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Long distance relationship

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Yeah, I know, pussy shit. Regardless, this shit is worrying me. Gonna be moving soon, ladyfriend is going to be about 2.5 hrs away, long distance time. I'm a 25 yr old professional bro, not some sappy high school dude going to college for the first time. Does this shit work or should I call it quits before the real hurting begins? I really care about this gal, I want it to work...though I am a bit worried about the outcome. Need some previous experience advice...proly gonna be at least a year and a half before we could possibly live together. Sappy, weak, whatever...I dig this chic and am worried about the future between us. Does space hurt the union? Opinions welcome, Gambino
 
Gambino said:
Yeah, I know, pussy shit. Regardless, this shit is worrying me. Gonna be moving soon, ladyfriend is going to be about 2.5 hrs away, long distance time. I'm a 25 yr old professional bro, not some sappy high school dude going to college for the first time. Does this shit work or should I call it quits before the real hurting begins? I really care about this gal, I want it to work...though I am a bit worried about the outcome. Need some previous experience advice...proly gonna be at least a year and a half before we could possibly live together. Sappy, weak, whatever...I dig this chic and am worried about the future between us. Does space hurt the union? Opinions welcome, Gambino

Act like it does, but keep working deals on the side. Its the only way to win.
 
It is VERY hard. My girl and I were together for 10 months and she is currently overseas. We both are VERY busy and when she comes back it will have been 8 weeks apart. We had 10 months to get to know each other and spend every day together though...we got to KNOW each other.

Also, I trust her and she trusts me...and we BOTH but a HUGE effort into our relationship right now.

B True
 
It doesn't work in my experience.
 
Re: Re: Long distance relationship

anabolicmd said:


Act like it does, but keep working deals on the side. Its the only way to win.


BEST ADVICE EVER. This way you will never be the loser ... (assuming u find something else on the side)
 
It's hard. My girlfriend lives 4 hours away. We make the best of the time we get to spend together. It's not the ideal situation, but when you're in love, you just deal with it.
 
slobberknocker said:
It's hard. My girlfriend lives 4 hours away. We make the best of the time we get to spend together. It's not the ideal situation, but when you're in love, you just deal with it.

Amen. Mine is 28 hours by air from me. I don't have a choice though...so I do the best that I can. What makes it work, though, is that she does the best that she can too. Finding TWO people that are willing to do that is hard.

B True
 
Gambino,

I JUST got out of a long-distance relationship so I think I can give you a first-hand opinion. I learned soooo much and grew up soooo fast in this last year I hope my experience can give you some sort of insight.

My long-distance relationship with my now ex lasted a year. She lived 8 hours away. The only way these type of relationships can survive is if BOTH parties are willing to make the sacrifices (that is, willing to stay committed without seeing the other person frequently). I was willing, ready, and able to, but as the relationship wore on, my ex was not and she eventually found another guy. I sort of saw it coming because as the relationship got more serious and intense around the year long mark, she started saying how she wanted me to find someone who could give me more, etc etc etc. In other words, she tried to let me go "nicely", and now that I look back on it in retrospect, I now know the relationship for her was toast at that point because .... she gave up and wasn't willing to make those sacrifices anymore. It hurts so bad because I was.

It is the most painful and heartbreaking feeling in the world knowing that I invested a YEAR of my life to this woman and to this long-distance relationship only to have it go down the drain. However, there is a saying I constantly refer to to help ease my mind. That saying is...

"It is better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all."

You do understand that the odds are well against you. You do realize that in long-distance relationships you already have a strike against you and that you will have to work TWICE as hard, put in TWICE the energy and effort, and risk TWICE as much (if not more). The risk of it failing is much greater, yet the chances of it succeeding are much slimmer. The ONLY way it will work is if BOTH parties are willing to sacrifice... and to CONSTANTLY sacrifice!

It will be twice as taxing on your body, mind, and soul. You do not understand how it is soooo incredibly draining EMOTIONALLY and MENTALLY not being able to see/smell/touch/taste the other person on a regular basis and not knowing what they are doing. Can you handle that??? Are you willing to go through with this??? Just as importantly, do you think SHE is willing???

One thing about your situation is that she is only 2.5 hours away. For ME personally, that is not a long drive and I would be able to visit frequently if I were in your shoes. However, you have that year and a half factor that is against you and only you know how these things will affect you.

All I can say is, long-distances relationships are a lot harder, a lot tougher, and a lot more draining in virtually every aspect body and mind. You are taking a much bigger risk by investing yourself into something that is bound to fail. The longer the relationship goes on, the harder it gets (much moreso than in "normal" relationships).

Then there is LOVE. I'm talking TRUE love. If you truly love this girl and she truly loves you, ANYTHING is possible! The odds are against you, but that doesn't mean you have no odds in your favour. I suggest you take a long hard look in the mirror at yourself and at her, and ask yourself how you really do feel about her and how she feels about you.

Do I regret getting involved in a long-distance relationship and would I change it if I could? No. I learned too much to regret things. I definitely matured in ways I never knew I would.

Would I get involved in another long-distance relationship? No. Too taxing on me emotionally and mentally. More costly in some ways as well (main one being time).
 
Hey Mister, good shit, thanks for sharing that with me, along with everyone else. I truely love this chic and am gonna try to make this work. If it was meant to be it will work, if not, I'll grudgingly move on...love stinks.
 
Hey no prob Gambino!

One thing I recommend is to TRY and visit her regularly and not have long intervals where you do not see her (ie visit her for a weekend every 2 weeks, etc). If you visit her regularly enough and not have a loooonngg break, you keep her thinking about you.

Isn't it funny what love does to you? Amazing eh!
 
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