Question for the guys!

[Test boy]

These answers seem to forget that she makes her living off of tips from customers. It is not smart to say "fuck off" to a drunken customer. I think it may be possible that you are flirting a little without knowing it. Body language, eye contact, looks etc. I arrived at this possibility because I just got back from Hooters and got a partial boner from the way the girl took my order. She pushed her breasts against me twice for one thing. Her eye contact was awesome. I'd have stayed and gotten a buzz but I have been down this road dozens of times. Some bartenders and waitresses get great tips because they have a way of turning on the customer. Bet your tips are fine...look at the bright side.

 

[jja]

That's what you get for working in bar. Either accept it, or get a job somewhere else.

True - I don't have a prob with guys hitting on me - just looking for teh BEST way to let them know that no, I'm really not interested without making them feel bad OR (yep, I want my money!) losing my tips.

Test Boy - good suggestions! I'm gonna try the ring thing, and if that doesn't work, I'll quit and get started on the book! It'll feel strange though, b/c I'm only 22, and most people think I look about 19

All in all, this is a pretty minor point, since I'm having a great time as a bartender.

 

[big4life]

Getting a fake ring probably will not help.
Some guys never grow up, they get into their 40's
and still act like highshool kids when it comes to women.
They just want to prove to their buddies that they are
some kind of stud or something.

A man without honor or respect is not going to let something like a ring keep him from making an ass
out of himself.

I think it is something you might have to learn
to live with, even though that is unfair to you.

Good luck.

 

[plifter]

Being attached doesn't mean anything to a lot of women and men. They're hoping your one of those women that don't care.
Also, based on my experience, married or attached women are better fuck buddies. They're not after money, commitments etc. They just want some dick.

 

[Mandinka]

plifter

plifter , I was gonna flame you for your post , if it was you who were getting cheated on then maybe you'd feel different (I know I did) , and it wasn't cos I wasn't banging the bitch enough. Man , how can you do that shit , especially if she's got kids!
Anyway , I read your post on "My luck with women" and you seem to be exactly the kind of dude jja is talking about , you say that you're painfully shy , and that's a pity man, you don't seem lie a bad guy but this is not fucking kosher.
If you know that she's hitched and you still push then you deserve a pounding , simple as that.

 

[hardbody_jr]

I believe my idea is best

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[jja]

Re: I believe my idea is best

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I'll try that tomorrow and let you know how it goes

 

[TheSalami]

just cause you have a boyfriend doesnt mean that you wont hook up with other guys.

 

[Test boy]

Hows this sound?

Say I only give out my number to guys I know. Probably won't work. The bar crowd is so obnoxious that sometimes I pretend that I didn't hear them and hope for the best. This is a little rude but I have seen SO MUCH rudeness in bars that I usually try to avoid them. My biggest customer owns a bar, I can't believe how uncooperative most of the people are.

 

[DEI]

I think your way to handle things like asking the guys numbers and dont call them is good, also the ring thing, but either way there are some guys wont mind you are even married with 3 kids, some of them are only fantasizing, and would never even call you, so just be nice, and remember some of the guys tip you because of the chance to hang out with you, sodont let them think they will do withyou things that you wont, so good luck.