OK, ok, ok...new to this and I have been reading posts but....

[MaligntRED]

PMS

I was just wondering....I don't know, maybe I am grasping at straws???

Could my weight gain be caused my the fact I am at that period before my period? I haven't done anything different this past week that I haven't been doing with the past weeks that I have been losing.

And everytime that I have gotten ready for the monthly curse...I have that bloated feeling and it feels like I have put on five pounds.

I guess there is really no real way to tell, tho.

 

[Sassy69]

Red --

"That time o' month" will do it every time -- you are probably retaining water. The thing you can't do when you are looking at weight loss and body reshaping is weigh yourself all the time. Trust me - I know -- I've been stuck at a point 40 lbs above my competition weight from last summer - for 6 months, despite training, dieting, etc. Maybe not a lot in the big picture, but heartbreaking when you bust your ass and step on that scale to see either no loss or possibly a gain. Its kinda like the stock market -- if you watch the daily changes on your Cisco stock, you might want to just pull whatever money you have left and bury it in the back yard. The value of the stock market is in the long term. So you can check the daily averages, but stick to the rules of your investment (don't panic, be consistent and diligent in your investing) and in the long term there is NO QUESTION that it will pay off.

BTW --

I took a bite...and surprisingly...I found no satisfaction in it.

That's the first step in breaking the habits too... When the value of that sugar rush becomes less than the value of 1) you reaching your goal and 2) you knowing YOU accomplished it for YOU!

Don't compare yourself to other people and dont' let their expectations (of success or failure) distract you from YOUR goal. Instead of them saying "See, I told you so" when the scale doesn't drop, you can tell then "I feel so amazing today! No I dont' want any pie, I've got some <other stuff> to do since I have so much energy right now!"

Rock on g/f! DO NOT LET SOMEONE ELSE MAKE YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT YOURSELF! Its not your job to prove to deliver a result for them -- if you can take the b/f w/ his issues about your weight, he can take you w/ your determination to lose it. And then you will. Don't let that become the focus of your life!

<Patriotic music in the background!> LOL! You'll do just fine honey! Stick to your guns and dont' let anyone else get in your way! Stay positive!

 

[Phemomena]

hey... a pound is a pound is a pound and you should be damn proud of that pound... don't let the little disappointments get you down... you're on the right track and right now a positive attitude on things will be your best friend...

and a pound down before your period... that's pretty impressive... there are fitness girls who say they gain anywhere from 2-5lbs of water weight on average b4 their peroids and wont schedule any photoshoots or contests during that time... so hey... don't stress it, its probably just water...

and seriously, don't let the scales rule your life.. its great that they're motivating you when you are seeing the good changes, but when its not always as expected,
think about it like this... go weigh yourself right now, then drink as much water as you possibly can in the next hour without going to the bathroom... now weigh yourself again... you probably way 2 maybe even 3 more pounds depending on how thirsty you were... are you really heavier??? scale weight, if not taken at the same time of the day, under the same exact conditions, is not always accurate to begin with... maybe your clothes were heavier, maybe your bladder was fuller, or you didn't take a crap yet (sorry for the imagery )... or, maybe as you'd already guessed, you were/are retaining some of that wonderful pms bloatation... regardless... it doesn't mean it was wrong last time... or that it is wrong this time... all it goes to show is that weight flutuates a lot given the circumstances... thus not the best way to judge progress... are you walking further, faster? are you feeling better? eating healthier? right now, those are better judges of positive changes... get those down, progress and stress less...


hey... when he was at the gym, why were you in the fridge??? if you want to cheat on your diet, pick the furthest possible place you can think of to get the cheat food, walk there... if you still feel like cheating rather than eating something healthy after a good walk, go for it, just make sure you walk back... and pick up that pace!!!!

 

[new@gettinbig]

Congrats on your weight loss girl!!! Keep it up!! U need to keep a positive attitude and believe in yourself. It is going to take some time, but do it in small steps….and u will make it. If you get upset, take a long walk or do something active instead of eating etc. U r stronger than that. Do not weigh yourself so often!!! Once in a wile but other that is plenty! Go by how your clothes fit and how u look in the mirror! I HATE SCALES!!! U need to ditch your boyfriend…u need to be around positive stuff now and people who support u! That is not love, to be like that to u…..u deserve so much better. Don’t sell yourself short or make excuses for him. He should not be like that to u! U will prove him wrong anyways..let him think what he wants!! U just stay focused and set daily goals for yourself. Your consistency will get u where u want to be. We are here to support ya, and pick ya up if u are down.

