Question for the guys!

[jja]

I work as a bartender(I'm a gal), and am constantly getting asked out by customers. Now the thing is I'm taken. So why, when I tell guys that, do they always ask for my number anyway???? I just don't get it. What's up with asking for a girl's number even after she shoots you down?

And, how do I refuse my number without being rude? It makes me really uncomfortable, so I usually end up letting guys give me their numbers, which I throw away.

 

[Mandinka]

Some people are sons a bitches (men).
Some others are cheating bitches who'll probably go on to have such sons (women).

 

[Mandinka]

Sorry , didn't answer your question did I ?,
one lady I went out with used to get pestered all the time , even when I just went to the bar to get some drinks , she used to make me feel fucking amazing though , when she pointed at me and say to the guy , "Y'see that chap over there , he's my man , now if ya want my number , ask him first if it's ok" - I didn't get any takers.
As far as I'm concerned , if they know you're with someone then they're already bein rude so tell them to PISS OFF.

 

[Test boy]

I'm feeling sincere right now so I'll give a straight answer. It is wrong to continue to hit after they have been shot down by being told you are taken. I would chalk this up to the alcohol and the fact that bars don't usually attract a highly polite crowd. My .02

 

[jja]

So what do I do? I'm not very good at saying "fuck off" What are they expecting? That we'll do something as "friends" and end up fucking later? I just don't get what motivates them to press further.

 

[Test boy]

Sounds like this really bothers you. Maybe try wearing a fake engagement ring? I never had this problem so thats all I can think of. I've heard guys trying to pick up girls and they can be obnoxious. Maybe write a book called "Idiots without a clue - my life as a female bartender"?

 

[big perm]

Well, in my opinion....I think guys continue to try and seal the deal even after they've been told that you're taken because they think it's a lie. Most girls use that line to ward off guys they don't like. Once a guy hears it enough, and still has the drive to succeed, he takes it as a lie and proceeds forward.

 

[Mandinka]

Not very good at saying fuck off?

Practice , after a while you'll find it comes naturally.

If they made a reply like that then technically that's harrassment I reckon , in which case security should be called. Of course , if someone still tries after u give them this relatively gentle blase put down then they've got real problems. It's a case of do ya want to spend 10 minutes explaining it to them one syllable at a time (and probably let them down more) versus quick and sharp , I actually think most guys would prefer the quick put down rather than the smarmy shit.

 

[hardbody_jr]

Say NO now fuck off

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[Kryp2o]

And, how do I refuse my number without being rude? It makes me really uncomfortable, so I usually end up letting guys give me their numbers, which I throw away.

The 12 gauge behind the counter should be a good deterrent.