sex after marriage

[satchboogie]

IMHO, couples that get married before actually living together and having sex are taking a huge risk with their future happiness. Would you buy a car before test driving it? Would you buy a house sight unseen? Would you parachute out of a plane without inspecting the chute first to make sure it’s safe?

well said

 

[velvett]

I know alot of guys and girls who lived together before marraige and once they were married it was different. As one friend put it about his first wife, "marraige adds something to the recipe. If the recipe is good while living together it will change once you add a ring". You have no idea what the relationship will be like until you actually are married.

Is that kinda like not farting until AFTER you get the ring?

 

[Generic MALE]

I know alot of guys and girls who lived together before marraige and once they were married it was different. As one friend put it about his first wife, "marraige adds something to the recipe. If the recipe is good while living together it will change once you add a ring". You have no idea what the relationship will be like until you actually are married.

I know you can get a good enough idea of how sex will be without sexual intercourse. You know if she is passionate in your embrace, if she wants your "thang", if she is going to lay there and play dead or be involved.

I have quite a few friends who were virgins until their marraige night(because of the church I belong to which strongly pushes it) . I am pretty tight with some of them. The guys I know - who picked women who are willing to try and please their man and who were attracted to each other before marraige - have pretty good sex lives. Many of their wives are apparently (from what I hear) quite kinky - lots of stories of public sex, and every other kink you can imagine. Some of the girls are quite adept at anal and oral apparently as some of them had the mistaken notion that they were virgins if they had anal before marraige but not intercourse. My wife on the other hand was unbelievably untouched before marriage - she had all these rules about curfews, no backrubs with the other sex, no laying on top of each other - and our sex life is great.

Well over a decade of marraige and I know we have hit it 80 times in the last 17 weeks - not a worlds record but I am in my 40's and working 80-90 hours per week.

Despite having a busy and frequent sex life I lately have considered straying - not because I NEED anything - but I WANT to hit the strange. I am looking back on life and I have had a ton of women hit on me, all of which I declined due to religious beliefs.

I do however have one friend who never even kissed his wife until they were at the alter. They had 4 kids together and after 10 years of marraige it is discovered that he is a closet gay and has had numerous (probably hundreds) of anonymous meetings with other fags in bathrooms etc. Surprisingly his wife tested free of AIDS and has now for the last several years.

 

[Mandinka2]

I know alot of guys and girls who lived together before marraige and once they were married it was different. As one friend put it about his first wife, "marraige adds something to the recipe. If the recipe is good while living together it will change once you add a ring". You have no idea what the relationship will be like until you actually are married.

I know you can get a good enough idea of how sex will be without sexual intercourse. You know if she is passionate in your embrace, if she wants your "thang", if she is going to lay there and play dead or be involved.

I have quite a few friends who were virgins until their marraige night(because of the church I belong to which strongly pushes it) . I am pretty tight with some of them. The guys I know - who picked women who are willing to try and please their man and who were attracted to each other before marraige - have pretty good sex lives. Many of their wives are apparently (from what I hear) quite kinky - lots of stories of public sex, and every other kink you can imagine. Some of the girls are quite adept at anal and oral apparently as some of them had the mistaken notion that they were virgins if they had anal before marraige but not intercourse. My wife on the other hand was unbelievably untouched before marriage - she had all these rules about curfews, no backrubs with the other sex, no laying on top of each other - and our sex life is great.

Well over a decade of marraige and I know we have hit it 80 times in the last 17 weeks - not a worlds record but I am in my 40's and working 80-90 hours per week.

Despite having a busy and frequent sex life I lately have considered straying - not because I NEED anything - but I WANT to hit the strange. I am looking back on life and I have had a ton of women hit on me, all of which I declined due to religious beliefs.

I do however have one friend who never even kissed his wife until they were at the alter. They had 4 kids together and after 10 years of marraige it is discovered that he is a closet gay and has had numerous (probably hundreds) of anonymous meetings with other fags in bathrooms etc. Surprisingly his wife tested free of AIDS and has now for the last several years.

