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My situation with a certain woman.

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SynergyJim

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There is this girl I met over the summer at my job. We will call her Liz. Liz is absolutely beautiful and at the time I was in love with some other girl that we call Vicki. Well as the summer progressed I realized how sweet and kind Liz was. She did the impossible and made me get over Vicki. SO after the summer I went back to college (I go FAAAAR AWAY 15 hours from where I live) and we kept in contact on IM. She immed me all the time and when she lost a parent in the WTC attacks I was always there to help her and confort her. I sent her flowers to expres my sorrow for her loss etc etc. Anyways she then stopped Imming me. Then I found out she got a bf. Now the questionis this: even though she got a bf why did she stop talking to me? It really hurt me. I thought she and I were beginning to establish something special but apparently not. I always said I was going to see her during my Xmas break when i come home but now I dont think so. I mean during this tiem I have still talked to other women etc but I still think about her becuase she is so great. What advice would u give?
 
Ahhh yes, with matters of the heart, there are no easy answers.

Through years of heartbreak and pain, I have found that simply travelling to the offending woman's house, locking her in and burning the house down while smoking crack is the best coping method.

This method can vary, according to taste.

Good luck my confused friend.
 
SynergyJim you sound like a good guy bro, but to her you were a friend. Now this could be for any variety of reasons, distance being one in particular. Im not excusing her sudden blowing you off, but when she was single you were a gap buddy. Now she has a man, and he probley fufills all her needs, including your role.

Plus new Boyfriends tend to not like other guys, and I can tell you wanted it to be more than just friends. Don't sweat it, and if you really must know call her.
 
Oh yeah Im not denying my feelings. Originally i was like yeah "Hey Liz is madd cool!" then with time i knew I was falling for her and I was like "Oh damn...here we go!"
 
perhaps this constant nagging is why she won't write you back...

im sorry you walked right into it...
 
Try telling her how you feel.

If she thought you were just being friends, she might not
know how much you care.

Sometimes people have a hard time seeing how those closest to them actually feel.
 
"you CANNOT apply logic and common sense to the female mind".............a quote from my dad.


as much as it hurts, dude, face the truth.........she's moved on and found someone new. the distance problem killed any chance you had. she needed somone to be physically close to her as well as emotionally. you were to far away, so she found someone locally.

as i know from bitter personal experience, being a "nice guy" blows up in your face sometimes.


time for YOU to move on and find someone locally.


not trying to flame you, just saying what i see and my experiences in the same situation.
 
Look at this my buddy was dumped four times in 2 years
by a french, a western redneck, a girl from somewhere in NE, and recently a Irish girl.

Look at this, worth my typing, well bouncer think that, that guy is in love with her but no
more than a friendship.


He met her on the net two years ago and exchange emails for that period, you know the rest
they found out they had some common ground. my buddy went to the UK and Ireland
this summer for work and academic purpose. So why not meeting that girl, he met her
found her sweet bla bla bla. Then when he left for France, she told him she would visit him
at the end of this summer.

Results, she never came, never emailed him again, never replied.
he tried contacting her with no results.
He thought she must had been close to someone now, but why she never reply
maybe she too afraid to tell him, maybe that the way women are. who knows

Second one, a girl from New England, met her again on the net, she was in University here
anyway they both went on two dates together, then she had to go home for the summer,
she told him well keep in touch and see what happen ( for me that mean shit )
well for J. that's mean kind of waits for me, he emailed her she played a kind of word game
then no news from her and he called her and ask WHAT'S UP!!!!!

She told him, sorry j. I am involved with someone else now, but please stay my friend
I like your friendship.

That night I never saw that guy so down :bawling:

the week after he even yelled her name while in the HOH, that was freaky.


Do like me, Meet chicks, bang them, ask their name, and call them on purpose
works fine for me
:fro:
 
I know how you feel... The best advice I can give is to not loose touch with yourself. Remember to keep being yourself. If some girl is not into you.. fine.. move on. The shit hurts sometimes... but you just gotta deal with it.

Good Luck to you!

