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GoldenDelicious
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i think what velvett et al meant when they said dont think about it, is that you DWELL on getting girls, and think about it TOO FUCKING MUCH
you do realise that there is more to life than getting laid and having girlfriends?
it could be that your problem is that you are so focussed on getting girls that its turning you into a VERY BORING PERSON
its not about having balls to talk to girls etc etc, imo its just that youre an unattractive, unbalanced person. youre not ugly, but your desperation is bloody offputting.
whats going to happen when you finally do get a girlfriend? (hey, Jesus walked on water. its possible youll get a girl. one day. maybe. when all the devils in hell wear their jumpers) what the hell are you going to talk about? how to get more girls?
ive thought long and hard fyxgel, but what i think you need more than anything is a 50 bag of really, really good weed.
cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeers
you do realise that there is more to life than getting laid and having girlfriends?
it could be that your problem is that you are so focussed on getting girls that its turning you into a VERY BORING PERSON
its not about having balls to talk to girls etc etc, imo its just that youre an unattractive, unbalanced person. youre not ugly, but your desperation is bloody offputting.
whats going to happen when you finally do get a girlfriend? (hey, Jesus walked on water. its possible youll get a girl. one day. maybe. when all the devils in hell wear their jumpers) what the hell are you going to talk about? how to get more girls?
ive thought long and hard fyxgel, but what i think you need more than anything is a 50 bag of really, really good weed.
cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeers
GoldenDelicious said:i think what velvett et al meant when they said dont think about it, is that you DWELL on getting girls, and think about it TOO FUCKING MUCH
you do realise that there is more to life than getting laid and having girlfriends?
it could be that your problem is that you are so focussed on getting girls that its turning you into a VERY BORING PERSON
its not about having balls to talk to girls etc etc, imo its just that youre an unattractive, unbalanced person. youre not ugly, but your desperation is bloody offputting.
whats going to happen when you finally do get a girlfriend? (hey, Jesus walked on water. its possible youll get a girl. one day. maybe. when all the devils in hell wear their jumpers) what the hell are you going to talk about? how to get more girls?
ive thought long and hard fyxgel, but what i think you need more than anything is a 50 bag of really, really good weed.
cheeeeeeeeeeeeeeers
look fellow,
There isn't any more to life, than getting laid and having girlfriends, unless you believe in giving back to the world, doing volunteer work, charity, or some other crap like that.
I know I think about it a lot. And I think its unfortunate that girls aint down for a guy who has a healthy amount of testosterone in him.
And by the way, what the hell are you saying in that it ISNT about having the balls to go up and talk to girls?!?
Everyone who follows my threads knows that this is something that I have been struggling with, the problem of not approaching girls, and this is most likely the biggest reason behind my lack of success. Therefore I want to work on this problem first.
If I find out that even after approaching 100 women, that I still am a boring dweeb and that none of them will like me until I have more for me going on in my life, then I will give up on women temporarily and pursue other things.
I suppose if I was exciting and had a life, maybe, just maybe some chick would have asked me out by now (without me having to do anything) but usually that isnt how it works.
Therefore I think you have isolated the wrong problem buddy.
Bran987 said:
Of course not. But then again, hardly any people live that way (the perfect self sacrificing, giving away, life) so why should I be expected to live that way?
Its not easy to go on living, not caring at all about your own wants, and putting them aside to accomplish a greater purpose.
GoldenDelicious
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fyxgel2 said:
i you werent so earnest i would flame you to a crisp for your threads, i swear sometimes
disclaimer: im about to waste a few minutes of my life. youre just not going to listen anyway, but ok, fuckit, why not.
look. there is more to life than women and sex. theres this really important word taht you need to focus on, and that word is FUN. you know, fun? have fun, its fun! make it so that others have fun around you, thats fun too!
fun is a huge element of ATTRACTION. you ahve to focus on this word too. attraction isnt all about looks, it isnt all about money, or going places and all that crap - a lot of it is sheer sex drive, sure, but a lot more of it is about making people comfortable, and having fun, particularly in a sexy way. think dancing. kissing. fondling. its all about having fun.
now. i see you as one of those guys who sits back and WATCHES everyone, listens and remembers everything, overanalyses everything etc etc...quite frankly people like that make me uncomfortable. they make a lot of the women i know feel creeped out. quite frankly youre dwelling on all this girlfriend shit and its making you a lot less fun to be around than if you, say, chilled the fuck out. with that hig quality weed i was talking about, for example.
obviously going up the girls is important since getting with people is dependent on proximity and opportunity, but still - this overanalysing, severe, critical frame of mind youre in is not making you attractive, imo. i saw your pic, youre a good looking guy...just chill out, and instead of focusing on how to get a woman into bed or "be your girlfriend" or whatever youre dwelling on, concentrate more on being a more easygoing, fun person to be around.
