Is it just me???

[under_dawg]

Is it just me...or is it impossible to find a quality girl??? I'm a good looking guy with a good body so i do get hit on all the time...but it seems like every girl i meet is a SLUT! i'm honestly sick of it. Anyone else have this problem. I could probably lay a different girl every night if i wanted but i'm sick of all these dirty girls (not to mention i'm scared of picking up an STD) but more than anything I just want to meet a quality girl who doesn't sleep around....why can't i do this? am i looking in the wrong places? Just venting....
UD

 

[Determined Girl]

just keep looking dawg. They do exist. We women feel the same way about men. And the women you are meeting are probably used to meeting dogs so they probably have the "if-you-can't-beat-em-join-em" attitude.

It also depends on where you meet them too.

 

[PBR]

dawg- no shit!! tho I cant even get the sluts- I just attract fat chicks...did the on-line dating thing for awhile and out of 850 girls, 2 were in great shape....Iam good looking and have a lean musclar body....I tried to eliminate the fat girls (really-fat) by attaching some beach photos-that just made it worse...finally pulled off the sites....in SO-CAL it seems all the hotties want money...I know there are great women out there, it just takes more time to find QUALITY all the way around.....

 

[under_dawg]

Determined Girl just keep looking dawg. They do exist. We women feel the same way about men. And the women you are meeting are probably used to meeting dogs so they probably have the "if-you-can't-beat-em-join-em" attitude.
It also depends on where you meet them too.

I guess that's true...i work as a bartender so i meet a lot of EXTREMELY good looking women...but i'm turned off by the fact that they ask me to go home with them after minutes of talking to me (i'm not gay...trust me)
IS THIS WEIRD?
UD

 

[under_dawg]

PBR: LOL...fat girls....and i know about the hotties after the money, but you probably don't want those girls anyhow!
UD

 

[Determined Girl]

I guess that's true...i work as a bartender so i meet a lot of EXTREMELY good looking women...but i'm turned off by the fact that they ask me to go home with them after minutes of talking to me (i'm not gay...trust me)
IS THIS WEIRD?
UD

It's not you. And it's not weird. I can name a couple reasons why you feel turned off by them asking you to go home with them..

1) There is no challenge. Most guys would love to go through what you are going through......until they actually go through it, and then they would be turned off too.

2) If they are asking you to go home with them that soon then you dont want to fuck with that anyway, because that means if they are asking you to go so soon, there is no telling what others guys they have asked to go home so soon with too.

3.) STDs

4.) Even if you did go home with them and did something with them, one of them might have a crazy boyfriend, or worse a crazy husband and he could come and fuck both of you up for good.

5.)Chances are, they see your outer appearencec and that is all they want. Your brain or your feelings don't exist. You are just a dick attached to a nice body.

6.) Chances are, their pussies are worn out and tainted anyway. What's the point? Because you probabley are'nt the first person they have asked to go home with.


I could go on and on and on......................










and on and on.......

 

[under_dawg]

EXACTLY! so at least i know i'm not crazy cuz all my other buddies think i'm weird for turning them down.....
Now my problem is am i ever gonna meet a quality girl?? what do i have to do to meet one? i'm thinking about giving up looking soon and settle for the sluts....
UD

 

[Determined Girl]

dont settle for sluts. Because you are just going to hurt your self. As a matter of fact, try not to look toward the club or bar for meeting chicks.

Clubs are not really a quality place for that sort of thing Try meeting them elsewhere, like in a grocery store or something.

You don't see too many people going to the grocery store looking to get laid for the night. (Well...maybe some....but that is whole different thread).... Guys like you are extinct, so just chill out for a minute and try not to look so hard.

I Know from experience that you can meet a really nice person when you least expect it.

Patience is virtue....


(I know, I know, I sound like a damn fortune cookie....) but hey, it's the truth.

 

[under_dawg]

...i hope your right...i haven't met anyone that's made me really happy in about 3 years now!! starting to get worried about if it'll ever happen or will i end up old and alone...fuck...i think i'm gonna have a cheat day today LOL

 

[Determined Girl]

Yea, it can get depressing sometimes. A cheat day always helps me out!

 

[Machiavellian Muscle]

Besides you mom and sister they are all sluts.

Most women are sluts just like most men are sluts. Equal rights for men and women leads to more choices which equals sluts on both sides. Women are equal in the United States and have actually more power than us men in regards to sexual encounters. Go to most countries overseas and you can find a really good women because she is not "Americanized". Otherwise stay here bang the carear driven or gold diggin sluts and look for the rare diamond in the rough that you may find.

 

[under_dawg]

I've found this to be the truth, and for this reason I swear I'd never go out with a chick I met at a bar/club.

No shit! i've adopted the same policy! Good to see i'm not the only one!

...so Mackavelli...you're suggesting a mail order bride type thing?

 

[guyver]

There all going to cheat anyways, and most good girls just act that way, and really there worse most of he time, just fuck them all.

