I've been cheating on my gf for 2 years - I need SERIOUS advice

[confusion]

It's obvious that your relationship with your "girlfriend" is over(you have given enough examples of why). One question I have: What is your true motive for posting this question? Obviously, there's an element of vanity involved. You are bragging about your exploits while attempting to make it seem like you did none of the chasing. Innocently driving a girl home every day? Go inside suspecting nothing and get jumped? If you want to act like you're "baring your soul", why not tell what's truly in there? Another question: Is there a concern about paying for your own place and child support and still being able to go to college? You're not allowing your "girlfriend" to help support you and your double life? Are you? Also, I have to say(well, I choose to say), your responses to some of the replies to your thread are just plain "lame" and self-absorbed. The excrement about not being able to look in the mirror because of your mom? It wouldn't be suprising to hear that you used this sort of pseudo-pschological self pity to try "picking up" women. You need to examine yourself and truthfully deal with what you find. I suppose your "troubles" will end no time soon. You don't appear to have even begun to solve your problem and maybe don't really want to.

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

dude, keep hittin that shit

 

[B0ARDIN087]

crak i just spent 20 minutes reading this thread, i hate you more then if this was actually true

 

[Mr. dB]

Face it, men come from the factory wired to spread their seed. Philandering is part of the human reproductive strategy, as is cuckolding.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

You won't change. Not because you don't want to, you may decide that you so want to, but you won't be able to. It's true, men cheat. (As do women.) It's also true that once you've cheated, you will cheat again. My advice, tell her. She deserves to know the truth. Have you considered that perhaps she won't care? Yes, most women would be pissed, but if you have an addiction maybe she'll be understanding. Personally, I'd drop your ass like nothing, but give her the chance. Maybe you guys can figure out some ways to keep you more staisfied. Maybe couples therapy would help. She deserves to know what's going on....there's alot between you two, give the respect she deserves and tell her.

 

[rudeboyja]

I'm only posting because I havent seen anyone else write what I've been thinking.


2) You are not ready to be in a monogamous relationship with anyone and it wouldnt matter if your gf had superpussy and was perfect in every way; you'd still cheat.

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My point exactly. Why do you think women like halle berry & Carmen Electra (or whoever) get cheated on. Some people just can't be with one woman. If that's you, realize it and stop bringing others down with you

 

[starlet]

You obviously don't respect your girlfriend or the children you have with her (or are raising with her), and that's a horrible example that you're setting for the children...for her sake (and the sake of your children), break up with her and let her move on with her life. I'm assuming she's doing most of the work raising your kids while you're at school supposedly getting an education (which would lead to a better career and better life for your family)...and in the meantime you're fucking every girl you come across? Wow. That's low.

Women would rather be dumped than cheated on (even if there are kids in the picture). I'm honestly surprised that she hasn't figured it out by now, but she may be in denial.

 

[HiDnGoD]

as long as you're not violating your ethics code, your fine.

I disagree. If you are deceiving someone else & violating their ethics code, then you need to rectify it. It's not all right.
If you are in a relationship with someone, you take on the burden of their code too, IMO. You either live with it, or give up the relationship.

 

[HiDnGoD]

I don't think you are an asshole for cheating. I don't think it is right, but its tough to blame someone. You have been in a relationship a long time, its routine and probably mundane. You love your GF, and your kids, and your life, but at the same time, you crave attention from other women, new pussy excites you. newsflash, you are human.My advice, get counseling, let this out to someone professional. Talk to superdave about sex addiction as well. Who knows, I am not sure I believe in that, but it may be a starting point.

I gotta call bullshit. I've been with my wife for 25 yrs. We've had some ups & downs, but we have never 'cheated' on each other. In fact the past 10 yrs, when I've had the most opportunity, I've been least inclined. Unless you have an open relationship, there should be no one else except your hands. If you are inclined to cheat, then you shouldn't be together. By being in a monogamous relationship you both agree to a particular paradigm. You break that, you are a liar & NOT a man, IMO.
I'm a little hot on this subject because I see so many couples separating because of selfish attitudes. Crak, you are essentially married without the paper. Treat it as such.

1)You gf is not meeting some need(s) you have and you would be happier and wouldnt want to cheat if you were involved with the right girl.
2) You are not ready to be in a monogamous relationship with anyone and it wouldnt matter if your gf had superpussy and was perfect in every way; you'd still cheat.
My feeling is you definitely need to break up with your gf, but you also need to figure out which of these two possibilities is the case with you before you get involved with another girl.

I can't agree with number one. He cheats period. If he cared about her enough & it was afault of hers, they should have communicated. Number 2 is more likely. He'll have to decide

 

[flexygrl]

Holy Shit...I wish I would have seen this sooner...

Man, ummmmn not man...boy, you are a child. You are not a man! You have 2 freaking kids! What the hell is your damage?!?!

Grow the FUCK Up!!!!

If you are going to be a piece of shit leave your girlfriend so you can screw whoever you want and let her find a real man!!!

My ex did the same thing to me. When I found out I left his ass! He lost everything...his wife, his friends, his house....

I saw him about a month ago and he is half the man he use to be. He is destroyed and I am happy about it!

You better hope you didn't give her some disease. You are sleeping with sluts and then bringing it all home to your loyal girlfriend!

You need some serious therapy.