Need advice on helping my girl get off

[txbondsman]

yeah, texans have a great rep for being lovers, lol That, and producing the most inept world leaders in history, but I digress...

In all honesty though, practice makes perfect, and if you're not selfish, it makes a world of difference.

at the shot taken in the first of this post, I won't hijack this thread, its Chris's...

But if you want to start another thread I'm game....
Tx

 

[Bikini Mod]

All the input has been accurate thus far. I have been able to reach orgasm from just kissing yet there were times when no matter what my lover was doing, there was NO HOMERUN and it didnt have anything to do with his skill or lack thereof but was because I simply wasnt that into him OR I had an issue within myself which prevented me from letting go. <----these last two scenarios were definitely the exception and not the rule, but still the cases existed nonetheless.

Now as your girl has such limited experience her not being able may be a combination of any of these issues: not being comfortable with herself (that means it is ALL HER and not you at all but that doesn't mean that you cant help), not being comfortable with some aspect of your relationship (not saying anything bad about you, just saying that she may not be able to effectively communicate her desires to you so in effect, this issue of hers makes it your issue by default as you are her lover).

Loosening her up with a bit of drink and dirty talk may help. Send her sexy texts or emails. If dirty/sexy works then do that, however, if that is a turn off then do romantic - I love you baby type stuff.

The vibrator may be your best help. Go shopping for one together and encourage her to play with it alone if she is self-conscious or play together as this may heighten the erotisicm of the experience.

As for going down or intercourse, regardless of how long you can perform if what you are doing does not do it FOR HER specifically then your staying power is moot. She must learn to effectively communicate to you what feels good, what feels bad and what REALLY feels tremendous.

Try not to make her feel like "there is something wrong with her" but instead take the - I am soooooooooooooo into you baby I just want to please you till there is no tomorrow. YOUR PLEASURE GIVES ME PLEASURE.... Just play.... Think about how crazy YOU will be when you do get her off but YOU dont get off. Just make it all about her and be done. THIS WILL BLOW HER MIND. Then when you guys do finally achieve mutual orgasm or she gets off several times (course not talking about all in the same session necessarily) and you havent been able to get off - then finally you do... Holy Mother of God!... that will be ONE INTENSE experience.

Keep it light and fun and TALK TALK TALK.

Please remember that your most powerful sex organ is between your ears - NOT your legs!

 

[H_T_]

all of BM's posts should be read with a Fran Drescher voice.

 

[Bikini Mod]

all of BM's posts should be read with a Fran Drescher voice.

LOL More like "Rula Lenska" (Yes, I am soooooooo dating myself here), Kathleen Turner, or Demi Moore.

 

[heatherrae]

LOL More like "Rula Lenska" (Yes, I am soooooooo dating myself here), Kathleen Turner, or Demi Moore.

Kathleen turner has the sexiset voice on earth. Oh, if I only could sound like that...lol.

 

[txbondsman]

All the input has been accurate thus far. I have been able to reach orgasm from just kissing yet there were times when no matter what my lover was doing, there was NO HOMERUN and it didnt have anything to do with his skill or lack thereof but was because I simply wasnt that into him OR I had an issue within myself which prevented me from letting go. <----these last two scenarios were definitely the exception and not the rule, but still the cases existed nonetheless.

Now as your girl has such limited experience her not being able may be a combination of any of these issues: not being comfortable with herself (that means it is ALL HER and not you at all but that doesn't mean that you cant help), not being comfortable with some aspect of your relationship (not saying anything bad about you, just saying that she may not be able to effectively communicate her desires to you so in effect, this issue of hers makes it your issue by default as you are her lover).

Loosening her up with a bit of drink and dirty talk may help. Send her sexy texts or emails. If dirty/sexy works then do that, however, if that is a turn off then do romantic - I love you baby type stuff.

The vibrator may be your best help. Go shopping for one together and encourage her to play with it alone if she is self-conscious or play together as this may heighten the erotisicm of the experience.

As for going down or intercourse, regardless of how long you can perform if what you are doing does not do it FOR HER specifically then your staying power is moot. She must learn to effectively communicate to you what feels good, what feels bad and what REALLY feels tremendous.

