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[lil'tangerine]

Ladies, gimme some input here...

Does it bother you when your man checks out porn on the internet???

I never thought it did really until lately since he's a million miles away! I know I am being insecure, our relationship is strong and I know he loves me and the internet can be a big fantasy world of porn, but it has started bothering me alot!

 

[jenscats5]

It would bother me if he was replacing me with the porn.......a lot of guys look at porn -- I for one can't understand why when if you have an attractive woman in your life who is physically fit, pretty, etc why do you need to look at it?

Anyway, did he recently start doing this or increasing his time with porn? Is he ignoring you?

 

[jenscats5]

Oh and it would really, really bother me if the porn he was looking at was "specialized" so to speak -- like snuff film type stuff where the woman is raped, hurt, mutilated or if it was really freaky shit....

 

[lil'tangerine]

No, no, no he's not looking at sick pron...just regular 'ol porn stuff. He always has, but now that we are so many miles away and I am soooo sexually frustrated right now alot of things are getting to me...that's just one of the insecurities I am becoming aware of as we get used to this long distance crap! I too don't understand why guys look at porn...maybe I would if it did something for me?!?!

 

[RottenWillow]

It would bother me if he was replacing me with the porn.......a lot of guys look at porn --

Exactly the way I feel about it too. Almost all men are going to be interested in porn, that's no big. But if he is pornificating to the exclusion of getting with your's trully then we got a problem!

 

[wend]

I'm not bothered by M. looking at porn (even some of the freakier stuff, as long as no one's getting hurt). Sometimes we watch the movies together at home...they can be inspirational and educational!

As far as your boyfriend's looking at porn while y'all are apart, it's pretty normal. As long as he's just letting off steam with Rosy Palm, then I don't see any harm in it. Better than going out and getting drunk and laid by an actual person! I know some women see porn as some kind of infidelity, but it's actually quite the opposite.

 

[jenscats5]

No, no, no he's not looking at sick pron...just regular 'ol porn stuff. He always has, but now that we are so many miles away and I am soooo sexually frustrated right now alot of things are getting to me...that's just one of the insecurities I am becoming aware of as we get used to this long distance crap! I too don't understand why guys look at porn...maybe I would if it did something for me?!?!

Well, it's good that it's not weird weird stuff.....so are you just displacing your feelings of separation anxiety & vulnerability onto the porn? If it didn't bother you before & his usage didn't increase, etc then maybe there's more to it....??

It's funny how different men & women are -- I don't understand why my hubby watches porn & he doesn't understand why I don't like it when he does....crazy! LOL

 

[lil'tangerine]

Well, it's good that it's not weird weird stuff.....so are you just displacing your feelings of separation anxiety & vulnerability onto the porn? If it didn't bother you before & his usage didn't increase, etc then maybe there's more to it....??

It's funny how different men & women are -- I don't understand why my hubby watches porn & he doesn't understand why I don't like it when he does....crazy! LOL

Jen...I think you are very right about the misplaced feelings...I'm having a difficult time here, but thanks girls for helping me see this before approaching the subject irrationally with my man! The porn thing didn't bother me as much before...Just needed to vent a little maybe and try to figure out the insecurities I am feeling.

 

[jenscats5]

Jen...I think you are very right about the misplaced feelings...I'm having a difficult time here, but thanks girls for helping me see this before approaching the subject irrationally with my man! The porn thing didn't bother me as much before...Just needed to vent a little maybe and try to figure out the insecurities I am feeling.

Hang in there girly!! A new separation or long distance relationship will take some time for adjustment. You realized the problem, you just needed others to hear you.....maybe there's something he can do on his end to meet your needs a little more emotionally since your sensitive right now....talk about how you feel & make a suggestion he can do to help.....make it about you....

After all, separation makes the heart grow fonder or something like that....

 

[Raina]

If my honey could figure out how to turn on the computer, get online, AND look up porn I'd be impressed. lol He's not too computer-literate. We have porn at our house though. I guess it doesn't bother me or I wouldn't own it. I think it would bother me if he sat around all the time when I wasn't home and watched porn, but that's not the case. I don't care if he wants to get himself off but I'd be a bit irritated if he just sat there watching porn when there are a lot better things to do. Ultimately I guess porn doesn't bother me because he's chosen to be with me and not out chain-F'n 8 porn stars.