 

[erikaalex]

I totally agree w/ the previous posts specially WYST's
I am recovering from cocaine for 14 1/2 years and no way I would have a vile of it around."THROW THAT PIE AWAY" and forget the scale go by the mirror I weigh 10 lbs more now and look a lot better more muscular and more toned.
Erika

 

[keiko]

Okay, so maybe he's not a total a**hole, but I'm still watchin' him.

Tell him that your weight, your food, your work-outs, are no long a topic of conversation. YOu can talk about sports, movies, fashion, the weather, but not this area. (Get "his" hopes up--who cares about his hopes?)

Next, have you ever had a thyroid test--TSH, Free T3, T4--? Many people who are heavy and have had not a lot of luck with diet/gym are hypothryoid. Lack of proper thryoid hormones can affect how you process food, build muscle, and burn fat.

Here's a link to tell you more about this very common problem: http://thyroid.about.com/health/thyroid/

 

[Phemomena]

reds -

i don't think the guy sounds all that bad... i mean i'm not sure how long you guys have been together, but if he's been through the rollercoaster ride with you in the past, he's probably just trying to protect you from the crash... you just have to keep up the good work, be consistient and confident about yourself and your new thinner future, he'll come around when he sees that this isn't just the latest fad thing that you're going through...

i've seen people i know who have supported others through rollercoaster dieting and weight gain/loss and it can very hard on the other person, they want to see you succeed and do well, but they also have had to pick up the pieces and it hurts to see someone you love fail and know that there's really nothing you can do about it...

well the solution to that is that you don't let failure be an option you have to find the strength to do this in yourself... let him be your cheerleader when he's ready, but if you are looking to him for the strength that you should be looking inside yourself for, it's liable to scare him... men especially don't like to be presented with problems that they can't fix... and he can't fix you... only you can do that (not that you're broken you just need some a bit of tuning up! )... sooo, let him just come around in his own time... and he will... if he's in anyway hurtful or abusive to you then get rid of him, but if he's not your #1 cheerleader right now, just try to take a little insight into why and try to be understanding of that...

now, i know everyone probably hates me for saying that, but i'll tell you a quick story that may make it all make sense... when i was in the process of loosing weight a few years back i was often discouraged and tended to get rather emotional about it (i was all about the waterworks and the "i can't do this anymore")... well my significant other finally looked at me one day in the middle of one of my emotional rages with tears in his eyes and said "what do you want me to do about it... what can i do... I CANT DO ANYTHING!!!"... he was so upset and frustated, not only for me, but because he couldn't fix me, he couldn't make me better... it wasn't that he didn't love me, it wasn't that he didn't want to see me succeed, it was just that what i needed to succeed couldn't come from him, it had to come from me... i had always went to him and expected him to celebrate the wins and pick me up and put me back on my feet again when i fell down... (but in the process i made him feel like a failure when i feel down because he couldn't stop me from doing it... so eventually he had come less and less excited about my successes... and i tended to have fewer and fewer...)

hopefully that made sense - and reds i have a feeling that it did for you... you've got the right idea, do this for you... but also make sure that you aren't draining him emotionally... he's going through this with you believe it or not... so keep a strong front, if not for yourself, for him and his ego hehe seriously though, its all about the attitude, if you stop letting all the setbacks get to you, you'll eventually see them as opportunities rather than setbacks (now, when i don't like something on my body, i get out there and i work my ass off until its my best or most fav. part!) ... that's when it all really gets fun!!!

oh, and about the scale, again, i'm going to go against the grain and say keep up with those weighings, they're obviously motivating you right now and that's a great motivator to watch those numbers always dropping... just try to do it at a consistient time of the day (morning, empty stomach, empty bladder) and always wear the same outfit (light clothing, light shoes, or remove them)... maybe once a week... track the changes so you can see how your monthly effects things, then you'll know what to expect that week...

keep up the good work...

 

[MaligntRED]

A RED update...

Well, my PC has been down a week but I did have a friend who finally got me his lap top to uswe until they could get my cable modem working. The cable guys said that I needed a phone line to have the cable modem. Am I wrong in thinking that when you have a cable modem that the connection comes in through the cable and not the phone line? I mean that would be the reason behind the advertizing "No extra phone line needed...be online and still use the phone". But that's neither here nor there.