 

[under_dawg]

guyver....that's what i'm starting to believe...i was hoping it wasn't the case, but it looks like it may be! I want to know cuz if it is the case i may as well start being a dick and just bang them all. Fuck being a good guy anymore cuz it's gotten me nowhere so far.
UD

 

[PBR]

It is our thoughts alone that cause us pain. Nothing external to your mind can hurt or injure you in any way. There is no cause beyond yourself that can reach down and bring oppression. No one but yourself affects you. There is nothing in the world that has power to make you ill or sad or weak or frail. But it is you who have the power to dominate all things you see by merely recognizing what you are..... Seek not outside yourself.... for all your pain comes simply from a futile search for what you want, insisting on where it must be found....

 

[Puddles]

guyver....that's what i'm starting to believe...i was hoping it wasn't the case, but it looks like it may be! I want to know cuz if it is the case i may as well start being a dick and just bang them all. Fuck being a good guy anymore cuz it's gotten me nowhere so far.
UD

Don't give up. Have you tried places like coffee houses, bookstores, or maybe a co-ed softball league? Take a nightcourse in the local college...some kind of class that women would be in. Go shopping for something for your mom or grandmother and ask a cutie for her oppinion about something...it doesn't have to be clothes, it could be a candle or something simple. Go to home decorating stores...women are in them all the time.

 

[jubei]

How do you know they are all sluts when you just meet them? Answer: You don't.

So far I've gathered that: Your good looking, your a good guy, women are all over you... oh and you're full of shit.

 

[under_dawg]

PBR: wow....that's deep! seriously making me think a little.....
Puddles: i really like the idea about taking the college course, i think i'm actually gonna try that!
Jubei: i'm assuming they are sluts because they are asking me to go home with them and they don't even know me so in my mind that's a slut because who knows how many other guys they do the same thing to...LOL, and how am i full of shit? what part?

 

[Determined Girl]

guyver....that's what i'm starting to believe...i was hoping it wasn't the case, but it looks like it may be! I want to know cuz if it is the case i may as well start being a dick and just bang them all. Fuck being a good guy anymore cuz it's gotten me nowhere so far.
UD

well doing that will get you something worse than nowhere.....

 

[jubei]

I'm not sure what your problem is? You say that you have this terrible affliction of women being magnetically drawn to you and wanting to sleep with you. How are you being a "good guy" by not doing it? Does having sex go against your morals or beliefs?

Asking you to go home with them doesn't make them all sluts. How old are you anyways? As long as you practice safe sex I don't see the dilemma?

 

[under_dawg]

I'm 23 years old...and my problem is that i'd like to find a quality girl! all the girls that i attract are sluts. What makes them sluts is that most have boyfriends and husbands, or sleep with many other guys...
..my main concern is picking up an STD, and the other one is that sleeping with a bunch of random girls doesn't satisfy me (i don't know maybe that;s your kinda thing but not mine)...
...and having a bunch of sluts asking you to go home with them when you're a bartender isn't anything out of the ordinary, and i don't see why it's so hard to believe...on the other hand if i had said i meet these perfect women who are intelligent and concerned with more than how you look and what you drive then i'd call bullshit too!
UD

 

[jubei]

Oh, your a bartender.... Now I get it. Try taking a class or go for coffee. The beach is always good in the summer, as are restaurants. You could even try church or a church related function if you are so morally inclined.

 

[under_dawg]

LOL jubei...you're the man! i've thought about going to church to pick up chicks but somehow it just seemed wrong! i'm glad to see i'm not the only one to think about it...
The taking a class thing seems to be a popular choice....now i guess it's just deciding what to take...
UD

 

[hanned]

You have made me want to hook you up with a friend of mine but now that I think I may have one or two at the most that I would even be able to call good quality relationship type girls. Most girls are brats and complain too much. Not too long before they try to get you to hang out with them instead of go to the gym! That pisses me off sooo bad. It is soo wierd becuase the gym is the last place you would ever want to pick up a girl but just think...if she is there lots and knows what she is doing obviously she respects herself and her body and that says more than most gals out there. But (as there always is one) If it dosn't work out it makes it wierd at the gym, which is the last thing you want. You could go to another gym a few times and scope it out. Or does that go against the grain? Hmm I can't tell It is so much different being a girl but still the nice guys are just as rare. Luckily I found one and thank God every day. Finally don't give up because when you meet her she will be soo impressed that you didn't do the ass hole/slut thing. Don't become the exact type of person you are talking so badly about! Plus I know just as well as you do you couldn't cuz if you ARE the good guy you seem to be you couldn't.
Any chance you are on the north east coast I could try to help ya out! I assume the friends hookin' ya up thing has failed? Try that if not! Lots of luck

 

[under_dawg]

yeah...i think the gym is the worst place because people (at least i know i am) are way to focused and don't want to be bothered when at the gym...
Ya...the friends hooking me up thing never works out...
I'm not on the coast but next time i'm out there visiting i'll definatley let you know!
UD