DONT make people feel bad with all this christian, holier than thou morality bullshit, DONT make girls feel bad by demanding that they speak the truth (you know the thread im talking about...you probably made her feel uncomfy), DONT pressure people to invite you places (even if they submit to it, youre not going to have a lot of fun, or be a lot of fun in an unwelcome atmosphere) DONT hassle people for company or bombard them with emails etc, and DONT act different to people because they are more/less hot than the girl standing next to them.
all of these things are thing you ahve spoken about in your threads, and each situation is a tad unpleasant, particularly for the girl. definitley not fun. definitely not conductive to attraction. despite the opportunity and proximity.
do all the things you like that DONT have to do with sex, have fun on your own, and incorperate people into your world- chat to them, tell them about your day, ask about theirs, crack a joke or 3, give a compliment or 2, DONT voice any harsh opinions about the things they did in their day, make a joke out of it instead (i can soo see you preaching to people)...you know...socialise, be pleasant to be around....but be yourself at the same time. if you ever ask yourself "what would BBF do?" then find a hammer and smash yourself in the testicles a few times, just for me.
theres a lot of different ways to get girls fyxgel, but i think you need to focus a bit more on getting some friends, learning how to socialise, be fun and have fun in a social setting, and generally find some balance in your life.
else you just aint going to get laid, and youll keep on posting f&*^ing threads
you ballbreaker
Okay, so how about if I stop analyzing and shit, and just start asking girls out?
goldendelicious, your advice is good and all, but just remember:
I wont change myself in order to make others like me more, but I will change myself in order to make myself more pleasing to others. I think it is good to make this distinction.
Its good to be accomodating.
Some people dont have much to offer socially (like me) other people do have a lot to offer socially.
I will try to make friends, as I am sure that God did not just put me in this Earth to live in a shack and analyze everything about life.
I think one important thing for me to keep in mind though is to avoid unwelcoming crowds, like what you mentioned above. Some times I am persistent and invite myself places, and that isnt a good thing.
In any case though, I think I still definately need to take risks, and ask out girls.
Here's basically what I think:
No matter how many friends I have, no matter how fun to be around I am, or no matter how many hobbies I have, or clubs I am in, or goodlooking I am, etc. etc. etc.
--None of it will matter if I dont learn to take any risks and ask some girls out every now and then.
You have to make opportunity happen. It doesnt just come to you.
goldendelicious, your advice is good and all, but just remember:
I wont change myself in order to make others like me more, but I will change myself in order to make myself more pleasing to others. I think it is good to make this distinction.
Its good to be accomodating.
Some people dont have much to offer socially (like me) other people do have a lot to offer socially.
I will try to make friends, as I am sure that God did not just put me in this Earth to live in a shack and analyze everything about life.
I think one important thing for me to keep in mind though is to avoid unwelcoming crowds, like what you mentioned above. Some times I am persistent and invite myself places, and that isnt a good thing.
In any case though, I think I still definately need to take risks, and ask out girls.
Here's basically what I think:
No matter how many friends I have, no matter how fun to be around I am, or no matter how many hobbies I have, or clubs I am in, or goodlooking I am, etc. etc. etc.
--None of it will matter if I dont learn to take any risks and ask some girls out every now and then.
You have to make opportunity happen. It doesnt just come to you.
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fyxgel2 said:
Whatever fucktard...tomarrow you will be like, "Oh I was going to ask Andrea for her number...but I got scared... and i realized that maybe she might not like me and she might think I'm a loser and I started hyperventelating, because I am a scared little bitch..."
I'll believe it when I see it, orb. Seriously, being a bottom as not as bad as some thing from what I hear. Just use lots of lube.
Taps
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Foxy, I really want to write you off as a bitter, psychotic, fucktard loser with no social skills what-so-ever....
But, then I remember back to how I was when I was a kid, and I was about a billion times worse than you. Girls scared the living shit out of me, heck everything scared me. I grew out of it and so will you.
In 5 years, you'll look back and laugh at what an idiot you were.
But, then I remember back to how I was when I was a kid, and I was about a billion times worse than you. Girls scared the living shit out of me, heck everything scared me. I grew out of it and so will you.
In 5 years, you'll look back and laugh at what an idiot you were.