I didn't lose any weight this week. I kinda expected it since I still have that bloated feeling. But on a good note I haven't turned into that psychotic bitch from hell that my boyfriend says makes him just want to hide underneath the bed with one look. I have pretty well, kept a tight rein on the emotions. Which is a good thing since the past three months have been a living hell during that time period. Whenever Tony and I would fight his mom would ask me if it was that time and I would say yes and she would give that knowing nod. Tony (my boyfriend, if I have never mentioned his name) has never had to go through this PMS/Period thing. His mom was like 42 yrs old when she had him and had went through the change before he was old enough to know anything. Basically he's taking a crash course in the mysteries of the female body...I am his first girlfriend...as well as the first girl that he's ever been with.

Anyway, I kinda knew that it wasn't going to be good on the scales but I didn't lose anything and I didn't gain. I will admit...when that time period comes around I do have a hardcore craving for chocolate. I have hit the lowfat chocolate milk really hard. But at least it was low fat and I didn't control the chocolate...LOL. If I was making the milk myself it would have been whole milk with about three inches of syrup in the bottom.

But on a high note three things happened to me this past week...(1) the boyfriend had one hell of a wake up call...(2) he noticed something about me...(3) the clothes I ordered a week ago don't fit me.

(1) I was at work the other night and Tony came in and went over the the magazines and was readiing them as he waited for the guy in front of him to get his sub made. The guy was talking to me and he was telling me that he noticed that I had been loosing weight and that I wore my hair down (I have waist length dark red hair...ok, LOreal's Darkest Intense Red....one of the reasons behind the name MaligntRED...Malignant in one dictionary gave the meaning "Actively evil in nature" and Red because of the hair). And he asked me if I wore contacts. I told him no, that my eyes were my own and he just went off on how pretty my eyes are and that he had never seen someone with this color green eyes....and the whole time Tony is taking this all in. I couldn't have planned it better...when he leaves Tony asked who he was and I told him that he was one of the regulars that come in, he asked if he talked with me all the time and flirted like that...I told him the truth, yes. He didn't like that too much, but I did. It let him know that other guys were interested in me even at the size I am now.

(2) Sunday he told me that I look at myself too much now. He says that he has noticed that whenever I walk past something that has a reflection I look at myself. I am thinking "Is that a bad thing??" He says that he has also noticed that my stomach is becoming flatter, my butt is getting firmer, my legs are becoming leaner and he even asked if I was using his mom's weights because my arms are looking bigger. I told him I wasn't using the weights that I was just losing the fat on my arms and you could see the muscle (reguardless of how much I actually lose, I am going to look like a linebacker). He asked me to make a muscle in the arm and I did and he said he couldn't believe that my arms have muscle like this without having worked with weights. I told him that my arms would be bigger than his once I started really working out at the gym.

And number (3) as well as my personal favorite....:::drum roll please:::....I ordered a new outfit from Lane Bryant in celebration of what weight I have lost. It came in yesterday...since my work shirt was a 5X (and it's too big) I ordered a 4X.....IT DIDN'T FIT!!!! It was too BIG!!! The pants and the shirt was too BIG!!! Tony brought the package in and he opened it and he held them up...and then he said "Baby, I just don't think these are going to fit you." I said what do you mean? And he told me to look and I couldn't help but smile. I'm not sending them back, I want to wash and dry them first...make sure they don't shrink on me. But next time I might have to order a 3X. I was so thrilled and the look on his face when he realized that I had dropped two shirt sizes and pants sizes was a Kodak moment. That just made my entire day yesterday as well as made up for the scale not budging.

Oh, and something else.....yesterday was the first time when me and him did the "dirty deed" that I was on top. You all know that a big girl on top is a scary situation...LOL. So, I have always told him that I was too big to be on top. Well, he was laying in the living room floor and he wanted me to fix him something to eat. I walked over and straddled him and asked him what he wanted and he said he didn't know, so I did a little bit of "bouncing" and he looked at me with a smile and said that I couldn't use that "I'm too big" excuse anymore. Sorry for the visual, but I had to tell someone. And since you guys don't know me in real life...why not?

Well, that's about it for RED this week....missed you guys this past week.

 

[Phemomena]

hehe... didn't get past the red hair/green eyes thing... felt like i was talking to myself or something... i'll send you a pic of my face so you can see what i'm talking about

are you my long lost sister??

 

[Phemomena]

okay, got to read the rest of the post... FANTASTIC!!!!

remember loosing weight is only half the battle here, changing body composition is another key thing that you should be looking to do, and it sounds like you're off to a great start... ever thought that the reason the scales aren't moving is b/c the muscles are? (just walking and doing light activity is going to get those babys working since they're not used to the activity... and when you work a muscle, it will grow... but hey, muscle is denser than fat and the clothes will fit better!!)

keep up the good work... you're making us proud...