DBaller
 
My advice to you would be to just lay low for awhile...just continue to be her friend. I know that it will be hard if you have feelings for her, but hey...at least you can remain friendly toward one another...there is no reason why the two of you can't remain cool with each other...
Hopefully, she will realize what a great guy you are and want to be more than just your friend...Im not saying that you should sit at home and wait on her ass...just let her know that you want to remain friends and let it go from there.
Let's face it...if its meant to be between the two of you, it will be. Patience is virtue! Good luck!:)
 
dballer said:
I know how you feel... The best advice I can give is to not loose touch with yourself.
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Agreed. You should never stop touching yourself - no matter how bad things get.

Seriously, though. It is true that you CANNOT apply logic and rational thought to the female mind because IT SIMPLY DOESN'T FUNCTION THAT WAY. You can, however, apply it to your own mind. Do what makes you happy. Want to spend time with her over the holidays? Make an attempt and see what happens. Things don't go as you hoped they would? Find out why. She got a boyfriend and stopped writing you? Find out why.

That's what makes a man a man.

-Warik
 
She stopped IMing you right after you sent the flowers? You didn't even get a 'thank you for the flowers'? Unless by way of some freak accident, the flower delivery guy was run over by a bus while on his way to deliever those flowers, and she never even got them, that is pretty inconsiderate of her to not even say thank you. But since you say that she is really sweet and kind, if she did get those flowers, maybe it made her realize that you wanted to be more than friends and so she thought she might be doing you a favor if she just ended all contact with you....I know some girls that think like that.

If you really care about her, and you think that it would be worth it to continue being friends with her (and you would be ok with just being friends), then you should call her. If she is worth it, then it will be worth it to call and talk to her and make sure you are on the same page.

Good luck with that!
 
It's as simple as the fact that you were in the friends zone. This is very hostile territiory for the male mind. You're dodging emotional land minds here and sooner or later you were bound to step on one. Nothing good exists for the male in this nebulous realm known as the friends zone. To her you were a friend. There to fill the needs that friends fill. To you she was potential. Conflicts are bound to arise and when they do emotions will suffer. 15 hours apart does not make for a suitable relationship, so take comfort in the fact that it wasn't going to work regardless. You must move on...preferably with women within a 30 minute radius of you. Learning experience is all it was. We all have tham and all need them, but now you know not to get too friendly. Make your intentions known imediately to keep from being sucked into the vortex of the friend zone. Dangerous territory...dangerous territiory.
 
i think highintensity hit the nail on the head. this girl now has a guy who fulfills the needs you were taking care of. it's for the same reasons you may stop hanging out with your buddy once he gets a chick. they spend all their time together and don't spend as much with their friends. if you were a chick she would still have probably cut back contact with you, but the fact that you're a guy probably makes her feel a little bit guilty if she were to still keep up the same level relationship you two had. guilt because she now has this dude who wouldn't be cool with you playing that role. we all know that role...the guy friend who lurks there waiting for the boyfriend to fuck up so he can swoop in and be like oh baby i'm here for you blah blah blah vomit. this is the kind of guy who would never be able to pull that ass by randomly meeting her out at a bar, but the fact that he befriended her gave him an edge...a way in. not that this applies to you, i was just ranting. bottom line here is that this girl doesn't need the attention you gave her because she now has a man to do that. you two aren't going to hook up unless she and this guy breaks up and you two start talking again. hopefully then you will be single or about to break up with someone if you really dig her.
 
Here are some facts to clarify the situation some of u are a lil confused and its prob my fault:

She doesnt IM me no more but when I IM or email her she will respond. She responds but she is polite and friendly but not real playful and flirty like she used to be. I still talk to her friends and we are still madd cool with each other. We all worked at the same job over the summer. I dont bother asking her friends about LIz cuz I dont wanna hear the latest with Liz and her man. I also was told by her friends that Liz still isnt doing so well with the loss of her mom (she dies in the WTC Attack). So from that aspect I am actually glad she has someone to be with. Im just sad that she stopped talking to me as much becuase although a woman gets a man in her life there is no reason to stop talking to a guy who was ur co-worker/friend. It just hurt me.

