What would you do..?

[Evil_Frisky]

K i'm battling this in my head for a few days.. haven't made a decision one way or another.

I NEED to compete... not just want to.. NEED to. Its something that I feel I have to do to close a chapter in my life.. to complete a goal and without following through I'll be terribly disappointed with myself.

I've mentioned more than once about how terribly afraid I am about walking on that stage... how I've froze up before infront of small crowds and this Show Is HUGE! The bigger one in the LA area. Not only that but I know alot of people that will be there.. ALOT.. which also adds to the pressure.

No doubts about it my ass will walk up on some stage somewhere in the next few months and show my hard work off.. but I'm stuck between doing this HUGE show which i'm deathly afraid of to the point that even thinking about it races my pulse or .... to doing a smaller show the weekend afterwards.

On one part I feel like i'm running from a fear of not only being infront of thousands but also knowing alot of people I know will be there. This other show is in another town, and It will mostly be all strangers... which I think I can focus better if I don't know but a few in the crowd.

I've brought this up tons of times and I don't want anyone thinking I'm NOT gonna compete.. because that isn't even an issue right now. My issue is ...

I'm afraid of this huge show and I know its adding to my stress levels... I ponder on this damn thing daily. Do I dab my foot in the water, get a feel for My body, my comfort level... or do I just Jump right in and take a huge plunge.

If I do and I totally screw up and freeze.. how will this effect me... Not to say that this won't happen at the smaller show. I just think its more likely with the bigger one. I want to enjoy this experience, I want to be able to walk off stage with the confidence to do this again next year and even at a higher level.

So I weigh my options. And I'm stuck! I value everyones honest opinion here... so don't sugar coat anything. If you think this is a cop out then tell me. I've talked to Sassy, Shadow, Vel, Jens, Miss, Chef and a few others about my fear of crowds and being singled out... which no matter which way I go it will happen. So should I start small and work my way up? Or should I just jump right in?

 

[nycgirl]

There is an episode of Sex in the City, where Carrie is doing a fashion show and she falls. She got her ass up and kept on walking. That is what you would do too (I doubt our Frisky would lie there and cry).

That's why I want to do a show too. The first one for me will be more of a psychological accomplishment than a physical one.

Girl, just do it!!!

 

[The Shadow]

I think you should just do a smaller show....

 

[Evil_Frisky]

There is an episode of Sex in the City, where Carrie is doing a fashion show and she falls. She got her ass up and kept on walking. That is what you would do too (I doubt our Frisky would lie there and cry).

That's why I want to do a show too. The first one for me will be more of a psychological accomplishment than a physical one.

Girl, just do it!!!

hee hee.. You know I have a dream at least 4 nights a week about this.. about me falling, freezing up.. etc.

And yes I continue on but GAWD it frightens the living bejesus out of me.

Its all psychological.. and I know it is. I've over come it before with my MA training... and I know I can do it again. I've started my meditation already. But I have to have a presence on the stage... I can't looked zoned and focused.. I have to smile and be vibrant. I don't know how to incorporate this with my meditation and focus.

EEkkkk

 

[Sassy69]

K i'm battling this in my head for a few days.. haven't made a decision one way or another.

I NEED to compete... not just want to.. NEED to. Its something that I feel I have to do to close a chapter in my life.. to complete a goal and without following through I'll be terribly disappointed with myself.

I've mentioned more than once about how terribly afraid I am about walking on that stage... how I've froze up before infront of small crowds and this Show Is HUGE! The bigger one in the LA area. Not only that but I know alot of people that will be there.. ALOT.. which also adds to the pressure.

No doubts about it my ass will walk up on some stage somewhere in the next few months and show my hard work off.. but I'm stuck between doing this HUGE show which i'm deathly afraid of to the point that even thinking about it races my pulse or .... to doing a smaller show the weekend afterwards.

On one part I feel like i'm running from a fear of not only being infront of thousands but also knowing alot of people I know will be there. This other show is in another town, and It will mostly be all strangers... which I think I can focus better if I don't know but a few in the crowd.

I've brought this up tons of times and I don't want anyone thinking I'm NOT gonna compete.. because that isn't even an issue right now. My issue is ...

