Why is it that Sex ends with......

[chesty]

Prozac will kill your desire for sex in 0.1 seconds! She def. needs to wein off of that stuff if she can. Why is she on it? She is only 22 and has her whole lilfe ahead of her.

 

[covergrl80]

i did read the thread. msot guys are content with the love of their life. women are always looking for something better. and when i say "u guys" i mean females in general. thats why im never getting married.

Men also look for something better when they are tired of being with the same person. It goes for both. (read above)

As for you not getting married...... That is your best bet.

 

[covergrl80]

Prozac will kill your desire for sex in 0.1 seconds! She def. needs to wein off of that stuff if she can. Why is she on it? She is only 22 and has her whole lilfe ahead of her.

She has OCD.Which I might add is not that bad. I never knew she had it until she told me she was on medication for it.

 

[chesty]

True, guys do the exact same thing and in fact have a harder time not doing it. It is in our nature. (ie, marriage, monogamy runs contrary to our nature to survive and sex is the only way to ensure the species survives) A lot of the time one strays because the relationship became stale, your wife/husband is no longer the picture of who you married years before, weight gain, gut from having kids, wrinkles etc. Apparently women like the wrinkles and shit on a man and men can't stand it on women.

And usually it is only one person in the relationship that heads south physically which makes it worse for the one who didn't, especially if the one who didn't is into fitness, etc.

 

[covergrl80]

True, guys do the exact same thing and in fact have a harder time not doing it. It is in our nature. (ie, marriage, monogamy runs contrary to our nature to survive and sex is the only way to ensure the species survives) A lot of the time one strays because the relationship became stale, your wife/husband is no longer the picture of who you married years before, weight gain, gut from having kids, wrinkles etc. Apparently women like the wrinkles and shit on a man and men can't stand it on women.

And usually it is only one person in the relationship that heads south physically which makes it worse for the one who didn't, especially if the one who didn't is into fitness, etc.

There not cheating on each other and are happy with there relationship (besides the sex). The poor girl just has not sex drive at all. I Think once she gets off the Prozac she will ok.

 

[Sassy69]

This broad sweeping statement that says men will go look for somethign else when they get tired of it is certainly not the assumption I hope. First if the guy is that lame that he's gonna go bang some ho because he's bored w/ sex, despite his commitment to his wife and his fathering of 3 kids, then he deserves to get a nice big fat venereal disease (AND BETTER NOT BRING THAT SHIT BACK TO THE WIFE & FAMILY...) The fact that she's on Prozac is the first thing I would address. Mood is such a fundamental component of what makes us who we are that if you sidestep that particular issue and go look at any of a thousand other "might happens", then you are just missing the point and will probably end up with exactly what you feared (the guy leaving u, maybe getting "it" somewhere else AND getting custody of the kids) because you didn't identify w/ and deal w/ the issue.

Anyway, if you start w/ the hypothesis that sex ends when you get married and set up all your hopes (or lack thereof) and expectations (or lack thereof) around that, you are doomed. If you look very honestly at the set of conditions that apply to this particular person, then you have a chance of coming up w/ the correct solution. Or at least identifying the issues and coming up w/ some way to deal w/ them, or learn to live w/ them.

There is too much at stake with kids and a life started already that she should assume the guy is going to bail. To jump to wide sweeping general statements and look for validatoin of it out of context is not going to solve anything, and may even cause more undue stress than is necessary.

 

[chesty]

It is not a broad statement unfortunately, but rather a fact. And the women do so as often as the men. Men tend to do it more so in their younger years and the women tend to do it in their middle years. It is just a fact of life and usually there is reason that initiates them into cheating such as perceived unhappiness at home, etc. For me, I no longer wanted it from my ex, in fact the thought of it repulsed me greatly. Later I realized it was because subconciously I knew she was cheating on me but I refused to believe that.

 

[HiDnGoD]

Life gets in the way, & we can't be bothered to do the seduction/romance thing.
We need to date our spouses people. C'mon, everybody get out.
Now!






















































What are you still doing here?
Go!

 

[chesty]

I have ocd, but I don't take an anti depressant for it. So I am not sure why she is taking the med.

 

[covergrl80]

I have ocd, but I don't take an anti depressant for it. So I am not sure why she is taking the med.

That is what her Doc gave her to take. I have heard that it's given to a lot of people that have OCD