What method do you use to meet/hook up with chicks in clubs and bars?

[mdd]

Everytime I go into a bar I walk out in utter disgust. Problem is I go into the places with the intention of having a good time and possibly meeting someone at the very least. I always start to pyche myself up before I go in and tell myself if I don't meet any chicks its not the end of the world. This method always fails miserably everytime. After about three hours of standing in the same fuckin place it gets to old. So I'm not really what you would call shy but I sure as shit am not going to approach women that don't give me a glance for obvious reasons {there with boyfriend, friends, lesbians}. Now heres the real kicker, I notice the fat ugly motherfuckers with some of the hottest women in the place. This bewilders me everytime. I'm not the next Brad Pitt but I'm sure as hell not ugly either. This is what gets me. So I just console myself in the knowledge that this is just a bad night and reinforces why I detest the opposite sex so much . But problem is, it happens every fucking night. Any advice?

well for what my input is worth... here it is. i'm relatively young too and still learning the ropes since i'm just getting into the club type scene so i'm in the same boat as your. however i have picked up on a few things


i go out looking to have a good time with my bros, if i get a # BONUS....... take this attitude with you when you go out and the chicks will pick up on it (goes back to the confidence thing plus ur not one of the 10 million fuck nuts sliming their way thru the crowd rubbing on every chick you see.... yes they will appreciate that). for a while i did the same shit standing in one place for extended periods of time. girls will approach but not nearly often enough. u gotta can that shit. at least walk around through the crowd and stuff.

area5150 has the right idea. you gotta get eyecontact and or a smile from them first before going up to them. asking them if theyd like to dance is great too, just like he said. if you dont youll get a weird look and a friend of hers will run to her rescue and pull her away. if a cute girl is trying to squeeze her way up to the crowded bar to order, and the bartender comes to you first, point to her and let her order before you. little things to break the ice bro. be a gentleman, the kind of chicks u wanna meet will respond to that... forget the others


- dress and groom yourself nicely depending on the types of clubs you go to NO ABERCROMBIE or other trendy college type stuff. SMELL NICE TOO! key is to stand out

- never try to seperate a chick from her other single friends, she wont leave them. period. if your gonna try it, make sure u have enough guy friends with you who can cover her friends

-if u see a chick you like and shes not noticing you, make sure she notices you noticing her. check her reaction and assess the situation from there

- talk to her while your dancing. make her laugh. MAKE FUNNY COMMENTS ABOUT SOME OTHER CLOWN CLOSE BY IF YOUR WORRIED ABOUT YOUR DANCING SKILLS.

hell, make fun of yourself and say u dont dance much, ask her for help/pointers

if you dance with a chick and you think theres a mutual interest after the song, thank her and say it sure is hot in here and ask her if she wants to go get a water with you or somethng. this will give you some alone time to talk and will help you come off as a human being not some asshole trying to hookup in the middle of the dance floor. i'd stay away from alchololic drinks unless she has one in hand and is ready for another. (more time than not she'll opt for the h20) and think its a sweet gesture instead of u trying to get her lit so u can get in her pants

if you get the eye contact/smile we talked about earlier, make sure you acknowledge her with a smile or something. dont be a scared little boy who turns his head right away

get the smile, make sure she see's you acknowle her. turn your back to order a drink or have a convo with someone, ie dont be eager and run right up to her. wait 10-15 minutes and get into her zone again. if you see her looking and making eye contact again your in her head and shes wondering where you went before. repeat this if you think u can get away with it but dont ruin ur chance. YOUR IN. go introduce youself ask her "if she'd like to dance"

thats all i can think of right now... lol. good luck!

oh, and dont be totally blitzed. that doesnt help the cause

also, choose your girls wisely. chicks up ontop of the bar or on the stripper pole arent there to meet anyone

 

[Xx_Metro_xX]

Just little tip about dancing.....Don't put your hands all over them while your dancing with 'em. I've had several girls tell me straight up that they thought i was awesome that i could dance without being all up on 'em.....If they want to be gropped (sp?), they will grab your hand and put it in "places"


"i go out looking to have a good time with my bros, if i get a # BONUS....... take this attitude with you when you go out and the chicks will pick up on it (goes back to the confidence thing plus ur not one of the 10 million fuck nuts sliming their way thru the crowd rubbing on every chick you see.... yes they will appreciate that). for a while i did the same shit standing in one place for extended periods of time. girls will approach but not nearly often enough. u gotta can that shit. at least walk around through the crowd and stuff."

this is probably the best advice i've seen throughout the thread...

