Married folks......is your sex life as it used to be?

[Sundance]

I have been married for seven years and my sex life is still up to snuff.

I gotta admit is not as it used to be, 2-3 times a day, but 2-3 times a week is still pretty good.

On a side note, I also like "change", if you get my drift...

 

[Devastation]

NO

 

[Generic MALE]

Compared to before marraige?

Lets see right now after 14 years of marraige we are averaging about 5 times per week. Before marraige I never had sex. So I guess I am doing alot better since being married.

 

[gonelifting]

No, but not because of marriage. There`s So much other stuff involved on our lives... A child being one of them. I know that`s no excuse but...

 

[crimson coal]

Big Nope!

 

[out_at_sea]

Compared to before marraige?

Lets see right now after 14 years of marraige we are averaging about 5 times per week. Before marraige I never had sex. So I guess I am doing alot better since being married.

WOW...Virgins males are such a rara avis...Why did you chose abstinency???

I have been having sex since I was 15 and have been in a relationship for the last few years...although, sex is still good it kinda slowed down a little bit.

As of now , maybe 3-4 times a week...

 

[KA-BAR]

NO NO and No. As a matter of fact that is one of the main reasons I may not be married much longer. Sad story.

 

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On a side note, I also like "change", if you get my drift...

All too well. Don't get busted! It isn't worth the headache.

Before marriage 2-4x per day... Now, I make believe I am sleeping when she gets into bed.

2x per week now.

 

[EnderJE]

After marriage...it was the same.

After two kids...very infrequent. Amazing what two kids and a 2 hour commute will do.

 

[TC2]

All too well. Don't get busted! It isn't worth the headache.

Before marriage 2-4x per day... Now, I make believe I am sleeping when she gets into bed.

2x per week now.

Damn, That's the 1st time I've ever heard of a dude not wanting sex.

Something wrong???

 

[Sundance]

After marriage...it was the same.

After two kids...very infrequent. Amazing what two kids and a 2 hour commute will do.

You need to squeeze in a few "quickies" to keep those "boyz" sane and happy...life is too short to be wasted...

 

[EnderJE]

Maybe he needs to be coming out...

jk
jk

 

[Generic MALE]

WOW...Virgins males are such a rara avis...Why did you chose abstinency???

I grew up super religious. I was a real do-gooder. I use to go visit the sick in hospitals, the incarcerated in prison and jail, at Christmas go help feed kids at the orphanages (truthfully - they give their cooks the holiday off but the kids still need to eat), etc etc etc. And I stayed a virgin until marraige. Interestingly in my early to mid twenties many women took it as their Mt.Everest to screw me, and I turned down alot of wild offers.

But religion faded from me in my late 30's and now I am a hateful, bitter old man.

 

[Generic MALE]

out-at-sea, by the way I got married at 28

 

[michaelm]

I must agree children do throw a bone in our sex life, but man after getting frustrated about it, but understanding it is not because we are not attracted to each other or sex drive not their, but their is always a little one around or something to do that takes precedence.......BUT, I have become the king of quickies, though it aint as fulfilling as a normal session about 2 quickies a day will keep me until we get to have a good lone session.....gotta do what u gotta do...

 

[out_at_sea]

Interestingly in my early to mid twenties many women took it as their Mt.Everest to screw me, and I turned down alot of wild offers.

But religion faded from me in my late 30's and now I am a hateful, bitter old man.

Blame it on your long abstinence....Man, Virgin Mary herslef would have been envy of your ultimate form of celibacy. I am not sure if such prolonged lack of intercourse is beneficial in a long run...as you can see now, you turned yourself into a grouch and bitter old man.

I got into "business" since I was 15 and my sex potency is a strong as ever....however, I am getting grouchy too.
Go figure...

 

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Damn, That's the 1st time I've ever heard of a dude not wanting sex.

Something wrong???

I'm 34 not 22 anymore.

She comes into bed like a cat hissing and spraying all over. I'm friggin tired as hell from 12 hour shifts. The last thing I want to do is climb up and start pounding especially with all these anti depressants that makes shooting a load like digging a hole in hard soil with a toy beach shovel.

I get wood when the wind blows. She just hops on and does her thing.

 

[HUCKLEBERRY FINNaplex]

NO NO and No. As a matter of fact that is one of the main reasons I may not be married much longer. Sad story.

I hear that....When the last of my kids have flown the nest,so shall I.It's odd how any attraction(or 'percieved' attraction)seems to quickly go out the door for many woman once they've landed a man into marital commitment.It's nothing more than a conquest,once they've won,the true colors shine through.I don't understand that rationale/cruelty.It's psychotic IMO.

