Sexual Paranoia: Need Advice Please

[phiend]

I was wondering if anyone else experiences sexual paranoia. I'm not impotent, and I can get it up on command. However, I have to be comfortable with a girl to do so. When a girl and I are gettin freaky, I have a total hard-on, but once she gives me the go-ahead to have sex, I go totally limp and cannot get it up for the life of me. I know that it's just nerves. I just worry about shit, but I don't know why. I don't have a small penis (around 7"), but I still worry what she's gonna think about and what she's gonna think about me. Once I've had sexual experiences with the girl a few times, and I'm comfortable with her, then it's no problem. I just don't know how to fix myself, and it's been a big problem cuz impotence is a big moodkiller.
By the way, Yohimbe doesn't do shit for me. I think I take too much of it.
Anyone have any thoughts? Thanks.

 

[Crazier]

I know how you feel bro, and it sucks. It happened to me the first time I ever tried to have sex. And, unless the girl is very touching of my member, it sometimes happens the first time with a new chic. After that, I'm pretty cool. It is nerves. I wouldn't worry about it too much to be honest with you. The bottom line is, you can get it up, you do get it up, but when there is pressure of a new girl around, you can't... that's not impotence, it's a mental block. I had an 18 year old (I'm 24) in my bed 2 weeks ago. I hadn't had sex with someone that young in 3 or 4 years. Needless to say, I was very excited. My member was not as cooperative as I would have liked. Sucks when things like this happen on one night stands!
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[phiend]

thank god. i thought i was the only one. thanks for the comfort, bro. hopefully things get better.

 

[Priscoj]

f yeah

Dude,

Always happens with one nite stands with me...usually i attribute this so:

1. I am PISS drunk
2. She is a skank
3. Im not that attracted to her
4. I wanna have a good performance so she tells all her good looking friends
5. I am using a condom...I have found that a condom and my junk are apparently like 2 magnets...but the wrong side...where they repel each other. Condom goes near...limp. condom goes far...hard.

you get the idea. I have no problem with any girl i was comfortable with, ever.

 

[fiatconspiracy]

i am only worried about a girl trying to get a strap on up in my ass.......fuck that shit

 

[crimson coal]

phiend..same here. First time I ever tried to have sex. I think I was just plained scared or somthin. Next time it was no problem and never a problem since. I think it just comes down to comfort level about who your with. No worries man..you won't have a prob next time.