 

[BadboyAl]

best way to pick up a chick in most cities now is just tell them you have an endless supply of coke....they'll come right over

Damn I like that thought...

I got meeting girls down to a science!!

You need to approach meeting girls like it is a mathamatical equation.

Chance of getting laid = exposer time x distance traveled....

You need to make the most of the building your in.. Never stay in same spot..
Me and my freinds spend most of the time either continuesouly walking aroudn the club or dancing in the spots were the hot girls are...

The more you walk around the better your chance to have a girl give you a smile, pinch your ass, or sqeeuze your big arms..
The more you walk around the more exposer you have to more girls. ( Sitting in same spot only lets you see maybe 30% of all the girls in the club. (Girls dont travel around the club much..)

Dont waste time on 1 girl for to long.. If I see a girl I really like I hang around long enough to get her attention. If she notices me and doesnt give me a nice smile or wave to come over then I leave and move on...

Finaly, maybe the most important thing is to stay late.. Thats when most of the girls are drunk and all you need to do is give them a smile and they will dance with you...

Pass what i have taught you on to your kids and you get to hook up with your sons girlfriends friends......or atleast be an old pervert and watch them in there bikini's in your pool...(hahaha)

 

[geoboy]

based on much experience, guys don't pick girls up. girls pick guys up by letting guys pick them up. got it?

or phrased anotyher way, a guy chases a girl until the girl catches him.

if you're in any way good looking, &/or built, &/or well-dressed whatever there will be girls whose eye you catch, and they'll let you know they're at least willing to give you an opprrtunity to hit on them by standing/dancing in front of you, catching your eye more than once or twice, etc.

just pick from these.

if you aren't goodlooking, built or well dressed, either flash alot of cash, or stay home and make like the guy in the Billy Joel song (capt jack).


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p.s. Or you can make a sympathy play:

"you wanna dance, or should I just go fuck myself?"

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[DEEZPAZ]

I agree that standing around isn't going to get you anywhere but drunk by yourself... The best time to get a girl is when you're really not trying... They can sense when a guy is desperate and that turns them off.. If you're w/ your boys and having a good time smiling and laughing then they think you are fun and want to get closer... If you're by yourself, which I would never do, then just talk to as many girls as possible and eventually one will bite...

As the old saying goes "If you throw enough shit against the wall, some of its bound to stick"

 

[Kai Hvatum]

This might not work for you, but when I go clubbing at home my little sis usually wants to come along. She's pretty good looking and I like looking out for her. When I'm out with her I ALWAYS get more looks from women. I think the chicks look at her and notice she's pretty hot, so they immediatly think there must be something going on with me since such a hot chick is hanging out with me.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

keep moving, keep chatting, look good, smell good, use bodylanguage, smile, and have fun that doesnt depend on pulling women, and let it show

i have a good time. people around me have a good time. be fun, look nice, and actually make a move

you just gotta figure out how to appeal to people. its not hard. when you get in a tight spot just think really hard and say...what would fyxgel do?

then do the opposite lol

 

[Mpower]

Its all about confidence with girls having the balls to approach them its very simple. If you like what you see approach her, girls like confidence its sexy.

 

[AristotleBC]

Get rich

 

[nikolai_bolkov]

damn ppl, stop overanalysing it, it's NOT a science!!!

don't go out to a club to find a girlfriend, it's not gonna happen...

say hello and ask if you can buy them a drink, then converse lightly, if she's into you you'll know it in 5 mins...

into you signs: smiling, eye contact, talks back, touches you lightly

not into you: looks around, not smiling or forced smiling, short close ended answers

if you're on the dancefloor and you think some girl digs you (dances close to you) hold out your hand, if she grabs it go for it, twirl her around (sounds cheesy but it's not, works in any club\music type)

that's the hard part, the openers, you may not take them home, but nothing in life's a guarantee

the above probably sounds obvious to those of you with experience, but there are probably some of you out there who feel awkward about it

oh, and dress nice, and not too much after shave