Try not to make her feel like "there is something wrong with her" but instead take the - I am soooooooooooooo into you baby I just want to please you till there is no tomorrow. YOUR PLEASURE GIVES ME PLEASURE.... Just play.... Think about how crazy YOU will be when you do get her off but YOU dont get off. Just make it all about her and be done. THIS WILL BLOW HER MIND. Then when you guys do finally achieve mutual orgasm or she gets off several times (course not talking about all in the same session necessarily) and you havent been able to get off - then finally you do... Holy Mother of God!... that will be ONE INTENSE experience.

Keep it light and fun and TALK TALK TALK.

Please remember that your most powerful sex organ is between your ears - NOT your legs!

that's good shit right there, for anybody, not just Craig, I'm geting out my notebook... especially the last line.

 

[chris350]

All the input has been accurate thus far. I have been able to reach orgasm from just kissing yet there were times when no matter what my lover was doing, there was NO HOMERUN and it didnt have anything to do with his skill or lack thereof but was because I simply wasnt that into him OR I had an issue within myself which prevented me from letting go. <----these last two scenarios were definitely the exception and not the rule, but still the cases existed nonetheless.

Now as your girl has such limited experience her not being able may be a combination of any of these issues: not being comfortable with herself (that means it is ALL HER and not you at all but that doesn't mean that you cant help), not being comfortable with some aspect of your relationship (not saying anything bad about you, just saying that she may not be able to effectively communicate her desires to you so in effect, this issue of hers makes it your issue by default as you are her lover).

Loosening her up with a bit of drink and dirty talk may help. Send her sexy texts or emails. If dirty/sexy works then do that, however, if that is a turn off then do romantic - I love you baby type stuff.

The vibrator may be your best help. Go shopping for one together and encourage her to play with it alone if she is self-conscious or play together as this may heighten the erotisicm of the experience.

As for going down or intercourse, regardless of how long you can perform if what you are doing does not do it FOR HER specifically then your staying power is moot. She must learn to effectively communicate to you what feels good, what feels bad and what REALLY feels tremendous.

Try not to make her feel like "there is something wrong with her" but instead take the - I am soooooooooooooo into you baby I just want to please you till there is no tomorrow. YOUR PLEASURE GIVES ME PLEASURE.... Just play.... Think about how crazy YOU will be when you do get her off but YOU dont get off. Just make it all about her and be done. THIS WILL BLOW HER MIND. Then when you guys do finally achieve mutual orgasm or she gets off several times (course not talking about all in the same session necessarily) and you havent been able to get off - then finally you do... Holy Mother of God!... that will be ONE INTENSE experience.

Keep it light and fun and TALK TALK TALK.

Please remember that your most powerful sex organ is between your ears - NOT your legs!

Well I think some of it might have to be that she has never had an orgasm by herself. She really doesn't know how to get her self off so its hard for her to communicate to me what she likes. I think she is kinda self conscious too. She will always say stuff like "god my ass looks big or will like pinch the area around her tummy and say I really need to get rid of this fat right here". Shes not fat or even chubby so I guess she is really self conscious. I'm pretty sure shes really into me, she always tells me she loves me and kisses me lots in public and always reaches to hold my hand. She even suggested we go away on a weekend trip next week so I'm pretty sure that shes into me. She really likes certain positions we do and can get really into sex and she starts thrusting really hard and fast on top of me but she can't hit the homerun like you said. Maybe I should suggest to her to go work on it at home by helfself so she can try to get herself off and figure out what she really likes or maybe use my electric toothbrush or some toys next time.

 

[redsamurai]

ixnay on that one babe.......she's got that hopelessly overthehill cougar thing going on right now.......would definitely not play in your favor. Besides, unless you sound like Fran Dresher, it doesn't matter what kind of voice you have............

Kathleen turner has the sexiset voice on earth. Oh, if I only could sound like that...lol.

 

[bigbox]

all of BM's posts should be read with a Fran Drescher voice.

lol God I wish you hadn't have said that!!!