telling a woman she's getting fat

[FitFossil]

...she will have none of that!! (revamping) as far as working out goes...she really does not care for weight training at all, she said it hurts her later on in the day-tightens her all up....Ive tried different approaches...

Maybe you need to remind her of this cold hard truth:

As the body ages, it loses muscle mass, and as that goes, so does that wonderful metabolism of youth. How many people do we all know who say "I weigh the same, but my clothes don't fit like they used to"? That lost muscle is gradually replaced with body fat, and a pound of fat takes up more space than a pound of muscle. Fortunately, muscle loss doesn't have to happen. It's all a case of "use it or lose it". Beyond a certain age, great bodies don't just happen, they take work.

 

[Daisy_Girl]

If she wants no part in revamping, doesn't seen tontoice the gains or want to make steps to change what is happening...then sorry, there is nothing you can do. IMO. People have to WANT to change....your thoughts, opinions, concerns don't mean squat. If she doesn't WANT to take the necessary steps - then it ain't gonna happen.

 

[RottenWillow]

There is no good way to tell a woman she's getting fat

PBR I'd say you're trying to navigate a minefield here.

I think men are very hard pressed to understand how consumed most of us (women) are with bodyfat. We are programmed from early childhood by society to want to be skinny and to be terrified of being fat. If you are certain this is something she would want to hear and that it is something she can handle hearing then just say it, otherwise doooooooont do it.

 

[wend]

It sounds like she'd be a good candidate for Pilates and yoga. It they may not change the body's composition as quickly or as dramatically as weight lifting, but they still can do wonders. AND, they can help an aging body not only by building muscle and burning fat, but by increasing flexibility so as to decrease aches and pains.

And Anya's right...I don't think there's really a good way to tell a woman she's getting fat.

 

[CrystalChick]

What's that commercial for Xenadrin the guy pops out and says....."NOW IM BACK TO MY FIGHTING WEIGHT" LOL
I would never tell a girl she is gaining weight Im pretty confident her clothes say it all....

CC

 

[PBR]

you guys have spoken very true words...this is territory that I do not want to venture into...the opinions expressed here come from a wide range of experiences and knowledge...thanks -your advice will be taken....PS. she does pilates every day, and usually swims 5 days a week...Still there is IMO, little that compares to advanced weight training or (resistance) training to get the physique that I find attractive...and obviously the diet plays such a major role....the woman is very attractive (beautiful) whether or not she wishes to stay that way is up to her....

 

[PBR]

maj- you're so very right...

 

[wend]

Oopsie. That was me. Sorry 'bout that...I accidentally posted under his login.

(Ladies, I'd said that she had to be in pretty good shape with all that activity, and that mayhaps he was just getting used to finding really muscular women attractive!)

 

[PBR]

ok wend.."you are so very very right!!! there, all better...LOL

 

[DJ_UFO]

just tell her...it is the true...if she screams, cry or whatever just walk away and close the door...why always men have to be "planning" and wasting time on how to tell things to women??...If she is getting fat, that means SHE IS GETTING FAT. That's a fact. If she doesn't like it, that's her problem.
shit. enough women abuse in this world.