Also this summer we will all be working together again. And heheheh with my sisters wedding coming up in the summer I will be on a nice ass cutting cycle and looking my best ever. So when that time arrives I will get my ass from somewhere else but when I see Liz I will continue to be a gentleman toward her but I will make her see what she is missing. Its a boxing match and I have been tagged. knocked down and losing heavily on points BUT I AM NOT OUT....and now I am just waiting for that Knockout punch. Come time for the summer I will just give it whatever shot I have left. Alphaxi hit the nail right on the head juststay friends with her etc etc. I always planned on doing so
 
Aww...Danielson!!! Maybe she is new to the city!! :) Anyway, she was at leat hoping to flirt with you, that is unless
- you were dressed like a transit worker
- you were the only other person on the train
- you were not the only other person around, but those who were around her looked like they have committed a few crimes recently...
:D

Altho, I'll be realistic and say that you still could have been turned down tho, because sometimes women do flirt just to validate their attractiveness -- which would explain Test boy's confusion about women's supposedly unexplainable change of mind -- but even then, we usually do not flirt with a guy who we do not find at least a little bit attractive.

*sigh* Good Lord! WHY does this all have to sooooo complicated??? :rolleyes:
 
Steps towards ++++++

Similar Situation with the Girl!!!!

I just got relocated from FL to DC, without any friends or the girl. She was finishing her Masters so we could make $$ and be happy together.

She took a job in Orlando. Im in DC = Long Distance . . . . im sure youve heard those opinions (too much nrg for nuttin')

Look, someone once said . . .

We don't chase em', We replace em'. Get big, push the weight with the hate and pay em all back.

1st- You must take care of self
(Gym & Juices)

2nd- Well that didn't take long to get on top hugh???

Now, every need for her is actually a growth opportunity for you!

You will Grow into someone who all will wish to become.

Trust-

Now offer all of that love to the 16 hoes suckin your 10 toes.
:D
 
you can trying telling her how you feel...,BUT she should have already known that and yet she still went and found a new bf instead of developing what you 2 had. IMO move on...she is not a committing person.

Good Luck Bro!
 
I didn't even read the thread but I'm
sure I know the story.....:rolleyes:

Do all the other guys that she'll fuck over a favor and
Just shoot her in the head.
schuss.gif
 
Satanic Goatslayer said:
Ahhh yes, with matters of the heart, there are no easy answers.

Through years of heartbreak and pain, I have found that simply travelling to the offending woman's house, locking her in and burning the house down while smoking crack is the best coping method.

This method can vary, according to taste.

Good luck my confused friend.
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well, i'm glad SOME people around here give serious answers. this being the perfect example.
 
She's got a man bro. Leave it at that instead of being the chump.

If you go to school 15 hours away, you won't be seeing much of her anyway. No pussy for nine months out of the year? No thanks. Best advice I can give is to hook up with someone else, fuck a whole bunch, and forget about her. If there's an opening in the future when you're home from school and she's single, then go for it. Otherwise, retain your dignity.
 
Run in the mornings, making a better goal every day

Fill your day with self buliding activities & great Diet

. . . . get even more beautiful and ripped, fill up yur day

She will get weak once she realizes how much you have grown and developed. Its time to grow bro . . .

FYI-Juice helps

Push the weight with the hate
 
O'Stanozol said:
Look at this my buddy was dumped four times in 2 years
by a french, a western redneck, a girl from somewhere in NE, and recently a Irish girl.

Look at this, worth my typing, well bouncer think that, that guy is in love with her but no
more than a friendship.


He met her on the net two years ago and exchange emails for that period, you know the rest
they found out they had some common ground. my buddy went to the UK and Ireland
this summer for work and academic purpose. So why not meeting that girl, he met her
found her sweet bla bla bla. Then when he left for France, she told him she would visit him
at the end of this summer.

Results, she never came, never emailed him again, never replied.
he tried contacting her with no results.
He thought she must had been close to someone now, but why she never reply
maybe she too afraid to tell him, maybe that the way women are. who knows

Second one, a girl from New England, met her again on the net, she was in University here
anyway they both went on two dates together, then she had to go home for the summer,
she told him well keep in touch and see what happen ( for me that mean shit )
well for J. that's mean kind of waits for me, he emailed her she played a kind of word game
then no news from her and he called her and ask WHAT'S UP!!!!!

She told him, sorry j. I am involved with someone else now, but please stay my friend
I like your friendship.

That night I never saw that guy so down :bawling:

the week after he even yelled her name while in the HOH, that was freaky.


Do like me, Meet chicks, bang them, ask their name, and call them on purpose
works fine for me
:fro:
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I hate you M !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:finger: :mommakin:
 
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