I'm afraid of this huge show and I know its adding to my stress levels... I ponder on this damn thing daily. Do I dab my foot in the water, get a feel for My body, my comfort level... or do I just Jump right in and take a huge plunge.

If I do and I totally screw up and freeze.. how will this effect me... Not to say that this won't happen at the smaller show. I just think its more likely with the bigger one. I want to enjoy this experience, I want to be able to walk off stage with the confidence to do this again next year and even at a higher level.

So I weigh my options. And I'm stuck! I value everyones honest opinion here... so don't sugar coat anything. If you think this is a cop out then tell me. I've talked to Shadow, Vel, Jens, Miss, Chef and a few others about my fear of crowds and being singled out... which no matter which way I go it will happen. So should I start small and work my way up? Or should I just jump right in?

I know where you are coming from and it took 1/2 bottle of red wine at 8 am for me to not freak out on stage and I had to do the whole posing routine & all as well.

It sounds like you need a buddy to help show you the ropes at the show, i.e. how to "do" the show. If this is one of the bigger shows in the area, is it an NPC show? Call the promoter & see if they can connect you with some trainers or girls doing the show. Can they help you as far as talking about what you need to expect at the show, how to present yourself, etc. So you will have the knowledge of what to do and expect and it will just be the getting up on stage & executing that you have to do? Also if you have someone up on stage or near you who you can ask quesitons to while you getting hustled out onto stage or whatever (i.e. closer than in the audience). And also I would look at whichever show you do as your place to get your experience. Even the larger show isn't something that like, makes or breaks your career or anything. YOu have to start somewhere, so dont' worry about being the "best" on stage, but rather the best YOU can be. This is the beauty of a first show. There are MANY other show opportunities in a lifetime, so you can let yoru first show be the one you stumble thru or dont' perform or show perfectly because you have to start somewhere.

And I would personally do BOTH shows because you will miss the opportunity to get some real life feedback that you can apply to the second show, even if it is a smaller one. After all your work it would be a shame to not get that second chance to actually use what you learned and the feedback you got to give it another shot. Like I said, doign shows isn't a one time make or break thing. Its something that takes alittle practice just like everything else.

And besides, will you feel like ONE show is getting your money's worth out of that amazing suit???

 

[Sassy69]

Imagine you are getting some major "foreplay" while you are standing there! Another thing you don't want is a fake smile on stage. You are SUPPOSED to look like you are having fun up there. Make eye contact with the judges. Let them know you are there to show off your work. I know its all still a mental thing, but it is literally all about who is having fun up there. Seriously, while you are meditating, imagine how you are going to look and feel w/ that amazing suit on, the heels, the hair, the makeup, THAT BODY! Tell me you don't smile when you think about how you are going to look up there!

And the other thing is, every method of tryign to get over "stage fright", shyness, whatever, involves going out and just doing it. The thing to prove to yourself is that no, no one dies because you spoke up and took the spotlight for a minute.

For me, getting on stage was only part of it - the other major part was just being comfortable with having a handle on what exactly I was supposed to do, when, where and how at the show. That's where I'm suggesting find someone who can help give you the run down on that. I'm thinking preferably NOT a judge because I think some of them are very jaded and overly critical at the wrong times. I.e. if you talk to one 4 weeks before a show, they might tell you that you need to be much tighter or whatever, but that really isnt' constructive criticism unless they can be very specific as to things you can tweak as opposed to brushing you off as just another wannabe and not a "came out of the womb as Monica Brandt".

 

[Miss24k]

Frisky, I definiately understand. I've been ok until now, now that everything is coming together, I got my hair done and have set up all the appts, for the waxing, hair and makeup day of show, got the confirmation that I'm in the show, got the email that my suit will be ready next week. Now I'm so excited and so damn afraid and nervous all at the same time, it's hitting me, I've spent so much time, effort, and money. And alot of friends and people who are like family will be there, I can't believe I'm doing this. Hell yesterday morning I almost cried just visualizing myself on the damn stage, when I was practicing the walk. And this show is huge, thousands of people will be there. Thank gawd that there's a pre-judging where I told nobody about, the only person coming to that is my sister inlaw, not even my bf I told him no, so I don't have to worry about them being there.

Sorry about rambling on about my situation.