 

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I hear that....When the last of my kids have flown the nest,so shall I.It's odd how any attraction(or 'percieved' attraction)seems to quickly go out the door for many woman once they've landed a man into marital commitment.It's nothing more than a conquest,once they've won,the true colors shine through.I don't understand that rationale/cruelty.It's psychotic IMO.

100%

 

[jenscats5]

When I'm really, really stressed out from work, all I want to do is sleep which I feel bad about, cuz sex is what helps keep a marriage alive. I need to work on that. I try to keep his needs in mind & do "it" even tho I don't want the big O or am tired.

We don't hump like rabid wolves like we did before we were married, but then again I hadn't had sex in over 1 year. Now it's more quality than quantity, but the times per week varies.

I guess once I'm laid off, he can come home for lunch & get some & lunch!! hehehe

 

[Robert Jan]

Most people dont believe in Reincarnation... most people are pretty damn sure, they will only get to walk this earth once.
So how come that somehow, people try and keep things fresh with the same person for 40 years of their life? Isn`t it just an impossible goal? Its crazy.

 

[Heahy Minister]

I hear that....When the last of my kids have flown the nest,so shall I.It's odd how any attraction(or 'percieved' attraction)seems to quickly go out the door for many woman once they've landed a man into marital commitment.It's nothing more than a conquest,once they've won,the true colors shine through.I don't understand that rationale/cruelty.It's psychotic IMO.

Oh my goodness this post is 10000% true!!!! You can be in a long-term 15 year relationship and not married and still have that attraction, but once you get married the lustre wears off! Why are women so fucked up this way???? I know tons of older women who have admitted this very thing!

 

[TC2]

I'm 34 not 22 anymore.

She comes into bed like a cat hissing and spraying all over. I'm friggin tired as hell from 12 hour shifts. The last thing I want to do is climb up and start pounding especially with all these anti depressants that makes shooting a load like digging a hole in hard soil with a toy beach shovel.

I get wood when the wind blows. She just hops on and does her thing.

I hope you didn't take my post as smartass or anything, it wasnt meant that way.

It just reminded me of a friend of mine who's wife gained about 60 lbs of lard in the 2 years they've been married.

He's not attracted to her at all anymore and she wants to have some kids.

 

[Generic MALE]

Blame it on your long abstinence....Man, Virgin Mary herslef would have been envy of your ultimate form of celibacy. I am not sure if such prolonged lack of intercourse is beneficial in a long run...as you can see now, you turned yourself into a grouch and bitter old man.

I got into "business" since I was 15 and my sex potency is a strong as ever....however, I am getting grouchy too.
Go figure...

Yeah, I did not even masterbate either. I went through a phase earlier this year where I almost had some affairs. I am 42, but still get hit on now and then and almost took a couple up on it. I dunno, I would like to know what I wish I had done on my last day of life - what I will look back on and wish I did more - be more faithful tio my wife or goo up the guts of every nasty skank within 5 miles of me.

 

[Generic MALE]

When I'm really, really stressed out from work, all I want to do is sleep which I feel bad about, cuz sex is what helps keep a marriage alive. I need to work on that. I try to keep his needs in mind & do "it" even tho I don't want the big O or am tired.

We don't hump like rabid wolves like we did before we were married, but then again I hadn't had sex in over 1 year. Now it's more quality than quantity, but the times per week varies.

I guess once I'm laid off, he can come home for lunch & get some & lunch!! hehehe

Does this sound familiar to anyone else? It sounds to me like a flxygirl story in the making.

 

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I hope you didn't take my post as smartass or anything, it wasnt meant that way.

It just reminded me of a friend of mine who's wife gained about 60 lbs of lard in the 2 years they've been married.

He's not attracted to her at all anymore and she wants to have some kids.

Not at all. Really. She put on about 30 in 4 years.

 

[KA-BAR]

I am not even going to wait that long.

I hear that....When the last of my kids have flown the nest,so shall I.It's odd how any attraction(or 'percieved' attraction)seems to quickly go out the door for many woman once they've landed a man into marital commitment.It's nothing more than a conquest,once they've won,the true colors shine through.I don't understand that rationale/cruelty.It's psychotic IMO.

 

[jenscats5]

Why is what I said a flexygirl story in the making?? It's unfortunate that life gets in the way sometimes, but it's not like it's 100% or even 50% of the time. If my husband chose to step out with another woman, that would be his choice & a cop out too. It's so much easier to do that than it would be to work on whatever would cause him to do that in the first place.

He gets tired & doesn't feel like doing it sometimes too, & I would never consider cheating on him just because of that. While sex is a very important part of a relationship, it cannot be the ONLY part of a relationship.

 

[Sundance]

He gets tired & doesn't feel like doing it sometimes too, & I would never consider cheating on him just because of that.


While sex is a very important part of a relationship, it cannot be the ONLY part of a relationship.

It is not the ONLY part ....it is the MOST important part!

