Men. any idea?

[silverstar1025]

Keep your cool for now and call Joey Grecco!

 

[binö]

Are you high? A strange woman's underwear DONT = innocence.

If it were the other way around (meaning that the hubby found strange boxer's in wifey's laundry) then would it still = innocent woman?

PUH-LEASE.

The guy is a dumbass because he got sloppy.

But AN infidelity is also not a reason to end a marriage. Talk it out. If he won't come clean to some level of stupidity (we are all human) then he needs to find someplace else to get his laundry done - ie his momma's house.

if the panties fit you must acquit

 

[binö]

U gotta be smoking crack.
First off, i go back to work in about 2 weeks. I pull in just as much dough for this house as he does.
Second, im not gonna leave and drag my 10 week old son to a new place because my hubby can't keep track of his stray panties.
I was just thinking of his mother's house so he would have a place to stay. Honestly, right now, i don't care where he goes. If he would be honest, things wouldn't need to get this bad. I'm sick of him lying to my face.

obiviously this has more to do with a pair of random panties
i sense a pattern of distrust

 

[Bikini Mod]

if the panties fit you must acquit

On a serious note, I am taking no pleasure in Myway's distress... I mean, how THE HELL do a strange woman's underpants end up in the wash?

THERE IS NO "LOGICAL" EXPLANATION.

As I said, I believe that an indiscretion is not a reason to end an otherwise sound marriage that just sorta hit a bump in the road. But if the only thing holding it together is the baby then this may be something that should not be excused so easily

In any case it should NOT be overlooked.

If it were a pair of strange boxerbriefs something tells me that the hubby wouldn't be so understanding... not that EITHER party should be.

 

[Bikini Mod]

But you don't really know if he's lying. He could be telling the truth. All you have is alot of suspicion (innocent until proven guilty) and a bunch of people on the interweb who want blood and drama.

Yea, and I "could be a virgin".

There is no "reasonable explanation" for a strange adult's intimate garments to end up in a family's wash when no other adult was staying at their home.

NONE.

I mean, when was the last time ANYONE'S underwear ended up in YOUR LAUNDRY?... Anyone that hadn't stayed at your house, that is?

 

[myway]

Yea, and I "could be a virgin".

There is no "reasonable explanation" for a strange adult's intimate garments to end up in a family's wash when no other adult was staying at their home.

NONE.

I mean, when was the last time ANYONE'S underwear ended up in YOUR LAUNDRY?... Anyone that hadn't stayed at your house, that is?

exactly. this sux.

 

[nefertiti]

I know you don't like mentioning this, but what was the deal with the smashed laptop - does that tie in at all as far as trust issues on your part or reasons for the lack of trust etc?

Is there a pattern of behavior on his behalf that you haven't disclosed (not that you are obligated to tell us anything)? Have you ever had infidelity issues or questionable behavior be an issue BEFORE the panties incident?

I'm not sure what I'd do in your shoes...I probably would have kept quiet about it for a while till I decided whether or not to do a little digging and/or mental cataloging of behavior patterns.

 

[EnderJE]

exactly. this sux.

If you really feel that way and don't see any possible explaination or want to hear him out; then divorce him now. Why waste time?

I don't know your situation or him, so I see a possiblity. Unlike others, my experiences with the opposite sex haven't been as shitty as some of the others on here and I'm to keep an open (and hopeful) mind about it. But then again, the people on here have always (IMO) been a bloodthirsty lot. Sure, we want to comfort you, but also wants to hear your pain at the same time.

Either way, it's your life. I'm sure it will turn out fine either way,

 

[EnderJE]

Yea, and I "could be a virgin".

There is no "reasonable explanation" for a strange adult's intimate garments to end up in a family's wash when no other adult was staying at their home.

NONE.

I mean, when was the last time ANYONE'S underwear ended up in YOUR LAUNDRY?... Anyone that hadn't stayed at your house, that is?

There are alot of things where there is no reasonable explanation.

There's no reasonable explanation for religion, rampant consumer debt and morbidly obese fat people. If people are willing to believe in some holy ghost without any proof, getting ahead by bad debt, and eating to oblivion, then a wife could believe her husband.

However, I do understand your position. Given your all your stories, I'm not surprised about your position. I'm just saying to give him the benefit of the doubt given that none of us really know him.

 

[myway]

I know you don't like mentioning this, but what was the deal with the smashed laptop - does that tie in at all as far as trust issues on your part or reasons for the lack of trust etc?

Is there a pattern of behavior on his behalf that you haven't disclosed (not that you are obligated to tell us anything)? Have you ever had infidelity issues or questionable behavior be an issue BEFORE the panties incident?

I'm not sure what I'd do in your shoes...I probably would have kept quiet about it for a while till I decided whether or not to do a little digging and/or mental cataloging of behavior patterns.

The laptop incident was because of trust issues. He's been caught on the phone with an ex, plus, I installed a key logger that found some denied activity..... but I was never able to get solid proof. I had to chalk up the laptop incident to me over-reacting. I should have waited longer but it's hard to get anything on him since he's a cop. He drives around town free, 12 hours a day with no way to track him. I can't GPS a police car. Most of those guys have 2nd phones they don't bring home. I can't hack the police dept's email system. I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt until I found some undeniable evidence. I can't think of any reasonable explaination for stray panties in my dryer.