Basicly, I think you should do the show you set out to do, suck it up girl and just do it, do it for yourself, because I know this is something you really want to do.

 

[courtneybcca]

you want to be as comfortable as POSSIBLE!! so if you feel that the smaller show will give you a little more experience and you can get your feet wet... then do that... these comps already do a number on your mind, plus add in the low carbs etc etc... its very nerve racking I am not going to lie... but with each show you will become more comfortable being up on stage and it will get easier I PROMISE!!! so if you want to do the smaller one go for it and don't feel bad about it... there is always another show around the corner....

 

[Evil_Frisky]

I know where you are coming from and it took 1/2 bottle of red wine at 8 am for me to not freak out on stage and I had to do the whole posing routine & all as well.

It sounds like you need a buddy to help show you the ropes at the show, i.e. how to "do" the show. If this is one of the bigger shows in the area, is it an NPC show? Call the promoter & see if they can connect you with some trainers or girls doing the show. Can they help you as far as talking about what you need to expect at the show, how to present yourself, etc. So you will have the knowledge of what to do and expect and it will just be the getting up on stage & executing that you have to do? Also if you have someone up on stage or near you who you can ask quesitons to while you getting hustled out onto stage or whatever (i.e. closer than in the audience). And also I would look at whichever show you do as your place to get your experience. Even the larger show isn't something that like, makes or breaks your career or anything. YOu have to start somewhere, so dont' worry about being the "best" on stage, but rather the best YOU can be. This is the beauty of a first show. There are MANY other show opportunities in a lifetime, so you can let yoru first show be the one you stumble thru or dont' perform or show perfectly because you have to start somewhere.

And I would personally do BOTH shows because you will miss the opportunity to get some real life feedback that you can apply to the second show, even if it is a smaller one. After all your work it would be a shame to not get that second chance to actually use what you learned and the feedback you got to give it another shot. Like I said, doign shows isn't a one time make or break thing. Its something that takes alittle practice just like everything else.

And besides, will you feel like ONE show is getting your money's worth out of that amazing suit???

Gosh... that makes so much sense.

I have a video coming next week of last years show. I haven't made any final decision.. and i don't have to till the day of prejudging because they don't have a deadline. It is a NPC show and nats qualifier.

i'm gonna make a few calls and see if i can find someone in the area.

And NO.. one show isn't enough to get my moneys worth out of that suit. LOL haven't even recieved the price yet but my instincts say its gonna be mondo bucko for that baby. hee hee.

 

[Evil_Frisky]

Imagine you are getting some major "foreplay" while you are standing there! Another thing you don't want is a fake smile on stage. You are SUPPOSED to look like you are having fun up there. Make eye contact with the judges. Let them know you are there to show off your work. I know its all still a mental thing, but it is literally all about who is having fun up there. Seriously, while you are meditating, imagine how you are going to look and feel w/ that amazing suit on, the heels, the hair, the makeup, THAT BODY! Tell me you don't smile when you think about how you are going to look up there!

And the other thing is, every method of tryign to get over "stage fright", shyness, whatever, involves going out and just doing it. The thing to prove to yourself is that no, no one dies because you spoke up and took the spotlight for a minute.

For me, getting on stage was only part of it - the other major part was just being comfortable with having a handle on what exactly I was supposed to do, when, where and how at the show. That's where I'm suggesting find someone who can help give you the run down on that. I'm thinking preferably NOT a judge because I think some of them are very jaded and overly critical at the wrong times. I.e. if you talk to one 4 weeks before a show, they might tell you that you need to be much tighter or whatever, but that really isnt' constructive criticism unless they can be very specific as to things you can tweak as opposed to brushing you off as just another wannabe and not a "came out of the womb as Monica Brandt".

LOL.. at the foreplay... NOW that would be interesting. hee hee.. esp being he's gonna be front and center.

I am gonna prep myself at the gym... by posing .. etc infront of the few I often train with. I need to be natural not faked out.. eek

i have a lady here that competed bb and is now gonna try to get in to do some judging for figure. I am thinking she can help me.. walk me through a few things. Its just getting intouch with her.. bah.

oh damn.. Sassy... would ya shack up with me for the few weeks prior to the show and show me the rope.. hee hee.