If there is no SEX....there is NOTHING!

And dont tell me otherwise as you are just deluding yourself.

 

[out_at_sea]

Yeah, I did not even masterbate either. I went through a phase earlier this year where I almost had some affairs. I am 42, but still get hit on now and then and almost took a couple up on it. I dunno, I would like to know what I wish I had done on my last day of life - what I will look back on and wish I did more - be more faithful tio my wife or goo up the guts of every nasty skank within 5 miles of me.

Have you considered becoming a monk??

You sound so pristine...

I was , I am and I will be an incurable sinful....a mere mortal who enjoys sex too much ....to each their own...

 

[biteme]

10 years of marriage and I never got tired of fucking my ex. She was quite hot though and never let herself get that out of shape. Also, I am a horndog.

 

[jenscats5]

"It is not the ONLY part ....it is the MOST important part!

If there is no SEX....there is NOTHING!

And dont tell me otherwise as you are just deluding yourself."

Of course if there isn't sex there's nothing -- then you've got a roommate and nothing else. However, sex cannot be the only thing a couple has in common. It's also not the only thing that keeps a relationship together. There are other parts of a relationship that are just as important as sex. And no, I'm not deluding myself.

 

[Lestat]

This thread is pretty damn depressing.. especially Huck and Kabar..

really huck, i feel for ya man... I can't imagine being in your spot.. especially since I view you as someone who goes out of their way to help people, knowledgable, and having a lot to offer.

 

[Generic MALE]

Why is what I said a flexygirl story in the making?? ........While sex is a very important part of a relationship, it cannot be the ONLY part of a relationship.

Why? About a month or so ago a similar thread was started and flexygirl responded and said she and her husband only had sex on the weekends, but they were best buds and so that was all that worked out with their busy schedule......a month or so later she finds out he is nailing fat chicks the other days of the week.

 

[TC2]

This thread is pretty damn depressing.. especially Huck and Kabar..

really huck, i feel for ya man... I can't imagine being in your spot.. especially since I view you as someone who goes out of their way to help people, knowledgable, and having a lot to offer.

Dude.. Huck and Kabar sound exactly like 99 % of my friends. They ALL hate being married, said as soon as they said "I do" shit just went downhill.

They're wives did a complete 180 from the way they were when they werent married.

Fuck marriage.

 

[Lestat]

Why? About a month or so ago a similar thread was started and flexygirl responded and said she and her husband only had sex on the weekends, but they were best buds and so that was all that worked out with their busy schedule......a month or so later she finds out he is nailing fat chicks the other days of the week.

very good point.

 

[Generic MALE]

Have you considered becoming a monk??

You sound so pristine...

I was , I am and I will be an incurable sinful....a mere mortal who enjoys sex too much ....to each their own...

I guess what's funny is I was ordained as minister at 25. religion was very important to me, and I took it seriously - all the doing good to others, being pure and chaste, donating 10% of gross income to church....but I do have to admit I was very happy then.

And abstaining from sex certainly did not mean I did not feel strong urges, I just chose to control them - which is very hard to do actually. Again..I have to wonder if I will wish I was gooing up the guts of other women right now.

 

[pitbullstl]

No, but not because of marriage. There`s So much other stuff involved on our lives... A child being one of them. I know that`s no excuse but...

I agree to an extent........once you are married....there are so many other things that take precedence........ie: daughter, daughter's soccer team, daughter's school, daughter's "why is the sky blue" questions...... .....the weird thing is my wife wants it more than I do......we still have a very active sex life..(3 times a week) .....I am just so damn tired all the time.......this spring my wife is going to become a full time stay-at-home mom......this will allow me more time to sleep, and run my business.......it was a tough bridge to cross.....we by no means need her income.....but she loves her work......I guess she love's us (Riley and I) more..... ....then there will be plenty of time for nookie.....

 

[Generic MALE]

Why is what I said a flexygirl story in the making?? It's unfortunate that life gets in the way sometimes, but it's not like it's 100% or even 50% of the time. If my husband chose to step out with another woman, that would be his choice & a cop out too. It's so much easier to do that than it would be to work on whatever would cause him to do that in the first place.

He gets tired & doesn't feel like doing it sometimes too, & I would never consider cheating on him just because of that. While sex is a very important part of a relationship, it cannot be the ONLY part of a relationship.

Let me add that I certainly hope not. Flexygirl was so hurt by it. I hope that it is not the same in your case - but it sounds very similar. Maybe some sex during the week would not hurt

 

[pitbullstl]

Dude.. Huck and Kabar sound exactly like 99 % of my friends. They ALL hate being married, said as soon as they said "I do" shit just went downhill.

They're wives did a complete 180 from the way they were when they werent married.

Fuck marriage.

