Men. any idea?

[EnderJE]

I would sit down and talk to him about this when he gets home today. Dealing with a 10 week old is no small task and the stress and hormones raging in your body only add fuel to the fire. Not saying you are some hormonal mess, it is a fact that your hormones are whacked for a quite a while after a baby. Sending him packing might be a really big mistake you will end up regretting. But don't take the advice of a bunch of people from a bodybuilding forum. Talk to your husband honestly and tell him how upset you are. Run through all the scenarios you have on this thread with him and try and make him understand how upset you are about this. If he is half a man he will respect you and make the time to discuss it. Not simply dismiss it. He has to realize that this looks insanely ignorant on his part.

Excellent points.

And if this doesn't work. Post up nudes.

 

[Bikini Mod]

yes, he is an adult wtf?
and his monies are paying for the house that you share together...imo, you have zero right to "send" him to his mothers house like a scolded puppy
i think all signals point to an innocent man
and
do the panties have stains? post pics if so

Are you high? A strange woman's underwear DONT = innocence.

If it were the other way around (meaning that the hubby found strange boxer's in wifey's laundry) then would it still = innocent woman?

PUH-LEASE.

The guy is a dumbass because he got sloppy.

But AN infidelity is also not a reason to end a marriage. Talk it out. If he won't come clean to some level of stupidity (we are all human) then he needs to find someplace else to get his laundry done - ie his momma's house.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Why haven't you checked his cell phone bill? He can't delete that shit.

 

[-SD-]

From my own personal experience, I've had some ex's panties in my home that forget about, that I kept over the years. I've got in trouble once for that. Big mix up. The relatioship had be ended after though. I had to come to grasp that would mess things up again in a serious relationship. Some poeple must learn from there mistakes the hard way.

This is a married couple who own a house, so you would have to assume he was living in the house before he was involved with his present wife for that theory to hold. Otherwise they are just another married couple that went out and bought a house together which makes the panties there inexplicable by a past ex before they met.

 

[all the whey]

Why haven't you checked his cell phone bill? He can't delete that shit.

That's what I said.

I would just play it cool and not make a big deal about it. Then, start going through bills, emails, etc.

 

[ceo]

That's what I said.

I would just play it cool and not make a big deal about it. Then, start going through bills, emails, etc.

That's probably what I would do too. In your gut you always know...and you're always right.

 

[myway]

yes, he is an adult wtf?
and his monies are paying for the house that you share together...imo, you have zero right to "send" him to his mothers house like a scolded puppy
i think all signals point to an innocent man
and
do the panties have stains? post pics if so

U gotta be smoking crack.
First off, i go back to work in about 2 weeks. I pull in just as much dough for this house as he does.
Second, im not gonna leave and drag my 10 week old son to a new place because my hubby can't keep track of his stray panties.
I was just thinking of his mother's house so he would have a place to stay. Honestly, right now, i don't care where he goes. If he would be honest, things wouldn't need to get this bad. I'm sick of him lying to my face.

 

[all the whey]

That's probably what I would do too. In your gut you always know...and you're always right.

Yep.

Everytime I had that feeling in my gut I eventually found out I was right.

It does no good to argue with them about it. It just makes them cover their tracts better.

 

[myway]

That's what I said.

I would just play it cool and not make a big deal about it. Then, start going through bills, emails, etc.

We talked about this earlier in the thread. Most cops have a seperate phone they keep at work. I know several who have one and they all deny it to their wives. Plus, they have email at work. Can't be accessed from home and i can't hack into the police dept's computer system.

 

[EnderJE]

U gotta be smoking crack.
First off, i go back to work in about 2 weeks. I pull in just as much dough for this house as he does.
Second, im not gonna leave and drag my 10 week old son to a new place because my hubby can't keep track of his stray panties.
I was just thinking of his mother's house so he would have a place to stay. Honestly, right now, i don't care where he goes. If he would be honest, things wouldn't need to get this bad. I'm sick of him lying to my face.

But you don't really know if he's lying. He could be telling the truth. All you have is alot of suspicion (innocent until proven guilty) and a bunch of people on the interweb who want blood and drama.