Make-up Sex

[nokaoibeachgirl]

So do all of you all find sex to be the best way to make-up with your significant other? I find that when I am the angriest at my boyfriend is when I am the horniest. The past few days we have been having a rough time, fighting continually (work related stress on my part), so we haven't been having as much sex. Every time we get into it again, I just want to suck his dick and then climb on. Unfortunately he seems too mad to want to get off, so I think that I am being cut off. If he could only realize that any and all arguments could be stopped by immediately removing our clothes and fucking like bunnies. He is laying on the other side of the bed right now while I am typing this post....I sure hope I get laid soon.

 

[nokaoibeachgirl]

OKay so now about a half hour has passed and I am not even mad anymore. I am just sad that we have been fighting, and am feeling very disconnected from him. He is still laying accross the bed but is still not responding to my advances. Now I don't just want to fuck the shit out of him, I just want to fuck him because I love him and want to feel close to him again, and want to know that everything is going to be okay. Can anybody help me??? I need some tips to try and get him to calm down and remove his clothes.

 

[b fold the truth]

Doesn't sound like a "healthy" relationship IMO.

Anything besides dealing with the issues is not a good way to handle the arguement.

Feeling close to someone is felt deep in the heart...in the soul, not JUST through the sex.

B True

 

[nokaoibeachgirl]

Point taken, no offense though, I think someone would have to know a lot more about a relationship to form an opinion on it's health. Occassional arguments and make-up sex aren't exactly vital signs to be measured. But yes I agree that someone can feel close to another without sex being a medium.

 

[kickboxer195]

fuck you.......look, now we're fighting, so WE can have make-up sex.

 

[stilleto]

you know what, for me, if i'm still the least bit mad, the sex isn't gonna be all that great. once its really OVER, and you are back in total love/love, its awesome.

 

[bluetwistedsteel67]

I can tell you what he's feeling because I've been there. I love my wife completely and when we fight I get a knot in my stomach and when we're at our house and not speaking or even looking at each other that just sucks. I want sex then more than any other time because it reconects you and is a way of expressing your love and remorse for your part in the fight. But it's the giving in that's hard. Especially for men. If a man feels mistreated or disrepected or unappreciated by the woman he loves it's like a knife in the heart. When you love a woman with everything in you and your feelings are crushed by her you want her to feel some of your pain so even though sex is what he wants he would rather make you hurt like he does than give in and do what you both know would feel great and would end the fight. Don't ask me to explain why we are wired this way it's just how it is. Men are hard and tough but most are overly sensitive (myself included) grudge holders. My advice, tell him you are sorry and that you love him and if he will allow you, you want to show him how much you love him then start taking off your clothes. He's a man, and all men are weak to one thing and that's a naked women. It's like superman and kryptonite. I guarantee he'll fuck you like crazy AND he'll apologize for being a dick.

 

[nokaoibeachgirl]

Thanks "blue". Him and I did end up having make-up sex that night, and it was great. I totally feel you though, fighting sucks, sex just somehow always seems to make it better. Not the fight, but your feelings of hurt and disconnection seem to disappear the moment you do it and you are reminded of just how much you love the other person, and just how much you hate to see them hurting, especially when you are the cause of it. My man and I have resolved everything now. However advice to all, never, ever let the stress in your lives affect your relationship. I did this and it sucked, and it has made my man's life very difficult lately and I feel horrible. A stupid job that sucks affected my relationship, I gave that job way too much power in my life. I want him to be my safe place where my stupid job doesn't matter and I want to be that for him.

 

[foreigngirl]

you know what, for me, if i'm still the least bit mad, the sex isn't gonna be all that great. once its really OVER, and you are back in total love/love, its awesome.

agreed.

 

[mrplunkey]

Just fyi, some people "connect" via conflict. To other people, conflict drives a person away. When a conflict-connector starts something in an attempt to get closer, they can accidentally drive a person who disconnects during conflict further away.

I've been there, done that. It sucks. A former girlfriend would pick fights just to get emotions flowing. Afterward, she wanted sex and I wanted to get that crazy bitch out of my house (and I did...).