much sooner. I suppose he felt that I had something greater to offer than tits and ass, eh?

So you tell me...

I have zero problem stating that for me to consider a perspective mate he needs to have the ability to afford a life for me and my children that I deem proper. Just as I give EVERY man the same lattitude to say that they would reject me based on: my age, my beauty (or lack thereof), my health, my # of children, my baggage (my ex) or if I am too short, wrong color, fake tits, too smart, too high energy... WHATEVER. LMFAO If he dont dig me then he should move the fuck on as there are 50 doods stepping all over each other jumping up and down to gain my attention - even WITH all my short-comings. It is not MY FAULT that not enough women value themselves to see that this is true about THEM TOO.

The bottom line is this: I have never understood why SOME men get so offended by a woman stating that she requires a man to have achieved a certain degree of success but NO WOMAN is *allowed* to get offended if a man states that he wouldn't consider dating a homely woman.

But I am the shallow one?

go figure

I am DISCRIMINATING. If that offends a man (or woman) that is on them.

 

[heatherrae]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

Nope, I've always had my own thing..... Defensive co-captain of the football team and president of the computer club in high school.

Glory days
Well, they pass you by
Glory days
In a young girls eyes
Glory day-ay-as.

 

[javaguru]

Re: Women, if a man did not pay the tab on the first date, would you go on a second d

Glory days
Well, they pass you by
Glory days
In a young girls eyes
Glory day-ay-as.

Life has only gotten better...lol.

 

[nefertiti]

I usually will throw out some suggestions for first date options to avoid any discomfort there. I remember once a guy asked me if I wanted to go out for steak or italian....I said steak thinking that would be something more casual...and he takes me to the fanciest, most expensive steakhouse in DC

I had a good time and he was a gentleman, but I was a little uncomfortable with someone spending that much on dinner with me when I had only met them a few days beforehand.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I usually will throw out some suggestions for first date options to avoid any discomfort there. I remember once a guy asked me if I wanted to go out for steak or italian....I said steak thinking that would be something more casual...and he takes me to the fanciest, most expensive steakhouse in DC

I had a good time and he was a gentleman, but I was a little uncomfortable with someone spending that much on dinner with me when I had only met them a few days beforehand.

I dont understand the last comment. Why would you feel uncomfortable about this?