Some girl thanked me today for hitting on her

[bran987]

On another note when i do run across haughty women what should i use to cut them down so they won't treat other men taht way? I figure a mean insult won't work i need something that is more like what a father would say. Something like 'in 20 years all you'll have to go on is personality so you'd better start working on that'. Something to make her think that she should treat people nicer, i'd prefer that over an insult. Any ideas? I don't want to just duck and run if a woman is a brat, i want her to pay and to not treat others that way.

Thanks a lot. It's taken me 8 years to come out of this shell and get out of the horrible funk I was in, but you just sent me right back to square one.
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Ah, pardon me, I shouldn't have mistaken you for someone with a heart.
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Since you don't know me, and were so rude you didn't feel like talking to me was worth your time, you apparently just decided to reject me based solely on my looks. Which is exactly what you so superciliously accuse men of doing. hypocrite, get away from me, you make me sick. I just did one of those little mini vomits and swallowed it back because of you.

 

[Lao Tzu]

Not always.

When I'm invloved with someone and someone else asks me out I appreciate it and make sure they realize it (unless they scare me and I just want to run from them..) but we part ways.

It's nice to desired but at the same time you can't forget about the other person n the other side that may not get what they want but it doesn't have to feel like rejection.

rejection doesn't really bother me, even rejections give me experience i need. Besides it unrealistic to think i won't get rejected more than i get accepted on this front. I just want to maintain my dignity while I do this. As long as I have that rejection isn't a big deal.

 

[Nathan]

Keep going. The goal should be that you get to the point that when you ask girls out, even if they have a boyfriend, no is not a word they'll be able to easily say. It's just like anything else man, the more you work at it, the better you get. Your mind is adaptive. You can do it, champ. I BELIEVE in YOU. I want to see you post about your dates and shit soon. I think that would be fun. You have to too, you can't be a bitch and not keep us posted. Jesus won't like you anymore if you do that and you won't go to Heaven.

 

[the nature boy]

Next time don't forget to bring along some chloroform.

 

[Lao Tzu]

Keep going. The goal should be that you get to the point that when you ask girls out, even if they have a boyfriend, no is not a word they'll be able to easily say. It's just like anything else man, the more you work at it, the better you get. Your mind is adaptive. You can do it, champ. I BELIEVE in YOU. I want to see you post about your dates and shit soon. I think that would be fun. You have to too, you can't be a bitch and not keep us posted. Jesus won't like you anymore if you do that and you won't go to Heaven.

Well I dont want to date women w/boyfriends. If they are that inconsiderate to their boyfriends whats to stop them from doing the same to me or anyone else? Besides its immoral in my view (not that i dont do immoral stuff, just not this).

Each one is a good learning experience though. But i don't think i really care for girls that much. Im not gay i just don't really think they are that great. What i think i want more than anything is the ability to do cold approaches and be moderately (20-30% success rate) successful with them, and to not have any real hesitation. When i reach that point i'll probably quit approaching women because they really don't have much of anything that i'd want. I dont want sex, i'd like to make out or something but im sure that'll get old in a week. A nice personality is great but you can get those w/o a romantic/dating relationship.

Keep calling me champ please, i like that.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

You suck! I want Nordstrom back j/k
I hope you get what you want....

 

[Code]

A good sign she can't stand seeing you.


K for you bro for trying for the playa card!

While we were talking she was smiling and would look at me then look at the ground, which is a good sign. .

 

[TC2]

Not always.

When I'm invloved with someone and someone else asks me out I appreciate it and make sure they realize it (unless they scare me and I just want to run from them..) but we part ways.

It's nice to desired but at the same time you can't forget about the other person n the other side that may not get what they want but it doesn't have to feel like rejection.

nice to hear.. I've seen some fuckin RUDE bitches just totally be shitty about turning down guys.

There's just no cause to be rude to people as long as the guy/girl isnt being obnoxious.

 

[jerseyart]

Congrats man,

Forget about the smart ass lines and combacks. They arent necessary. Juts smile and laugh it off, because thats how you should genuinely think about the situation if she is "haughty" It may not even be her. Some girls act that way as a defense mechanism, because often times, or often enough, guys wont take no for an answer. So they feel obligated to make it definite from the start, and not give him any room to misinterpret.

And I told you, not if you want to get coffe, "lets grab a cup of coffee, there is a place (insert location) close by" If she says she has a bf, move on in the discussion. You never asked her to go steady, just for coffee. And never put the other guy down. Do the opposite, build him up. Tell her all the things you assume he must be, and how well you imagine he must treat her, then let her work out the difference in her own mind

 

[Lao Tzu]

Congrats man,

Forget about the smart ass lines and combacks. They arent necessary. Juts smile and laugh it off, because thats how you should genuinely think about the situation if she is "haughty" It may not even be her. Some girls act that way as a defense mechanism, because often times, or often enough, guys wont take no for an answer. So they feel obligated to make it definite from the start, and not give him any room to misinterpret.

And I told you, not if you want to get coffe, "lets grab a cup of coffee, there is a place (insert location) close by" If she says she has a bf, move on in the discussion. You never asked her to go steady, just for coffee. And never put the other guy down. Do the opposite, build him up. Tell her all the things you assume he must be, and how well you imagine he must treat her, then let her work out the difference in her own mind

Thanks for the advice, and i'm incorporating 'assuming the deal' into my patterns as well as other psych tricks im learning. However i'm not willing to try to date a woman w/a boyfriend. I find that immoral (how ironic that i am an agnostic and i wont do that because its immoral ).

I guess i never consider why some women are bitches. I knew a woman via email once who was like that with men, she said the reason was she was really attractive and guys would always ask her out and wouldn't leave her alone. If i actually do that that is one thing but i never do, i can easily handle a no and go my own way (i find it undignified to pursue someone who isnt interested anyway). Plus i guess the constant head games they have played on them can sour them to men.