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walliwalibus
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Well, I am just trying to make it to the end of '08. I do have a three week vacation to my fathers place. That's in 2 weeks. Oh man, I am getting closer to that than I thought. Time to make new goals.
What would U like to have happen to U in 09?
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javaguru
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He may want it but married life is so different...
I know a gay marriage counselor that made a very profound statement. I'll quote him," Women get married hoping to change their husband and men get married hoping their wife will never change."
walliwalibus
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But they change as soon as the day is done.
Damn that was a nice quote there, very true LOL.
(shrug) I'm go with the flow on the wedding details, though I'm grateful we at least agree on the actual ceremony.
meh....That's an old "ism" that i think is a recipe for disaster. I wouldn't get married if I was hoping it would change someone. Who he is now is the guy I want him to always be. I've told him point blank...and one of the things he's said he loves about me is, "You let me be me." Sure he's got flaws and he does things that make me nuts. But that is who he is and I just find a way to appreciate those things about him.
The second half....well i don't put on a show to get a ring, nor do i think there's ever a risk of me getting fat and lazy...the girl he knows is actually who i am....no worries there either.
I'm not saying that this "ism" doesn't commonly apply...but IMO it commonly applies to situations that don't end up working out...and it doesn't apply to me.
Sigh...not all of us do. Some of us actually like to CONTINUE being the objects of our partners desire.
This....if you believe in it...is a self fulfilling prophecy. If you expect it, you'll find a girl who fits the bill and when it happens you won't be surprised. If you refuse to accept it and expect more, there's a chance you can actually find more.
Not gonna happen.
javaguru
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I wish you the best, my best friend totally loves his wife.(shrug) I'm go with the flow on the wedding details, though I'm grateful we at least agree on the actual ceremony.
meh....That's an old "ism" that i think is a recipe for disaster. I wouldn't get married if I was hoping it would change someone. Who he is now is the guy I want him to always be. I've told him point blank...and one of the things he's said he loves about me is, "You let me be me." Sure he's got flaws and he does things that make me nuts. But that is who he is and I just find a way to appreciate those things about him.
The second half....well i don't put on a show to get a ring, nor do i think there's ever a risk of me getting fat and lazy...the girl he knows is actually who i am....no worries there either.
I'm not saying that this "ism" doesn't commonly apply...but IMO it commonly applies to situations that don't end up working out...and it doesn't apply to me.
I wish you the best, my best friend totally loves his wife.
Thank you...really. I know you can tell but i'm insanely in love with this guy, and for all the right reasons. I really want this to work out.
javaguru
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I'm an e-dick but when you find someone that can totally pwn you...that's being human....and we all want to believe in love.
Adjusting? Shit I lived there all my life until 2 years ago. Walk in the park.
