Question about sex in love

[Golemnium]

I want your opinion and experiences please...

I'm a young guy in a relationship with my first girl who is even younger than me (she is 17 years old) and I found out she is into some hardcore shit.

She basically gets the hornier and horny the faster depending on how much disrespectful attitude I throw at her. We've been together a year and a half.

She was always kind of crazy, at least for her age (likes to be tied up and manhandled etc) but recently she kinda shocked me when during sex she told me to call her a bitch and a slut. When I did, she told me I wasn't being sincere enough and had to say it louder. One of her favourites is when I tie my belt around her neck and pull her head around with it to make her suck me off. Preferably pulling her up now and then just to taunt her.

When I do take on this attitude, she just gets wetter and more excited and cums easier than otherwise.

However we've been exclusive for a year and a half, she also confides in me about everything and right after sex we fall asleep intertwined and she tells me how much she loves me etc. I'm the first guy who has sex with her.
She kisses girls a lot, but I think that's just the typical teen bullshit of today and she's not really bi. Although I'm in doubt there, she sounds serious about it at times.

I'll be honest, somehow this stuff turns me on, I just don't really know how to handle it.

I always thought girls like this only occurred in bad situations... not in such a whitebread, Kellog's commercial family as hers...

 

[BUBBLES]

Wow, that is something I see only in the movies.

Is she otherwise normal when you don't have sex?

 

[Golemnium]

Well, she's unusually open about sex. She'll sometimes bring it up in conversations even with people she doesn't know very well. She's constantly reading books about sex she knows everything about it.

When we're not having sex she behaves quite normal. We hang out at each others' parents home and we both get along well with our in-laws.

I recall one time when I took her along to a friends party and when we left on our way to my place she told me she was glad she got out of there, because she couldn't stop thinking about getting gangbanged by me and my friends.

Her parents are very normal, average, friendly, middle class people.

They seem to have the same anything goes attitude about sex though. I remember one time I wake up with her in her parents place and we went downstairs and her mother smiled and said, you guys must be exhausted, I made you some juice.

All together shes just a very typical teen girl, except for her attitude to sex. She has mood swings and often suddenly wants to change her look, she complains none of her friends really understand her... She's somewhat insecure I think. Although she often declares her own godliness, but that's probably part of it. She's also insecure about not being from a high class family, how neither of her parents ever went to college or uni etc...
She's a smart girl herself.

She's very tall and looks a good 20.

 

[Bikini Mod]

That is some scary shit. Haven't CLUE ONE as to why she is this way.

 

[Golemnium]

lol now you guys make me feel like a madman lol
we dont even do scat or piss or pain or choking-

we're still in a subdivision of sick (I think)

but at this age and without any special history, yeah she's pretty nutty

 

[Bikini Mod]

Hey - two mutually consenting adults. I am not judging you OR her. But I have to question (as are you) WHERE such ideas would come from to a girl that is so young and so "normal".

I am nearing 40 and had it not been for the web and all of the different types of people that I have met since I split from my exhusband (did a bit of traveling) I would NEVER have had the notion to think the things that I have thought as of late, let alone actually taken the step to act on them.

I think the answer lies more with her parents than you think. More "normal" people are into odd sorts of things than most would realize.

As long as both are mutually consenting adults and there are no lies and deceipt, no one is being taken advantage of - rock on.

 

[Golemnium]

well when sex is concerned 16 is legal where I live

I don't know how she came to think this way.

When she was only 16 she even came to my house and brought lube and some leather belts. I never asked for that.

Around the same time she showed me in the shower she can squirt the water from her pussy after she lets it run in.

She has a whole array of sex tools in her room, none of which are designed to be sex tools, she just finds out some object can be used as this or that.

I don't know where she gets it. She doesn't watch much porn. Or well, pictures and some girl on girl vids... but nothing about loon fantasies or anything. i think she reads most of it in books and she has this gay boy friend who is a perv mind too who she talks to a lot.

She always used to play with the boys in primary school and climb trees and build stuff, but she's all girly since puberty.

But back to the original question... this sexist, patriarchal sex, how do you place it in a sincere relationship? is it even possible?

 

[PBR]

That is some scary shit. Haven't CLUE ONE as to why she is this way.

it is an insatiable desire (at this age) that will constantly find a way to be fed....this is a road you will either choose to follow and experience with the same frame of mind, or it will consume you and your emotions like a wild fire thru dry fields....

 

[Golemnium]

PBR what are you saying?

You mean you think I'll go mad if i do it wrong?

Anyway I'm somehow glad she's like this. I want to experience these things too.

Even if it's just to "get over them" if that's what will happen

 

[Gymgurl]

Its okay to be nasty in the bed room....as long as everthing else is normal