Dude , just a quick point here , if I am to understand it correctly ur wife has been with you for over ten years and is almost certainly your best friend and closest companion.
So with all respect due (which is quite a lot I assure u) what the fuck are you doing here telling folks on an internet chat board about ur desires to cheat on ur closest friend , mother of ur kids yada yada.?
In any case I can promise u that should u decide to stray you will wind up (at the VERY best on your part) in a bottomless pit of your own guilt which you will richly deserve and all for what will most likely turn out to be a quick fling and a pretty damp squib.

 

[Generic MALE]

Dude , just a quick point here , if I am to understand it correctly ur wife has been with you for over ten years and is almost certainly your best friend and closest companion.
So with all respect due (which is quite a lot I assure u) what the fuck are you doing here telling folks on an internet chat board about ur desires to cheat on ur closest friend , mother of ur kids yada yada.?
In any case I can promise u that should u decide to stray you will wind up (at the VERY best on your part) in a bottomless pit of your own guilt which you will richly deserve and all for what will most likely turn out to be a quick fling and a pretty damp squib.

Believe me I hear you on this. It is quite uncharacteristic of me. I am not the type to give in to passion or feelings. My life has been a sequence of logically made choices, not a life that has just happened to me, or one that I have made out of impulsive choices. Yet the thought plagues me daily. Actually more correctly the FEELING plagues me daily. Feelings are not logical. Smoking, alcoholism, drug use etc are not logical - they are emotion based decisions. I have fought the desire with thoughts so far, but still I want to tag alot of women, and have considered the ways to do it and not get caught.

if I did start fucking alot of women it would not be impulsive. I would ease into it with a series of successive approximations - strip club, hand job from a "massage therapist" etc and slowly ease into as far as my conscience would let me without ever having the twinge of guilt afterwards. I would go no farther than my conscience would let me go.

Right or wrong is ascribed by men - I no longer hold the religous beliefs I had. For me at this time the the only wrong is if I bring home a disease, or a pregnancy that would cost me $$$$, or public embarrassment.

I am not saying I will, but it will be interesting to see how it plays out.

 

[SV2]

IMHO, couples that get married before actually living together and having sex are taking a huge risk with their future happiness. Would you buy a car before test driving it?

Hmm.. I would hope there was a bigger difference between buying a car and getting married...

 

[Mandinka2]

Believe me I hear you on this. It is quite uncharacteristic of me. I am not the type to give in to passion or feelings. My life has been a sequence of logically made choices, not a life that has just happened to me, or one that I have made out of impulsive choices. Yet the thought plagues me daily. Actually more correctly the FEELING plagues me daily. Feelings are not logical. Smoking, alcoholism, drug use etc are not logical - they are emotion based decisions. I have fought the desire with thoughts so far, but still I want to tag alot of women, and have considered the ways to do it and not get caught.

if I did start fucking alot of women it would not be impulsive. I would ease into it with a series of successive approximations - strip club, hand job from a "massage therapist" etc and slowly ease into as far as my conscience would let me without ever having the twinge of guilt afterwards. I would go no farther than my conscience would let me go.

Right or wrong is ascribed by men - I no longer hold the religous beliefs I had. For me at this time the the only wrong is if I bring home a disease, or a pregnancy that would cost me $$$$, or public embarrassment.

I am not saying I will, but it will be interesting to see how it plays out.

Eh... have u discussed this with one of ur guy friends? Show em this very post right here and I bet they will respond that you are just being totally selfish. Dude , Im 28 years of age and Ive been lookin for a woman like ur wife for most of those 28 , I've been celibate for the past 6 months and I turned down flat-out sex with a pretty girl last Wednesday night. You know why? Cos it wouldnt mean shit to me and cos there's somethin else I want for myself in this life.
Pardon my French but what u speak of with the massage parlour and stuff is flat out filthy , the strip club is ok , hell bring ur wife , u said that ur friends are into kinky stuff.
Finally please please please do not cheat on your wife , if you do you'll be cheating on your entire family as well.

 

[Scarlett33]

No way would I have waited untill after marriage then its too late, if you don't click in the bedroom. I would not buy a car without first driving it.

 

[curling]

Dusty I understand your question. Can you rephrase it?

 

[Mengy]

Hmm.. I would hope there was a bigger difference between buying a car and getting married...

Yeah, the car will cost you alot less money than being married!