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Some girl thanked me today for hitting on her
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Lao Tzu said:
I recall reading about a study they did once outlining why people in small towns appear friendlier than big city people. The short of it is simply because you encounter fewer people. If your walking down the street in small town, you run into relatively few people. As a result it is easier to look people in the eye, stop them, and say hello.
In large cities the opposite is true, people avoid making eye contact with others, for the simple fact that there are so many others passing them by. For some it is the sheer number of people they find frightengly overwhelming, and others just a nautural reaction to being unable to possibly interact with such a large number. So as a result to someone from a small town they appear cold and rude.
Anyone who possesses a commodity that other people greatly desire is constantly bombarded with people with their hand out so to speak. If you are going down the street and one person asks you for some spare change you are likely to give it with a smile. But if you are bombarded with 20+ people all asking you for money down that same street you eventually develop at best a feigned indifference, and at worst a hostile attitude toward it all. If the last few were themselves hostile or rude when panhandling, what would be your likely reaction to the next one?
Not to say that some people aren't just assholes, because of course they are. But better for you (stress that) if you simply give them the benefit of the doubt, assume that they have cause to act the way they do, and simply brush it off. You might even manage some sympathy for the person in the process. It neevr feels good when someone treats you poorly, especially when it hits so close to the ego. But in the end you are better off having some perspective about it all, recognizing that there are likely good reasons for why they behave the way they do, and don't take it very personally.
Robert Jan
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Sounds like you could have tagged her BF or not.
perhaps it's not too late. usually I'm against this sort of thing but in your case nordy, (you will always be my nordy-nord) it's an emergency.
PS my post count is 6900
perhaps it's not too late. usually I'm against this sort of thing but in your case nordy, (you will always be my nordy-nord) it's an emergency.
PS my post count is 6900
Nathan
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Lao Tzu said:
I think you need to listen to your instincts a little more closely, personally. I also think you'll find your opinions change when you get going a little more comfortably. You say you don't want sex and the bottom line with that is that it isn't normal. Your were born with a penis so that you can use it to impregnant women and pass your genes on to future generations. Granted, I could be wrong and the real reason we were born with penises could be to tie streamers to them and then invent interpretive dance routines with our phalluses. There's a big part of me that hopes that that is the case.
I just think you'll surprise yourself in some shape or form in the end.
Good.
Tweakle
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don't treat 'players guides' as gospel bro, they're either excerises in wish fullfillment written by Walter Mitty wannabes or by good looking guys who've never really had to work that hard. Not that they can't help but a woman knows whether she'll sleep with you the moment she sees you.
ps. my 2c - rather than earnestly talking about her major or job try some observational humor next time. even if it's not funny act like it is and she'll be amused, women are conditioned into laughing at our shitty jokes.
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