Marriage is incredible......today, so many people go into relationships with a me first attitude......destined to fail....it does not have to be that way.....I follow my father's example.....he alway's put his family first....I love my wife...she is my best friend.....she also is drop dead gorgeous has the genetic's of a greek goddess.....and that doesn't hurt......don't get me wrong......less than 6-7 years ago, I was quite the pimp....and still could be.....but I have found something in her, and she has given me something...(my daughter) that could never be replaced.....sure there are times when I feel like knocking every wall down in the house......but I get over it......sure there are times when I want to bang a hot ass 19 year old....( I own part of a nightclub for fuck sake) ...but that thought of losing her, and what we have....keeps my dick out of the dirt.....I am not an exemplary man by any stretch of the imagination.....I have done more wrong shit then 99% of this board....ie: 10 months in prison....drug abuse.....and being an all round jackass of a whore....but that was then, and this is now.......th only advice I can give to people.....is attempt to live your life to the fullest and in every wrong way.......BEFORE you get married.....it keeps the longing to a minimum.......

 

[Jimsbbc]

If she gets fat, make clen and DNP the staple of her diet.

 

[Lestat]

Marriage is incredible......today, so many people go into relationships with a me first attitude......destined to fail....it does not have to be that way.....I follow my father's example.....he alway's put his family first....I love my wife...she is my best friend.....she also is drop dead gorgeous has the genetic's of a greek goddess.....and that doesn't hurt......don't get me wrong......less than 6-7 years ago, I was quite the pimp....and still could be.....but I have found something in her, and she has given me something...(my daughter) that could never be replaced.....sure there are times when I feel like knocking every wall down in the house......but I get over it......sure there are times when I want to bang a hot ass 19 year old....( I own part of a nightclub for fuck sake) ...but that thought of losing her, and what we have....keeps my dick out of the dirt.....I am not an exemplary man by any stretch of the imagination.....I have done more wrong shit then 99% of this board....ie: 10 months in prison....drug abuse.....and being an all round jackass of a whore....but that was then, and this is now.......th only advice I can give to people.....is attempt to live your life to the fullest and in every wrong way.......BEFORE you get married.....it keeps the longing to a minimum.......

This is one of the better, if not best posts I've seen on the chat board. Thanks for being honest, open, and most importantly REAL.

 

[anabolicmd]

On a side note, I also like "change", if you get my drift...

If by change you mean moustache mashing with uppercruster, Id say stick with the status quo, bro.

 

[anabolicmd]

This is one of the better, if not best posts I've seen on the chat board. Thanks for being honest, open, and most importantly REAL.

GO TO OPRAH! GO TO OPRAH! GO TO OPRAH!

 

[TC2]

Marriage is incredible......today, so many people go into relationships with a me first attitude......destined to fail....it does not have to be that way.....I follow my father's example.....he alway's put his family first....I love my wife...she is my best friend.....she also is drop dead gorgeous has the genetic's of a greek goddess.....and that doesn't hurt......don't get me wrong......less than 6-7 years ago, I was quite the pimp....and still could be.....but I have found something in her, and she has given me something...(my daughter) that could never be replaced.....sure there are times when I feel like knocking every wall down in the house......but I get over it......sure there are times when I want to bang a hot ass 19 year old....( I own part of a nightclub for fuck sake) ...but that thought of losing her, and what we have....keeps my dick out of the dirt.....I am not an exemplary man by any stretch of the imagination.....I have done more wrong shit then 99% of this board....ie: 10 months in prison....drug abuse.....and being an all round jackass of a whore....but that was then, and this is now.......th only advice I can give to people.....is attempt to live your life to the fullest and in every wrong way.......BEFORE you get married.....it keeps the longing to a minimum.......

Oh I agree totally, I could be the greatest husband(Im not married) in the world.

It's too bad 95% of women have the ME ME ME attitude.

Your wife sounds great, I hope she appreaciates(sp?) you and stays that way.

 

[vixenbabe]

No! He can't keep up with me anymore!

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

I know this is not the common answer, but I would honestly say Yes. Seems like it is still getting better year to year.

 

[pitbullstl]

This is one of the better, if not best posts I've seen on the chat board. Thanks for being honest, open, and most importantly REAL.

No need to thank me.......just stating how I feel.......

 

[Imakarum_Mirabilis]

Why? About a month or so ago a similar thread was started and flexygirl responded and said she and her husband only had sex on the weekends, but they were best buds and so that was all that worked out with their busy schedule......a month or so later she finds out he is nailing fat chicks the other days of the week.

Man, she was SLOW.

 

[Longhorn85]

No! He can't keep up with me anymore!

Your hubby is a lucky man VB! Mrs ttlpkg's sex skills have increased with age, but she has a long way to go before I can't keep up with her. It is definitely as good as it was when we got married, in many ways, better.