Need advice on helping my girl get off

[heatherrae]

Okay, a woman has arrived...lol.

I have had some girlfriends in the past that never had an orgasm until they were in their thirties. Some women are really harder to get off than others. On the other hand, is she self-conscious about her body? If a woman is self conscious about her body it is hard to think about feeling good during sex. All the woman can think is what your view is like looking at her. Talk about how sexy she looks during sex or dim the lights really low. Take your time working her into to mood. Tease her. Lots of kissing, gentle flickering of the tongue, etc until she is really hot and full of anticipation.

a vibrator while you are going down can help lots because it provides so much stimulation, plus you wont get tired as fast.

Do you know where her g-spot is? It is about 3-4 inches up inside on the vaginal wall toward her belly side, not toward the back side. It is about the size of a quarter and rough textured. If you rub there while sucking and licking the clitoris for several minutes, that usually sends women to the moon.

Ask her what feels good. Try to figure out if she likes grinding, thrusting, etc. All people are different.

If she doesn't come, it doesn't mean that she didn't have a good time. Sometimes we can have a GREAT time without coming. So don't get too worked up about it. It sounds like she is young and hasn't even found out for HERSELF what makes her come.

HTH

=-)

PS...a little wine is good, but more than a glass or two makes it harder for many women to come. I am extremely easy to make come, but if I drink more than a glass or two, I sometimes can't come.

 

[heatherrae]

Oh, I also wanted to add that you can by this cream, I think it is called "arouse" , that you rub on the woman's genitalia. it increases bloodflow and stimulation. I have tried it, and it felt great.

Asking her doctor couldn't hurt either. Some women now are taking viagra because it increases blood flow and sensation to the area, making it easier to orgasm.

I think that there is also a topical testosterone treatment, but I will defer to another lady who may know more about that or have experience with it.

 

[teamcervezas]

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[redsamurai]

old news........

got anything new for us??

 

[heatherrae]

old news........

got anything new for us??

 

[lavarat]

my girl didn't orgasm until she used a vibrator... now she goes so easily it's insane

she might wanna use it herself first (so she doesn't feel self-conscious and nothing can distract her)

just my 2-cents

 

[52_21_30]

Hey I was wondering if anyone could gimme some advice about helping my girl get off. She is in her early 20s and has only been with 2 guys other than me and says she has never had an orgasm before not even thru masturbation. I mean ive banged her for like 30 minutes straight and gone down on her for like 30 minutes straight. We have been together for a couple of months and I really want to get her off. Ive asked her what she likes but she says she really doesn't know because she has never gotten herself off so I was wondering if some of you guys could gimme some advice.

lol i know someone is gonna say send her over to my place or something similar

Don't get down on yourself bro. I'm sure she's glad you're trying your best. And there's such a wide range of how easy it is to get women off it's amazing. But you say you went down on her for 30 minutes? You dont have to answer this in public, but are you good at it? Do you know what you're looking at? I'm NOT saying this to disparage you, but the female anatomy is very intricate, not to mention they have a structure that is totally devoted to sexual pleasure (clitoris). It has no other function. But, the clit is a world unto itself, as far as what different women prefer to have done to it. Some are much more sensitive that others. Some guys will tell you to just "suck the clit" and while that's a start, it's definitely not a panacea. Best advice I can give you is forget the togue tornado and spelling the alphabet in her vagina crap, and just pretend you're french kissing it. There are about a million different approaches, but if you think I'm giving away my secrets, you're crazy, lol.


Remember, good lovers are made, not born. And there's a few that are born, and made better. We call those people ITALIAN!!! Woot!

 

[txbondsman]

[/ QUOTE] Remember, good lovers are made, not born. And there's a few that are born, and made better. We call those people ITALIAN!!! Woot![/QUOTE]

and the ones that are born and don't need to get better, we call them TEXAN! WOOP!!
OK, enough jokes, Just had to set the record straight.... TX

seriously, first of all you have to be commended for thinking of her and not just yourself. I wouldn't have been in that catagory a your age. At 47, somewhere along the line, it becomes clearer that she is the key to your satisfaction too. If she don't want to, you can't either, kinda works that way. So the best way to keep things going your way is to keep her good to go.
That said, you have alot of really good info, use different things at different times. If she is shy, she may not want to tell you all the what, when and where's also. You may need to set up some kind of signal when it's good and when it's not as good. My SO now is VERY difficult to get off due to massive amounts of antidepressants. That's another story. But she has to be very still because a change in angle changes the amout of pressure, both oral or vaginal, and it throws everything back to square one. So her body isn't giving any feedback as to what is happening when she wants to cum. (If we're just having hot, sweaty, give it to me big boy! sex, it's hold on to your hat and wait for the 8 second buzzer to go off.) But back to what I was saying, if I'm on target, and it changes daily, she rubs the back of my neck. If she's rubbing, everythings OK, if not I change till it is. She is one who likes to have her clit sucked fairly hard, you can forget about fingering, rubbing nipples, assplay, etc. She says that if she gets too much stimulation from doing too many things at once, none feels very good. Go figure. But I have learned to breathe out of my ears very well after 7 years because it's damn hard to suck and breathe from your mouth at the same time, just try it.
I'm surprised hat no other women have answered yet, I'd keep checking back, I bet that some will when they get the time. Like Heather, they're usually all over topics like this one.
good luck, keep us informed....
Tx

 

[52_21_30]

yeah, texans have a great rep for being lovers, lol That, and producing the most inept world leaders in history, but I digress...

In all honesty though, practice makes perfect, and if you're not selfish, it makes a world of difference.

 

[jitc476]

Oh, I also wanted to add that you can by this cream, I think it is called "arouse" , that you rub on the woman's genitalia. it increases bloodflow and stimulation. I have tried it, and it felt great.

Asking her doctor couldn't hurt either. Some women now are taking viagra because it increases blood flow and sensation to the area, making it easier to orgasm.

I think that there is also a topical testosterone treatment, but I will defer to another lady who may know more about that or have experience with it.

Heatherrae==sex goddess