telling a woman she's getting fat

[jenscats5]

Wow!! Sensitive subject!!!!

I remember my husband telling me a year later that I hadn't looked good in my bikini the past summer....man that hurt...BUT

I gues I would rather be told, but it's the way you say something sometimes rather than what you say. Good luck PBR, you'll need it!!!!!

 

[PinkPanther]

Yeah, I agree with jenscats, it does matter HOW you tell her. If you just blurt out that she's fat, that may not turn out so well...

 

[Ulter]

ok...damn it...how do you tell a really good looking/sexy woman, she is getting fat????

DON'T DO IT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. You'll regret it I promise.
I like the let's go look at bathing suits idea. Another is to find a piece of tight fitting sexy clothing that she wore when she was leaner and ask if she could wear for you to a club or night out.

 

[velvett]

Re: Re: telling a woman she's getting fat

Another is to find a piece of tight fitting sexy clothing that she wore when she was leaner and ask if she could wear for you to a club or night out.

That would work too - you don't have to say anything the shrinking clothes will be suggestion enough.




That said, I still can't see how any woman woud not realize that her girth was growing. Hell, I'm aware of how much water I'm holding at any given time.

 

[jenscats5]

Re: Re: Re: telling a woman she's getting fat

That would work too - you don't have to say anything the shrinking clothes will be suggestion enough.




That said, I still can't see how any woman woud not realize that her girth was growing. Hell, I'm aware of how much water I'm holding at any given time.

That is true -- she must be aware of it.....here's another tactic --- does she have a cool/sexy/favorite outfit that's SURE to not fit?? If so, say "Let's go out to XXX & why don't you wear that XXX outfit?" guaranteed that it won't fit her, thus snapping her into reality??

Might work.....maybe...

 

[PBR]

thanks you guys...been very busy just getting back here...MMMMM???? so I'll wear a "cup" for a date or night out, I'll take her shopping for a bathing siut, on the way to a club or dancing....great!! sounds good...LOL....she lives very far away and I dont see her often....when I met her she was in a size 2-4...very cute...now....????? she swims, and does not like weight training...go figure!!!?? she is very aware of her body-micro manages it-so this is surprising actually....she is under a tremendous amount of stress, all the time-due to work and I know thats where this is coming from....I think I'll take Ulters advice- its always very sound- and in this case...safe...FIT- thats too funny but also a great way to do this... thanks again everyone....and women ask me, why am I only interested in women who work out and "have to have hard-bodies"??? its a life style that has to gel with mine....I for one will not wake-up one day, with 25# of fat, and wonder how the hell did I get this????

 

[Raina]

If I ask my significant other the "fat" question I expect an honest answer. But as someone with a caliper at home I know when I'm gaining fat.

If you don't want to go the direct route see if she's like to revamp her diet and training with you. Help set something up and she might be less pissy about it (if she's the type to get upset about that sort of things).

 

[PBR]

Raina- she will have none of that!! (revamping) as far as working out goes...she really does not care for weight training at all, she said it hurts her later on in the day-tightens her all up....Ive tried different approaches- she just likes her swimming....she is getting sloppy fat..??? you know...a little too much everywhere-arms, stomach, thighs, face....its a shame- she is very hot and still is but summer is comming and looking for new bathing siuts will do the dirty work, as FIT suggested......its when you are small and thin to begin with, that any gain out of place really shows up and is very obvious...its hard to watch from such a distance...

 

[PBR]

one thing i should add, this girl is an absolute doll and nothing negative was meant by this thread...just concern...

 

[anthrax]

Show her the latest Slim Fast ad

and run away, far and fast