Is 23 too young to marry?

[Yarg!]

I have been in a good relationship with someone for awhile and marriage has never crossed my mind. I am a college senior and while I really like this girl, I doubt I will get married unless I am financially secured, have my career figured out, have bought a house + a car and ready to start a family. I have a friend who recently got married and she's 23. Shes finished some arts school and so has the guy she married ( I think the guy is way older- like 30 or something). Anyways, I feel that it is way to soon since I doubt she is emotionally ready for a commitment like that. They were dating for about 3 years and had moved in together for about a year. The thing, she has never truly been self reliant and was born with a silver spoon. Her dad paid her monumental education fees and helped support her and her BF while they were together. I really doubt that their combined income (without assistance from her family) comes close enough to buy a house + a car, or enough to truly support a child when it eventually comes a long. In fact, I give this marriage 2yrs at the most. What are your thoughts on people who marry straight out of post secondary school or while they don't have all the kinks worked out yet in their careers?

 

[KillahBee]

Yes. /thread

 

[mrplunkey]

Considering that 95 is too young, 23 should be as well.

 

[75th]

I got married at 23. You get married when you meet the right person and you both think its time. Having preconditions a la gladtiator.1937463 (house, nice car, etc) IMO isnt necessary. Getting married doesnt prevent or delay you from getting those.

 

[t3st]

I got married when I was 23 divorced before I was 24 because the girl I mentioned was in the exact same situation as you mention with the silver spoon and all - great girl but she had no real life experience in handling things on her own and ended up leaving me because she felt like she was missing out on life...

 

[-SD-]

The material conditions you keep mentioning are not the primary indicators of marriage readiness. How about the millions of people who got married dirt poor and stayed married because they bonded because of it, grew together, had nothing and made something, etc. In fact since most younger women marry for financial reasons and not because they actually love the man himself then its better to marry when you have nothing so that you will know she isnt with you just for financial reasons. You dont want that persistent thought of if she would leave should you lose everything. Money may be the #1 reason for divorce but marriages that start out with money and lots of "stuff" then hard times happen and they lose everything are the top reason of divorce because of money. The couples who had nothing when they got married have a strong foundation built on struggle and sacrifice and they have been with each other through the bad times, wheras the couples that married for money dont have that strong relationship when the hard times come, then they end up divorced.

Of course the actual #1 reason for divorce is

marriage.

 

[Inhibitor13]

Prenup !

 

[Cutiebaby]

Uhm I got married young and lasted. Marriage does not have to wait until you are set in a well paying job, own an expensive car, and own a huge house. It is all about you, if you can go the distance and are determined to get these things than you will get them with or without a wife/husband.

 

[kx250rider]

If you're questioning it, I'd say it's your own instinct telling you it's too young.

Charles

 

[Sub-Zero]

I have been in a good relationship with someone for awhile and marriage has never crossed my mind. I am a college senior and while I really like this girl, I doubt I will get married unless I am financially secured, have my career figured out, have bought a house + a car and ready to start a family. I have a friend who recently got married and she's 23. Shes finished some arts school and so has the guy she married ( I think the guy is way older- like 30 or something). Anyways, I feel that it is way to soon since I doubt she is emotionally ready for a commitment like that. They were dating for about 3 years and had moved in together for about a year. The thing, she has never truly been self reliant and was born with a silver spoon. Her dad paid her monumental education fees and helped support her and her BF while they were together. I really doubt that their combined income (without assistance from her family) comes close enough to buy a house + a car, or enough to truly support a child when it eventually comes a long. In fact, I give this marriage 2yrs at the most. What are your thoughts on people who marry straight out of post secondary school or while they don't have all the kinks worked out yet in their careers?

i think some people are prepared, and can make it work (like my parents even though they hate eachother), but sounds like you hit the nail on the head with these d00ches