Unattractive men do get the hotties

[cindylou]

FWIW since I know javaguru personally and have met him IRL.. his e-persona is nothing like his RL personality.

It is funny to hear people speak about LTR when they've never had one last longer than 3 years..the first 3 years are cake. Hell, the first 5 years are easy. I need to know what I'm doing wrong between year 5 and 10...I'd hate to make the same mistakes again.

 

[mrplunkey]

FWIW since I know javaguru personally and have met him IRL.. his e-persona is nothing like his RL personality.

It is funny to hear people speak about LTR when they've never had one last longer than 3 years..the first 3 years are cake. Hell, the first 5 years are easy. I need to know what I'm doing wrong between year 5 and 10...I'd hate to make the same mistakes again.

This clip is entertaining, but it is also accurate.

The answer is simple -- recycling (you'll see it in the clip). But implementing it is very difficult.

 

[Lumberg]

That's a hilarious clip but what's up with the two minutes of cheering and clapping at the end?

 

[mrplunkey]

That's a hilarious clip but what's up with the two minutes of cheering and clapping at the end?

I don't make 'em, I just JavaGuru them.

 

[ghettostudmuffin]

I'm far more inclined to interest in Wiccan beliefs than your typical organized religion.

Christianity
Catholiciscm
Islam
LDS
Scientology

And many others.

Any one of these you can absolutely rip apart if you actually apply a little thought.

I'm not going to take any religion strictly on faith when it insults my intelligence at every turn.

Saying your religion is the only true way is not comparable to saying in math 2+2 is always 4. First of all math is logical. Second it does not insult your intelligence. 3rd it does not ask you to take anything strictly on faith. Granted, some of the more radical scientific ideas are pretty far out there, but at least they are founded off of scientific principles.

If you believe your religion is the only way you might as well believe you are a supreme, all knowing super being because you and nobody that believes in your belief system can prove it is the only valid, logical, rational form or religious belief on this planet. Unfortunately for you you cannot prove this. Every one just needs to take it on "faith".

Also there really is no saying you don't believe others are condemned to hell if they don't believe religion or your religion specifically. By committing to that religion you acknowledge it's belief system. If you pick and choose what you believe out of that system then in fact you do not really believe in that religion, but instead have formed your viewpoint as convoluted as it may be and should probably take a closer look at what you think you really believe.

Go watch Religulous sometime. It can be thought provoking.

I'm sure I'll get some hate, but it is what it is.

 

[cindylou]

I know that MM is experiencing SOMETHING and whatever it is...I know it's real. So.

 

[cindylou]

This clip is entertaining, but it is also accurate.

The answer is simple -- recycling (you'll see it in the clip). But implementing it is very difficult.

I wonder how to recycle my own pussy...instead of leaving it up to him...

 

[KillahBee]

The receptionist at the clinic where I apprentice looks just like Megan Fox, no wait, HOTTER than her. She has D boobs and is stunning.
When I met her, I imagined she had a super hot husband.
I come out of the office the other day and there is this geeky short, overweight guy with a HUGE nose flirting with her, and I was like "yeah dude, keep dreaming"
She says to me "Blue, I want you to meet my husband"

Gulp, no way!

The doctor I work with is also a hot blonde with huge boobs and her boyfriend is short, hairy, has bad teeth, and is chubby.
But these women are happy as can be. That'll teach me to be superficial!

These men send them flowers and are super romantic.
Do unattractive men just try harder?

"These men send them flowers" - lmao. Too easy.

From the outside, one can only assume:

- Either this is one of them super rare situations where caring and true love trump all

OR / much more likely

- The dudes have money and/or are easy little bitches.

It's typically not that hard to get "hotties". All it takes is the willingness to give up some of your independence and pride in order to keep them happy. Those situations rarely end up positive for both parties, but sometimes it works. I have a good friend who is a physical disaster but his wife is about an 8.5. It's pretty easy to see what's up - she can easily dominate him and the relationship, she makes the decisions and he's forever in the position of "I got lucky and grabbed a girl out of my league so I'm going to do whatever I need to do to keep it going".

It ain't healthy, but it's pretty common.

PLEASE, don't be that person who mistakes 'giving people stuff' for love or caring or romanticism. We're all better than that (hopefully).

 

[mrplunkey]

I wonder how to recycle my own pussy...instead of leaving it up to him...

This is exactly what a small percentage of very clever wimminz do.

1) Men have an evolutionary urge to procreate with as many women as practically possible.

2) Men also have an evolutionary urge to pair with one woman for at least some period of time. I'm guessing it's because it increases their offspring's chances of survival.

But here's the little secret:

The built-in urge for (1) is our old brain, which means it's terrible unsophisticated. It can be tricked with the smallest changes (i.e. different outfits, different venues, different positions, roleplay, etc. etc.). So guess what that does? It "turns old pussy into new pussy."

And the smartest of the smartest women understand one other concept. In evolutionarily terms, women are the gatekeepers for sex. So when a highly interested female comes along, it can completely wipe-out an unsuspecting male. I've seen truckloads of corporate guys over the years who married fairly poorly, climbed the corporate ladder, yet kept the same, mundane sex life at home. Then some woman comes along who acts highly interested in them, and it blows them completely up. I used to ride the bus in sixth grade with a kid who's father managed one of our plants. His mother was pretty and seemed nice enough. But a sewer in one of our plants chased this guy (fairly hard) and within weeks he was leaving his wife and two kids to shack-up with her. We had to fire him, which made riding the bus to school an awkward event every day.

So what's the secret?

1) Be sweet

2) Give it up a lot (enthusiastically) and mix things up from time-to-time.

Any strategy that is more complex is really giving us (men) more credit than we deserve. Even the ponytail/starbucks/turtleneck sweater guys realize they aren't much more than bears with furniture -- they're just faking it.

HTH

 

[musclemom]

Here's what I don't get ... whenever men on this board ask questions or comment about trying to understand women, and the women around here try to elucidate for them, literally guys will pour into a thread telling the other guy not to listen to women when they try to explain women.

What a warm fuzzy feeling to know that women can't provide reliable insight to either gender and men have all the answers. Still. A million years of evolution, the right to vote, and yet we are still too stupid to know our own minds.