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Werd
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Everyone looks and no one answers...
I think you guys think I have some ulterior motive and I don't. I am trying to understand.
So many people say that part of the problem I have with guys is that I am not enough of a bitch, that I am too nice. I went out with a REALLY REALLY nice guy last night and it was like I saw the male version of me and I couldn't comprehend how a woman could be so cruel to a man. I always assumed that it was just men who were mean to nice girls...
I am trying so hard to figure shit out in my head...
I just don't understand why sometimes people are mean to each other. I am not talking about getting angry and in the heat of the moment calling someone an asshole. I am talking about just being truly mean, doing shit to another that would cause something within them to be "crushed"....
Seriously, I always thought that this was a guy doing it to girl thing. I am seriously just trying to understand because there is nothing like this in my nature.
The guy I went out with was sooooooooo nice that I was actually afraid to even see him again (I don't know if I will.) because I am afraid that I WILL hurt him. He really liked me and I get the sense that he will get attached too fast. I just want a friendship with a man just now, nothing more... but that is like the kiss of death for a guy to hear from a girl....
I dunno... it's late and I'm tired and rambling.
I think you guys think I have some ulterior motive and I don't. I am trying to understand.
So many people say that part of the problem I have with guys is that I am not enough of a bitch, that I am too nice. I went out with a REALLY REALLY nice guy last night and it was like I saw the male version of me and I couldn't comprehend how a woman could be so cruel to a man. I always assumed that it was just men who were mean to nice girls...
I am trying so hard to figure shit out in my head...
I just don't understand why sometimes people are mean to each other. I am not talking about getting angry and in the heat of the moment calling someone an asshole. I am talking about just being truly mean, doing shit to another that would cause something within them to be "crushed"....
Seriously, I always thought that this was a guy doing it to girl thing. I am seriously just trying to understand because there is nothing like this in my nature.
The guy I went out with was sooooooooo nice that I was actually afraid to even see him again (I don't know if I will.) because I am afraid that I WILL hurt him. He really liked me and I get the sense that he will get attached too fast. I just want a friendship with a man just now, nothing more... but that is like the kiss of death for a guy to hear from a girl....
I dunno... it's late and I'm tired and rambling.
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Well, I treated my ex sooooo good...because I had always told him I would show him how much I loved him. I gave him back rubs, i hated arguing with him because in my marriage all I did was argue..and I guess I let him win arguments so i wouldnt have to argue with him..I guess I tried too hard..because after 8 months he went back to his ex gf....whom had hit him, threw shit at him.and constantly screamed....and I guess , he is happy with her..maybe I was too nice to him..I dont know, but I do know I tried with this guy and it didnt help....
so from now on
im saying fuck em...im going to do things for ME not anyone else.. Werd you seem like a cool chick, and I think you. like me, have been in a topsy turvy relationship and we got the screwed end of the deal...but we move on.
I spent a weekend with this guy this past weekend, he was so nice, we didnt have sex either..we just went places and did things, and he treated me so nice...but u know what? I still thought about my ex...and thats screwed up...so I think im going to go out with this guy again because..he made me feel like I was worth something and he treated me so good..he opened doors for me, he did some small things that have never been done for me before.and it made me feel so good...so why did i think of the other guy???
I dont know, maybe Im not really ready to date yet..maybe we need to hang out werd lol...and trade stories on how men suck lol
so from now on
im saying fuck em...im going to do things for ME not anyone else.. Werd you seem like a cool chick, and I think you. like me, have been in a topsy turvy relationship and we got the screwed end of the deal...but we move on.
I spent a weekend with this guy this past weekend, he was so nice, we didnt have sex either..we just went places and did things, and he treated me so nice...but u know what? I still thought about my ex...and thats screwed up...so I think im going to go out with this guy again because..he made me feel like I was worth something and he treated me so good..he opened doors for me, he did some small things that have never been done for me before.and it made me feel so good...so why did i think of the other guy???
I dont know, maybe Im not really ready to date yet..maybe we need to hang out werd lol...and trade stories on how men suck lol
Werd
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I am all typed out tonite....
I'll give a holla later on. I don't believe all men suck... I just have so much going on and maybe I need to stop beating myself up over the fact that I can't "figure it all out" RIGHT NOW. LOL
SoKlueless - GO OUT WITH THE NICE GUY! DOH!
The jerk who didn't appreciate you, he is where he wants to be. He didn't leave you because of you.... he left you because of HIM.
For me there is a lot of complication, not just the garden variety stuff that most go through... not saying that my shit is any deeper or that it stinks more than anyone else's, just saying that there is an abundance of it anymore and I am trying so hard to figure it all out so that I can do the best I can with what I have...
You all take care of yourselves and have a good night.
I'll give a holla later on. I don't believe all men suck... I just have so much going on and maybe I need to stop beating myself up over the fact that I can't "figure it all out" RIGHT NOW. LOL
SoKlueless - GO OUT WITH THE NICE GUY! DOH!
The jerk who didn't appreciate you, he is where he wants to be. He didn't leave you because of you.... he left you because of HIM.
For me there is a lot of complication, not just the garden variety stuff that most go through... not saying that my shit is any deeper or that it stinks more than anyone else's, just saying that there is an abundance of it anymore and I am trying so hard to figure it all out so that I can do the best I can with what I have...
You all take care of yourselves and have a good night.
J
jenscats5
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Hang in there Werd!! Hopefully, someday, we'll all have the right answers.....
SoKlueless -- it's interesting how liberating it is to take care of yourself instead of someone else.
Once you have yourself figured out.....
SoKlueless -- it's interesting how liberating it is to take care of yourself instead of someone else.
Once you have yourself figured out.....
gingersnap
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Guys that treat women poorly usually have low self esteem on some level. Many times they feel empowered and in control by making their girl feel bad about herself. They gain power through weakening others, it's an immature power trip plain and simple.
Remember men are very "warrior" oriented and anyone that is seen as different (females) is on some level seen as the enemy. This has a little to do with it too.
Anyway, that's what I got out of 1 year of therapy in a nutshell, hope it helps.
Remember men are very "warrior" oriented and anyone that is seen as different (females) is on some level seen as the enemy. This has a little to do with it too.
Anyway, that's what I got out of 1 year of therapy in a nutshell, hope it helps.
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