Question about sex in love

[Golemnium]

I used to worry she was so willing and wild because she had to, in order to keep me, but I know it does turn her on. If I treat her soft and sweet it takes a very long time to really work her up, if I manhandle her around and call her out and taunt her she's dripping wet within 30 seconds.

 

[Bikini Mod]

She describes how she likes to feel completely powerless, how she likes the notion of being my possession...

A feeling like this during sex I can understand. Not always, but sometimes I like to feel this way when I am making love as well.

nd she likes how I like to dress more conservatively and distinguishedly than her, since it reaffirms her inferiority to me.

This part is odd to me as it confirms that she has issues. Not about the "how you dress part" but the part where she likes to feel inferior to you.

For me, the only way that I can be powerless and feel that I am my lover's possession is if I RENDER THAT POWER. He doesn't take it. I give it to him freely. These feelings do not carry over into any other aspect of our life. And it isn't always present when we are in bed either.

 

[DIVISION]

I want your opinion and experiences please...

I'm a young guy in a relationship with my first girl who is even younger than me (she is 17 years old) and I found out she is into some hardcore shit.

She basically gets the hornier and horny the faster depending on how much disrespectful attitude I throw at her. We've been together a year and a half.

She was always kind of crazy, at least for her age (likes to be tied up and manhandled etc) but recently she kinda shocked me when during sex she told me to call her a bitch and a slut. When I did, she told me I wasn't being sincere enough and had to say it louder. One of her favourites is when I tie my belt around her neck and pull her head around with it to make her suck me off. Preferably pulling her up now and then just to taunt her.

When I do take on this attitude, she just gets wetter and more excited and cums easier than otherwise.

However we've been exclusive for a year and a half, she also confides in me about everything and right after sex we fall asleep intertwined and she tells me how much she loves me etc. I'm the first guy who has sex with her.
She kisses girls a lot, but I think that's just the typical teen bullshit of today and she's not really bi. Although I'm in doubt there, she sounds serious about it at times.

I'll be honest, somehow this stuff turns me on, I just don't really know how to handle it.

I always thought girls like this only occurred in bad situations... not in such a whitebread, Kellog's commercial family as hers...

Some women like to be treated like whores during sex, it's their way of acting out their passive aggressive tendencies they have been conditioned by society to feel ashamed of. It's not uncommon.....alot of "nice" women like to regress during sex and be treated like shit, choked, pulled hair, slapped, called names, degraded....etc.

It's a condition of our sexually repressed society. Women get mixed messages and these are the results. When women are not made to feel ashamed for their sexual intuitions these disorders will decrease.






DIV

 

[Golemnium]

Some women like to be treated like whores during sex, it's their way of acting out their passive aggressive tendencies they have been conditioned by society to feel ashamed of. It's not uncommon.....alot of "nice" women like to regress during sex and be treated like shit, choked, pulled hair, slapped, called names, degraded....etc.

It's a condition of our sexually repressed society. Women get mixed messages and these are the results. When women are not made to feel ashamed for their sexual intuitions these disorders will decrease.






DIV

She was raised very liberally. Her parents even talk about sex to her even in front of me.

 

[Golemnium]

A feeling like this during sex I can understand. Not always, but sometimes I like to feel this way when I am making love as well.

This part is odd to me as it confirms that she has issues. Not about the "how you dress part" but the part where she likes to feel inferior to you.

For me, the only way that I can be powerless and feel that I am my lover's possession is if I RENDER THAT POWER. He doesn't take it. I give it to him freely. These feelings do not carry over into any other aspect of our life. And it isn't always present when we are in bed either.

Are these things truely so separate? You don't ever feel like "being possessed" by him in normal daily life?

 

[DIVISION]

She was raised very liberally. Her parents even talk about sex to her even in front of me.

Perhaps she's just sexually liberated then.

Whatever turns her on.....



DIV

 

[Just2Flex4Ever]

in my experience with a woman like minded, this led to her finding multiple outlets (men/women) to fulfill a void that cannot be fed...i fell in love with someone who could not, nor wanted love. she simply lived for herself and did whatever she could and wanted to do to fill fantasy and illusion...
my warning in my response is telling you to take whats before you as it is...be careful with your emotions with something of this nature...
its cool to find someone like this and to write about it and get responses like "wow-wish i had that" and so on, but there is always a price to pay at some point in time...she may truely love you and you may be her "all", but take my advice on this one- make sure, before you take a fall and float endlessly in love.
life is never for sure, there are no guarantees. very few rules. this leaves "us" to take care of ourselves...take care of yourself.

My situation started somewhat like yours and ended up just like PBR a women who lives for herself and her fantasies. I fell in love with her and now that i look back at it worst thing i could have done. Im not saying that this is your situation but these type of girls are good to use and abuse then get rid of them. These are not the girls you want to be marrying i sure as hell wouldnt be able to trust a girl after she told me she was fantasizing about getting fucked by you and your friends. How about the day you go out of town she will come up with the idea of FANTISIZING ON HOW IT WOULD BE LIKE TO HAVE SEX WITH A GAY MAN aka her "Friend" man really think about this! Take care just my .02
'Flex'

 

[Colonel Ingus]

I'm going to agree with Milo on this one. Somewhere along the line she has associated a loving relationship with being dominated, and/or being inferior to your partner. You mention that her parents are very open and will discuss sex when you are around......which means that you find that unusual. (I do too, especially at such a young age) Since people tend to think that what they grew up seeing is how it is "supposed to be", more or less, then there may be some darker things going on in her life.

Then again, as was mentioned earlier, you're not at the point where you'd be seriously considering making anyone your wife, so just enjoy it while it's happening, but don't think that this is something that everyone will do for you.

 

[Gymgurl]

DIV...were you a therapist in a past life?? I can get you job.....

 

[Freak Nasty]

I want your opinion and experiences please...

I'm a young guy in a relationship with my first girl who is even younger than me (she is 17 years old) and I found out she is into some hardcore shit.

She basically gets the hornier and horny the faster depending on how much disrespectful attitude I throw at her. We've been together a year and a half.

She was always kind of crazy, at least for her age (likes to be tied up and manhandled etc) but recently she kinda shocked me when during sex she told me to call her a bitch and a slut. When I did, she told me I wasn't being sincere enough and had to say it louder. One of her favourites is when I tie my belt around her neck and pull her head around with it to make her suck me off. Preferably pulling her up now and then just to taunt her.

When I do take on this attitude, she just gets wetter and more excited and cums easier than otherwise.

However we've been exclusive for a year and a half, she also confides in me about everything and right after sex we fall asleep intertwined and she tells me how much she loves me etc. I'm the first guy who has sex with her.
She kisses girls a lot, but I think that's just the typical teen bullshit of today and she's not really bi. Although I'm in doubt there, she sounds serious about it at times.

I'll be honest, somehow this stuff turns me on, I just don't really know how to handle it.

I always thought girls like this only occurred in bad situations... not in such a whitebread, Kellog's commercial family as hers...

i dont understand why you're having problems. This is a one in a life time oppertunity. stick with it. hopefully you are both under 18 or she will be 18 soon. I can imagine the problems if someone says she has bruises and shit. Other than that I got a stiffy reading this story.

You make all men wish they had a girl like this. Congrats