New Attitude

[Lee]

this is all some very good advice, i thought about everything for an hour in bed last night. im still pretty confused on what to do. im gonna try to tell her everything today, she already knows how i feel about her, and i know how she feels about me, but theres more stuff she should know.

 

[Thaibox]

I really wanted to respond to this when you originally posted it, but I couldn't access the boards for a few days.

Anyway, read this...

I'm 28 now. Since high school, if anyone ever asked me if I'd ever really been in love, I said "the closest I ever came was a good friend of mine in high school, but we were too good of friends... and she got engaged shortly after high school anyway."

I've been in my share of relationships since high school, and no matter how good they were, I would think about this girl from high school all the time. We sort of kept in touch over the years. I got a letter from her about 5 years ago saying that she was no longer getting married. I went to see her, and I was the friend to be there for her, so I was not going to disrespect her by going beyond that during that time. It killed me not to tell her how I felt. A few years went by that we didn't talk. I figured that was it and I wasn't going to see her again. We went our own ways.

1 1/2 years ago I was about to take a job overseas that would have been HIGHLY profitable, but very very risky. The day before I had to give my final decision on taking the job, I got a letter from her(after not hearing from her for years). I didn't take the job because of the letter.

To get to the point...we're engaged now, and will be moving to AZ together in about a week.

12 years after meeting her...and many many years of thinking about her, it was clearly meant to be...so it is.

Never lose hope on things like this. Shit works in strange ways bro

 

[DrBones]

Wow thai...
Thats an amazing story.... I hope one day things work out like that for me in the end

 

[Smurfy]

Lee PROPS to you for actually putting thought into your first ever sexual experience! You're a smart guy. Most young guys just jump at the chance to have sex, and end up regretting it. You'll appreciate your being more careful and thoughtful about it as you get older. And thus your first experience wll be awesome (most of us cant exavtly say the first time was well thought out or even good for that matter!)

 

[ghee]

It's probably unnecessary, but I'll back up everyone who says go for this girl if you're really that good of friends. I made the mistake of not going for a woman I was great friends with in university, and I've been regretting it ever since. It's tough to find that!

Great story, Thai.

 

[Lee]

man Thai, thats an awesome story. im glad to hear that you guys are together though, thats freakin awesome. after graduation me and her are moving to seperate states temporarily, me to washington and her to cali. but after a few months im going to move to cali to live with her. only reason im going to washington first is cuz my brother lives there and i can stay with him for a few weeks, then get a small cheap place for a few months by myself and save some money to move to cali.

 

[andezzz999]

You guys are 17 - 18. Man you shouldn't be chasing one girl at your age, especially if shes playing for a friend. You guys need to experience lots of women, how do you know what you like in a women if you select one and put her on a pedasal. You need to drink a lot of wine before you know which one you like. Hell, if she is the one, seeing other girls will kick her ass into gear if there is anything between the two of you. Do you know how many girls I had as "friends" that started showing interst as soon as i started dating? That is what makes women attracted to you. They see that other women want you... that's desirable. Believe it or not, it is more of a draw then a monster body (but you might as well cover your bets and still hit the gym).

I don't understand you young guys....Get some action out there, what are you trying to do get married tomorrow? Enjoy life, enjoy women, then after many years of careful evaluations, and experience, then select the best damn "one" and make her your wife.

I'm done, now I have to go work Back and Biceps hard.